How fast did sex get better for you after your first time?
I just fooled around with a girl for the first time last night. We are both virgins, i'm 25 and she's 22. She couldn't take my dick yet, but she wants us to continue getting to know each other's bodies. We spent about an hour and a half trying to do foreplay; i sucked on her nipples, fingered her, and ate her out. I couldn't get her going very well with my tongue, but I think i got her to cum once with my fingers, because i felt her contracting a bit and she was moaning like crazy. She tried to give me a blowjob but she didn't know how. I had a hard time getting it up because i was nervous, and it was all so different from fapping. So i'm quitting porn now.
Anyways, it was pretty awkward, but we kind of just laughed it off and cuddled half naked over a movie. Occasionally we'd make out again, abd at one point i started fingering her under her panties (which were absolutely soaked), and her moaning and heavy breathing started up again.
It was kind of not so bad for our first experience, but i'm hoping it will get better soon. Any advice?
people usually only reach some sort of sexual maturity after the age of 40. some never.
Haha, I wanna say 3rd or 4th time. Make sure she's wet before trying to penetrate her. And when you do, penetrate her slooooowly and shallowly at first. Fuck her shallowly for a while. Slowly go in deeper till you deep dicking.
>>18618323
What exactly did you learn that made a difference between the first two times and the fourth time?
Was it merely the nervousness that faded or anything else?
>>18618128
where did you get the picture of the Girl and do you know her name?
That sounds pretty fun OP! I think it took me like 1-2 months of occassional sex to really start to get the hang of it, and 6 months to really understand how bodies work etc, just lots of communication and asking what feels good, which parts are most sensitive etc. I was 16 tho.
>>18618387
I agree with this anon.
Based on the frequency we had sex, my ex and me took about a month before getting used to it.
>>18618338
Not him, but it was definitely not nervousness.
You're still scared you'll screw up, or that it will be terrible, but once you get going and reach the end, you realize you worried over nothing.
Things got progressively better from there.
>>18618323
She was soaking before i even touched her, but her pussy wouldn't open up very much. She said more than 1 of my fingers hurt her.
Depends on the person.
My first time wasn't bad... I busted quick and was rough on the insertion but my second entry lasted long and was normal.
Honestly it's more about how fit you are
Actually when my girl was still friend with benefits it wasn't that great. After dating and emotional connection it got much better. Communication is key. Ask each other what you want to feel good.
It will take a while to get the hang of things. But the best tips I can give you for getting her off are:
1. Ask her how she gets herself off and emulate that movement.
2. Keep a steady pace when you find a spot she likes. Maybe she likes her clit touched a certain way, or maybe a certain spot inside her stimulated, but once you find it don't change what you're doing! Porn makes it look like you have to constantly switch up what you're doing but that will throw off her orgasm.
3. Remind her that she can take as long as she needs to get off and you're happy to please her. Just like guys feel pressure to last long girls feel pressure to get off quickly. Just make it clear you're happy to be there.
4. Keep sex lighthearted and have fun. Congrats on getting laid breh!
>>18618454
Well said Anon. Pay attention OP!
>>18618128
>How fast did sex get better for you after your first time?
Depends who you're with, I didn't ever really take off with my first gf for 2 years. Until I got my second and saw that I was actually doing everything right, and she was a frigid starfish
It's always getting better. I'm 30 this year, 12 having sex and 9 with my current gf, and I can notice improvements all the time. I'm cumming so hard that I actually spasm and moan aloud like one of those crazy female orgasms (except in a manly way ofc, no homo)
I'd also go out of your way to set up a good atmosphere beforehand. Clean your place, make sure it smells good, dim lights (the candle meme is real), set up your couch/bed in a way that you can both easily get comfortable without having to fumble around once things get moving, etc. Quitting porn is also a good idea, good luck.
Id saaaay the 4th time. The first few times id be sore and it hurt down there. Now its like a custom fit!