How do I forget a girl I have to deal with constantly?

>>18628643
She does not want you.
Deal with it.
Cut off contact with her in every way you can that does not impede your progress in other areas of your life.
That means telling her to stop messaging you with photos every 20 minutes because even though you like her "you do not like her like that".

>>18628656
This is a huge problem for me. I tried cutting contact completely twice.

It was extremely painful. I felt more pain than being rejected by her now. And she kept chasing me back. She really likes me but "not like that".

If I get things stale between us it'll also damage the group we're leading and I love this group, it's my biggest passion currently and it does wonders for me emotionally.

she just messaged me right now and we're talking about kittens holy shit help

Stop telling yourself things like "She is the love of my life". I bet you're barely out of your teens.

This is what you do:

1) Accept that it's gonna hurt, and be at peace with it. Accepting pain doesn't mean it stops hurting, it means you stop telling yourself that you shouldn't be in pain. it's gonna hurt, suck it up, get on with your life, and it'll fade eventually.

2) Stop making up fantasies in your head about "love of my life", and building this into more than it needs to be. You liked a girl, and she doesn't like you. That's the ultimate fact of this. You can meet other girls, and you'll most likely fall in love again. Your perspective is the most important thing in this.

3) Cease contact. Don't make a big deal of it. If she asks you just say "You know how I feel about you, I need space, can't say how long it's gonna be". Stop leading the group at uni, or at the very least, remove her from your life as much as possible.

>>18628664
Drastically delay your responses to her messages, and if she ever brings it up have a good excuse ready made for it to tell her.
Like you were engrossed in the work for that group or whatever.
Eventually she will get discouraged/bored and move on like you should as well.

>>18628662
If I lose both her and the group I don't know what else can give me emotional support, I'd be knee-deep in depression

>>18628682
That's a good idea actually. I doubt she will care to be honest since I sometimes take a long time to reply and she doesn't complain but eh. I'll try.

She does notice when I visualize it without replying but pulling this systematically would be way too autistic and harsh

>>18628683

Stop telling yourself you wouldn't cope. That's 90% of your problem. How do you know unless you try first? You can join other groups and meet other girls.

>>18628689
Just imagine how harsh it is for you to have to deal with her constant interaction with you even though she emotionally devastated you and continues to traumatize you by having rejected your advances yet still continuing being fairly intimate.
What you "would" be doing is nothing compared to what she "is" doing to you right now.

>>18628697
The best part is that even if she is not a woman for me, she is still a great friend. We shared many great moments. I feel so awful for being unable to cope with our beautiful friendship just because I selfishly want to be even more intimate.

You don't seem to be looking for advice but merely want to talk it over with someone which is all cool but this is not the place for that.

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What a pussy, I thought girls liked cocks

>>18628762
More like I am expecting a sophisticated, painless solution that probably does not exist. Maybe there is no way to get out of this without hurting myself even further and leaving the group but I am still in negation and waiting for a better way out