Are ISPs really this shitty?

>>18626490
1) You sound kind of manic right now, which points to this being more of a "you" problem than an actual interpersonal problem. People don't pull weird conspiracies to "avoid" you or whatever. If they don't want to talk to you they just won't, and will maybe make an excuse about it later (which is not as much of a big deal as you seem to be taking it).

2) If he's really having problems with his internet it's probably ineptitude with managing his modem/router and not Charter literally being out for days at a time multiple times a month. If he wanted to fix it, it would be very easy for him to learn how to do so (probably just needs to unplug the thing and plug it back in), but if he were going to do so he would have by now. So he probably likes it this way, for some reason.

I'd suggest just cooling it. You're not going to get him to change his behavior. You need to decide if you want to put up with it, or if you want to set a boundary and say (for example) "sorry I need more notice if you want to meet up" and see if he can respect that or not. If he doesn't, then you're not compatible and that's the end of the story.

>>18626532
I'm a little wound up about it since I've been waiting for this meetup for months and my virginity might be on the line. Now I fucked up my own computer and I'm going to be touch and go with the mobile app for a few days so I'm worried I'll miss him. I don't know why he would feel the need to make excuses since I've never been needy about it before, just commenting that he had been away for a while. I guess he probably is just wrong about Charter.

>>18626584
Maybe he's nervous about meeting up or doesn't want to for some reason, but is nervous about telling you. You're saying sex is a possibility, so I could definitely understand him getting cold feet about that. If that's the case, it's probably about him and not you. He might be dealing with something else right now and not want to drag you into it or explain it to you.

Your best bet is to make sure he knows how to contact you if he wants to, and to not push him into it so much that it scares him away. I've never met someone I knew online with expectations of sex, but even in friends-only situations I have felt very uncomfortable when people push too hard or seem too invested in it. You should play it cool but friendly. Be open and inviting but not pushy or demanding. If he calms his nerves or gets whatever else he's dealing with over with, he'll reach out.

ISPs are absolutely that bad sometimes, but so are internet "friends", sometimes

>>18626838
Definitely.
I have ghosted on internet people for much longer than 5 days at a time before. Usually because I was dealing with my own shit that I didn't want to mention to people who were otherwise my "escape" from it.

>>18626490
if you use a lot of data they will give you shitty service, like video gaming

>>18626490

I heard a lot of similar shit about Charter when I was in St Louis (they're the monopoly for a lot of the city), so it seems possible.

I've also definitely had to be AFK for > 5days though - between work being shitty and prepping for a trip, he might just be too busy to be online

Service cutting out is nothing unheard of. I've never seen days at a time, but my grandparents neighborhood for example loses their internet access every single day around 4 PM ish. They use Comcast

I wouldn't be surprised if your friend is telling the truth. I guess I understand your suspicions but if this is a lie it's a pretty well thought out one for how realistic it is. I've also heard from people I used to play TF2 with that charter is one of the worst ISPs out there

>>18626490
Yeah no, no way their internet cuts out for DAYS at a time, it's common for shitty third world ISPs to cut out pretty often,(especially during peak hours) but having no service for days at a time isn't really a thing. If anything he would have called his ISP to get that issue fixed, and the ISP would have at least pretended to do something / sent out a tech.