My boyfriend of 3 years would rather play video games than have sex

Doubt that he has a lower sex drive, he just got tired of sex with you

Unless you find ways to spice it up, porn is always more variety

>>18616200
get a bf that is sexually compatible with you

>>18616204
I offered to dress up for him which he usually loooooves but he said he didn't feel like sex today...

He loves to watch sexy ASMR videos.

It makes me really upset that he doesn't want to have sex with me because I'm really horny. I wish he would offer to get me off at least. Is that too much to ask?

>>18616220
its not too much to ask. you should ask and promptly dump him if he doesn't agree

>>18616246
Ride his dick while he's sitting on the couch playing. I don't care who you are, if he denies that he's cheating or your turned him gay.

>>18616269
He would ¯\_(ツ)_/¯


On a side note, why does being rejected make me want to fucking kill myself as the only solution

I hate life

I dated a guy I met off tinychat (first mistake) when I was 18-21, and we lived together. He was addicted to video games and got disinterested in sex. Was pretty tragic. He never wanted to do anything but game, and it was like pulling teeth to get him to go out or do anything with me. We went to dinner once the entire three years. I eventually left him because I'd fucking had it.

There's not a ton you can do. Get in shape. Lose 10 pounds if you need to. Nagging won't help. If him getting you off would solve the problem, then talk to him about it, that's very reasonable to expect your partner to get you off if they expect you to be monogamous. He doesn't need to cum if he doesn't feel like it.

>>18616278
I am attractive, he just has a low sex drive and is tired from working a physical job. WE go out a lot and do stuff. But desu once a week is just not enough for me. Thanks for your feedback though, it is helpful. I just wish he was more willing to reach out when I tell him I am horny and be like "I don't feel like having sex but I can help you if you want". I've told him i wish he would offer that btw. but it's like a fucking brick wall and I am so sexually frustrated. I miss being polyamourous because the solution is much easier?! But he doesn't want to be poly either (cause low sex drive os why would he care he doesn't want to persue other ppl and is jealous...........)

>>18616271
It's a bad feeling. I remember there were so, so many late nights where my ex would just stay up gaming even though he knew I loved cuddles. We rarely hung out because he was just ALWAYS on the fucking computer and then when he wouldnt even hold me for a while at night... that was probably the last straw. It is a truly horrible feeling and I'm not sure I know how to impart the way to overcome it onto you. I've thankfully been able to because I just don't desire to feel that way when those situations arise. It's a choice of being logical- where you identify how you feel and then actively decide you don't want that. Practice it, it helps immensely.

>>18616269
This

If proactively seeking for sex isn't doing it, it's time to think it it's worth staying in a relationship that doesn't fulfill your needs. You might also be sexually incompatible, it usually shows up after a while

>>18616286
Is that why you ended it? Sounds awful, sorry you had to deal with that.


>>18616288
The problem is we are like... 90% sexually compatible. But 10% of the time feels so big in moments like this. I don't want ot just masturbate to weird porn again. It has to be weird or else I remember that I"m masturbating just because I was rejected.

>>18616285
I know that feeling. I am a 9/10 literal model and my ex was an overweight 6- he still got tired of having sex with the same person, it's normal. Honestly? Try writing him an email. Some people really dont hear words (audio) the same, and I've found when I run into communication problems, using written text is best. When you speak, all he hears is tone. In an email, he might really get it. Explain in detail that this is a Real Fucking Problem and you need his help.

>>18616298
One of many reasons. And yea I totally get that. I started fapping to cuck stuff (female cucked) after he cheated on me to deal with it. Honestly just tell him that,
>I don't want ot just masturbate to weird porn again. It has to be weird or else I remember that I"m masturbating just because I was rejected.

>>18616301
It's not a bad idea... We live together though so it's a bit weird to do. Something about an email feels manipulative as well... but idk... I'll consider that.

I don't have like a fucked sex drive either. I would happily have sex every day or two but like... twice a week minimum. Some amorous help might be an ok replacement for one night but it's not the same, i have a hard time getting off if i know he doesn't desire to have sex with me.

>>18616298
If it feels like that, it sure isn't only 10%. Compatibility isn't only about having matching tastes in bed (which he apparently doesn't, or he'd reach to you more often), but also about having compatible drives

Also, I've read that he works on a physical job. That's not an excuse for every single time, but what does he do? Do you offer to be more dominant and do all the work riding him and such, so that he only needs to enjoy?

Boners and hornyness work parallely to physical tiredness, at least in my experience. I might be dying of tiredness from something but my dick is aching to get off. In those times, my gf usually does the hard work, or we postpone to the earliest opportunity after we rest.

>>18616309
lmao. I have told him something similar once a few months ago. not the weird porn part but just the lonely masturbating to try and just fucking deal with the horniness. he seemed effected by it at the time but apparetly has forgotten. which makes me p angry. and want to fucking die apparently because my brain is worthless at dealing with rejection. dont worry i wont tell him that bit i'm just ranting here. i know thats manipulative as shit.

>>18616312
maybe a handwritten letter then. the benefit is that your frustration won't creep into your voice in a letter, and that can make conversations ineffective. when people hear anger their automatic reaction is to oppose.

>>18616315
even every day is very normal. tell him exactly this
>i have a hard time getting off if i know he doesn't desire to have sex with me.

>>18616200
Your boyfriend is like my gf then. Just cheat on him. That's what I do. He's cheating on you with the vidya already anyways.

>>18616394
honestly, if you can swallow that pill with no qualms and keep it way the fuck on the DL, that's a reasonable solution. if he never finds out its like it never happened. if you cant live with the guilt youll have to actually fix your relationship though.

>>18616394
This is fucking horrible advice. Break up with him if it bothers you that much, but don't cheat.

>>18616220

>I wish he would offer to get me off at least. Is that too much to ask?

You are not entitled to sex. Grow up. You sound like a desperate seventeen year old boy.