How/when do I break up with my gf

Have you actually talked to her about things you said here or you just keep it inside until you get to the point of nuclear meltdown?

>>18609211
No idea about what to say but if you simply can't handle this weakling faggotry anymore then you definitely need to break up with her ASAP. She'll either kys or grow the fuck up and choosing between these is needed.

>>18609221
This is the problem because with some things she's really good, like she'll admit she can be too sensitive and needy but with other things like her pushing me away with the 'You're gonna meet someone else' shit.. it's the same response every time which is basically 'I don't feel on your level, loads of other girls like you and I'm just average.. blah blah'

She's a girl with low-self esteem, super sensitive and has an anxiety disorder and bouts of depression. It's such a frustrating mix because there's times my heart breaks for her, but other times I want to shout at her and tell her to pull herself together.

I've gone from really like how she makes me feel and I've changed so much for the better since getting with her but slowly overtime she's kinda dragged me down with her and now I'm nearly always irritable and going to bed in bad moods and having to send her mountains of text to cheer her up on an almost daily basis.

>>18609252
This changes the situation a bit but it still is basically the same - decide for yourself about what to do. It is good that she can admit it but admitting a problem does not equal fixing it. Are you becoming either aggressive or a pathetic weakling like her ? If so then I would advise you to break up, but what do I know. Wait for somebody with some tips on how to explain this to her. My mother is like this and it has scarred my personality pretty fucking badly when I was younger but I've mostly fixed myself since and can be considered as a normal human now. My point in telling you this is that this pathetic behavior can hurt other people too, which is why considering a break up is a good idea.

>>18609252
Okay i had a case similar to that, ended it after almost 4 years. Imo dont break up before her birthday, a week or so after it have a talk about everything wrong with your current situation.
Do not boost her insecurities by talking same shit over n over again, tell her smth like if you hadnt ran after 2 years you are probably not kind of guy whos life resolves around boob size n shit like that but be sure to put an end to it and just shrug it off if she tries to bring it up again.

Now if you had serious conversation give her some time, people dont change over night. Be there for her. If behaviour improves over time, bingo! If not dumpland is the only solution. Although pay attention to how she feels and behaves, she might quit bothering you with nonsense but if she didnt really get over it, it will eat hrr from inside making her sad/depressed -> conversation -> observe -> if no improvement again dumpland.

Break up part is gonna be tough, state your reasons and be prepared for all kind of shit. Expect lots of tears, beging, i will change promises, suicide threats are not excluded n all other kind of bullshit. Try to calm her down to some degree but do not change your mind.
She will probably break down but you may be doing her a favour since she has a chance to get her self together.

>>18609252
I broke up with my gf over similar issues. Basically her being defensive and never admittng she was wrong over anything. I wish I would have insisted she go to therapy instead of breaking up with her. I went to counseling after we broke up, and within 4 sessions my disposition and personality has changed a lot for the better. But that bridge has been burned now.

Talk to her about going to see a counselor, and when she agrees to it, schedule the appointment for her. My gf agreed she needed professional help, but she never got around to make an appointment. I wish I would have taken it into my hands and scheduled one for her, but I didn't. I got frustrated and left. You can always leave, but you can't go back. She doesn't seem like a bad person, and you don't seem to resent her, more like you're at your wits end. So I recommend her trying counseling and then if she doesn't improve you can make a decision, and with more confidence.