Argument with the gf

Two stubborn ass people in a relationship makes for a roller coaster ride. If you guys don't have the ability to communicate and compromise I don't see how you could live together. You shouldn't have in the first place lol

On the one hand, yeah, name calling is childish and you clearly lost your temper and did it out of anger so, I think regret is appropriate and maybe apologizing. That kind of reaction is just not constructive.

On the other hand based on how your gf is handling this she very well may be a bitch. She is trying to punish you over this incident where it sounds like you were both a bit at fault and the most appropriate thing would be a mutual apology because you both said hurtful things and work it out and make up, etc.

But it seems like that's really not gonna happen because you're both being stubborn and there is no "bigger person" in this scenario.

Neither of you are in the right because you both fucked up. Both of you need to admit that to compromise and move forward, but it looks like you're both stubborn as fuck and overly proud. Sorry OP.

>>18628827
>>18628842
>>18628851
Makes sense, it's our first fight in over 8 months.

I know this sounds autistic, but is it okay for me to still hold the position that she was acting out of place and in turn I can still think she was a bitch?
I know it's not constructive, but I don't know how to move on if she doesn't think what she was doing was inappropriate. It was beyond inappropriate and I think bitch is a good description of how she was acting. Is it not worth holding that position, even if she still isnt sorry?

>>18628865
If you still want her just drop it apologize and move on. And next time if it happens talk to her without getting emotional. If you can't reason with her get your keys and go get shitfaced. Don't come back until the AM

>>18628865
Listen, after apologizing, talking it out calmly, and explaining why what she said was hurtful and mean and why it made you angry and she STILL insists she did nothing wrong and is not sorry, fucking drop her and never look back.

My last breakup was with a person like that. No matter what they did they would just NEVER EVER admit fault even when they were CLEARLY at fault. People like that are psycho and can't be helped. Even if she isn't necessarily crazy, if she isn't sorry about what she said it just indicates she doesn't give a fuck about how it made you feel so you should drop her anyway.

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>>18628890
Gotcha, well thanks guys, I'm out

>>18628811
Anon women are children. Give them candy and tell them to fuck off. Also unapologetically be yourself. When she's embarrassed about it tell her tough shit. She'll either get wet from your dominance or double down if she does drop her.

>>18628811
>when I talk about things she brings up (political). I have no culture, heritage, etc. so I really find my only identity in building knowledge and hobbies.
>Hearing and seeing her embarrassed of who I am really got to me especially since I support her when she does some pretty embarrassing things in public.

If you're not gone, OP, can you elaborate what happened? It's extremely vague.

>>18628811
Nah, gotta have your boundaries.

Just be clear and consistent on why.

>>18628811
you're being too vague for us to help you with the root issue, and you're being a bitter cunt to your girlfriend instead of solving the problem like a man. I would say you about get what you deserve at this point.

>>18628811
If she made you that angry then chances are that she touched on something that was true and you did not want to hear. Maybe you should ask yourself why you were angry at what she said instead of looking for outside validation on calling your gf a bitch.

Self reflection hurts, the truth cuts like a sword.

>>18628811
>living with someone you're not married to
your own fault bitch