Why do delusional overly affectionate people cling to a cold, emotionally unavailable person? How do you deal with these kind of people?
It seems I only attract people that shower me in affection I never ask for and think that because I spend a couple of months hanging out with them, listening to their crappy life story and feelings and laughing together they automatically assume they're such an important person in my life?
Heck, I even tell them I'm not the special person they've been looking for as they claim I am, that we have no future together, I never claim to love them or even make plans for the future that includes them. Yet they're still so sure I love them back. They're sure because they're certain they know me because they have seen my social persona which is friendly and politely warm/bubbly.
And it's a hell of a mess when reality finally creeps up on them. And I end up being demonized for "leading them on".
i know it sucks to having to deal with those needy leeches.
you know what sucks even more? realizing that your way of dealing with human relationships is just as insane. you might not realize it yet, but it will be your biggest challenge in this life. good luck.
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>>18608526
Never stated I was a sane or normal personal in my dealings with people, but that's exactly the reason I try to keep things clear.
I'm not particularly keen on raining on others' parade, but I use these shitty reminders to help them not invest in me or waste their time and resources without knowing what they're getting into. They just refuse to listen.
People in love are selfish, scary and dumb. And then they point the finger at you
it's happened to me a few times. Guy who had a crush on me in school said he stopped himself from killing himself because of me.. and i'm like ok? like I don't really do much lmao. It's not nice to see them clinging onto you though especially when you feel you don't deserve it or just know it won't work. weirdly, the current relationship i'm in started off like that, my bf had feelings for me, i didn't feel the same for like what, 6 months after he told me? and through these 6 months we'd do sexual things and stuff and i'd just be like enjoying it for the thrill, made me feel like a cunt lol. and now we've been together for 2yrs. it's weird asf. I am a boy which is the weirdest part, no girl has feelings for me but a lot of boys do and its a lil peculiar.
>>18608509
You are sent them because your are the other polar extreme. They exist to even you out, and in turn for you to do the same. You match perfectly because you are both defective in this manner, so you meld well and draw such people in.
>>18608509
I'm assuming you're female. It's probably because of your "warm bubbly" polite ways. They're attracted to it, because you probably seem inviting, so they feel like they can tell you their problems and life story. But it's not entirely your fault, they have issues of their own to pursue you this way and not listen when you tell them nothing will happen.