About a week ago, GF broke up with me after a year and a half.

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About a week ago, GF broke up with me after a year and a half. I've been avoiding the relationship for the past two months so this was bound to happen.

I was pretty torn up about it, but I've been hitting the gym harder, journaling, and staying away from mind-altering substances.

My original plan was to go no contact for 2-3 months, so I could get over her, then meet up in a last-ditch effort to give it another shot.

But last night I realized something. She's been talking about going to grad school, and I actually want something stable and long-term. I didn't understand this explicitly before. We had originally gotten together as a short-term thing, but then we hit it off and fell in love.

I felt a lot better after realizing this, because it explains why I was ambivalent, and why things probably wouldn't work with her either. I'm not 100% over her, but I'm like 80-90% over her.

But, I also feel like taking her to coffee to explain things, in the 1/100000 chance that me actually stating what I want out of a relationship would change her mind. It won't, but it feels like something I should do, because if circumstances were different, she would be the type of person I would want.

I'm sure a week of no contact is too brief, even though I think my emotional state has changed sufficiently. I'm also making other changes to my life but those haven't taken effect yet. So how long should I wait? I'm sure I need to give it some more time to enjoy being single, and also to make sure this isn't some temporary thing.

I'm going to the gym now but I'll be back in an hour or so. Thanks bros.