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I've been told for a long time that "faking it until you make it" is key if you want to build confidence. Well I've been doing that for 3 years now, started lifting weights for the same time, tried to fix my stutter, and just generally faking my entire demeanor.
None of it has made any difference. I still feel like the fat wimpy kid I was in grade school. I'm so tired of trying to make this whole "being a decent person" work.
How did you guys build your confidence? Did you have it from birth or did faking it until you made it work?
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>>18615372
>Did you have it from birth or did faking it until you made it work?
Nobody is born a man. Men are made, not born.
That said, there are a few things that can hold you back. I also had this exact situation in my life, and I only started to make real progress when I realised that I had a neurochemical problem. Specifically, low dopamine.
You might have some form of addiction your life which is downregulating dopamine - for me it was video games, pornography, and an extreme sensitivity to caffeine. Alternatively, you might have some sort of mental illness or trauma that is affecting your confidence on a subconscious level, and this needs ironing out. That could also find its root in a neurochemical imbalance.
The good news is, when you finally fix your brain, you'll make incredible fast progress - because you've done all the mental work and studying how to be successful, you just haven't been able to apply it. Everything will click into place very quickly.
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>>18615372
Spend 5 minutes every day talking to yourself and telling yourself you're a badass, naming all the good qualities you have. I'm not joking. Do it.
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>>18615390
Okay
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