My boyfriend let me use his laptop to upload a demo video I recorded for work. When I went to upload the video, it had a list of recent videos as a suggestion. A lot of them were of his ex girlfriend.
He loves getting sexy videos and I hate making them, but I do them for him. This makes me feel really shit, like why did I bother?
We've been together 4 years and ge keft her to be with me, so I don't feel any threat or jealousy. I'm just really upset I did something I didn't really want to, to make him happy; and he's watching his ex.
I don't know how to approach this. I don't like to talk about stuff when I'm emotional about it.
Pic is a screen from a video
>>18609902
I sympathize with your situation, but cannot offer any advice.
But please note that /adv/ is an sfw board.
>>18609902
just tell him how you feel. no sense beating around the bush or keeping it inside.
now, if you would kindly post moar before they all get deleted
My intial, enotional reaction is to make his dream video, show it to him on my phone then delete it. Then tell him he didn't need it anyway he has his ex's videos. That will kick him where it hurts, but is it too vindictive?
Maybe just don't make him anymore vids and let him get his jerkoff material elsewhere. He's constantly sharing me on /b/ , so I know he loves what I give him. I'm just so angry about it.
Need some rational input, any advice is appreciated
>>18609910
Ahh sorry, I didn't realise it was sfw.
>>18609902
So, you had your childish revenge posting a little bit of her video on the web. We can go on:
thing is if you don't like being emotional when you talk about stuff that is important to you on an emotional level, there is a problem. You and your bf don't know how to properly communicate on a deeper level. Probably you did not even try.
Wonderful boobs, anyway. And I cannot see really the point in making this videos. Fucking porn..
>>18609926
>Maybe just don't make him anymore vids and let him get his jerkoff material elsewhere
I would say that's the better answer. And if he asks you why you don't do them tell him if you want to bring it up, or you can just have that knowledge and tell him you just don't like doing them.
I will say though that she does have some pretty nice tits, at least the side view from the one.
>>18609902
his ex has some nice tits
>>18609938
That's my video, sorry I should have stated.
I'm a logical person, but if I'm enotional, it takes about 2days to separate what is influenced by emotion and what is rational. There's no point in discussing things when one person isn't rational.
We've been together 4 years and have no problems communicating. I just need to cool off before I can discuss something logically.
I masturbate to my ex jacking his dick off all the time. Won't be deleting it. Sorry if I ever date anyone in the future. It is what it is.
>>18609941
>>18609945
My tits from my video, that he is passing over for an A cup. That's what I meant by not threatened by her. Just pissed off I made an effort to make him videos at all.
>>18609941
Thanks for the advice (again MY tits haha!). Seems like the least satisfying method, I want him to kick himself for the situation. But maybe that is my emotional side coming out.
When we're doing sex stuff, he'll ask if he can film it. I let him use my phone, so I can check first if my face isn't showing.
Thinking maybe letting him film something that makes him think birtgday and xmas have come at once. Then delete it and tell him why. Too petty?
>>18609949
Don't mind. You have a great pair of boobs. Would love to kiss those.
Coming back to advice: I'm a logical person too: if you cool down, he probably will get past your arguments, simply because there is no dick who is going to understand and actually act like "ok she is right, I'll dump these photos/videos". He could even resent you for your words. If you actually show that your words came from you feeling betrayed, it's a different story. Maybe he will understand.
>>18609978
He usually responds with a 'poor me' argument. We were apart for a few weeks, I'm betting his excuse will be. "I was so sad and lonely without you I just wanted something familiar". He's not the best at arguments, usually goes for the pity angle.
He will resent me, you're right about that. Maybe it could be good to steal his pity tactic and say how much it hurts. Which it does.
No one is getting on board with my revenge ideas, so I'm taking it as a sign to act calmly. Damn I wanted to make him suffer tho!
Discussing feelings it is then.
>>18610005
I would say, revenge and then discuss. Have fun and then get serious.
Howewer, try to delete these videos because if they are more appealing than Your boobs it means that they contain some serious stuff. Lol
>>18610005
That's not a "poor me" argument that's a manipulation tactic to turn the problem off of him and onto you.
Find a better man.
Last suggestion before going to bed.
What if he's trying to make you jealous to make you do things his gf did in these videos?
Don't forget to bump the thread to let us know how the story ends
Find a Better man
>>18610038
They're pretty dull, but eye of the beholder and all that. She's two sizes fatter than me with 3 cups smaller boobs. This is me being petty actually. I won't delete anything, it's his computer and his property. Feels wrong to do that.
But thanks for the revenge go ahead, I will sleep on it.
Every single man who has received nudes, after breaking up, kept them unless they were deleted in a cathartic "fuck her" moment. I have nudes from like 4 exes ago I still look at. Every guy I know will do this, it's not you, it's just how men brains work
>>18610044
Yeah he's a master of doing that, he only does it when he has no argument out of defence and it doesn't fly with me.
>>18610060
Nah they are really tame, he really covered his tracks on them. Just used a new program to edit and upload my work demo video and it pulled them from who knows where. I'd never have found tgem by looking.
>>18610066
Ahh this is interesting. So why would you look at an ex who's quite plain conpared to your gf? Just a reminiscing fap?