I just got diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.

>>18607933
You're not a narcissist go larp on /b/

>>18607996
Are you a psychologist?

>>18608016
Yes I am

>>18607996
But annon a doctor, my relatives and my gf are telling me that I am. Who is in right now? Fuck I don't know what to believe anymore.

>>18607933
NPD is just a label, not a death sentence. All it means is that you have a history of not showing much sympathy or empathy for others. Work at changing and you will slowly change.

>>18608074
Is there a way to learn more emphaty? I'm often accused of being cold-hearted. I thought I understood people to some degree.

>>18607933
Watch my hero academia. I'm not even kidding. I've never recommended an anime to someone for help, but watch it with your problems in mind. Just trust me.

>>18608107
I'm already on ep. 12. What lesson am I supposed to learn from it?

>>18608093
Make the effort to actually listen when people talk about their feelings. Imagine what it would feel like if YOU felt like that. What would help or comfort you? Offer that.

This is one of those things that you will start off doing artificially, without really caring. But the more you do it, the more you will exercise your "empathy muscles" and the more natural and real it will become.

(That's what those of us who have offered you serious non-trolling advice have been doing - hearing your unhappiness, imagining ourselves feeling the same, and trying to offer advice that would work for us)

>>18608193
Big thanks to you annon. This is what I was looking for. I need a starting point. Not knowing which options I have is depressing.

Emotionally stunted displays similar symptoms of NPD. Sounds more like you OP.

>>18608206
I'll ask the doc about it.

>>18607933
>>18608051
It's hard to confirm whether or not you are one through the internet

>>18608283
Well after hearing some stories how other NPD patience treat there relatives and relationship.... I'm starting to believe it. I've done a lot of abusive shit annon without feeling guilt. I even thought that others are at fault for my outbursts and abusive behaviour. I only get this insights when I'm stoned and suddenly understand how actually people feel. Sober I'm just a self promoting manipulativ asshole.

>>18608223
I don't think there's necessarily a cure your doctor can give you to cure your underdeveloped emotions. Therapy may help.

>>18608152
that you'll never super powers.

>>18607933
Yes, that describes me pretty well even tho I have never been diagnosed with anything because my therapist didn't believe in diagnosis
I just started drawing, took classes even since I can afford it.
It doesn't keep me happy but it makes me happy when I get better at it and miserable when I get worse

>>18608093
Why would you want to?
Low empathy people achieve success more often than regular people because caring about everyone around you is a big burden
If you don't have empathy that means you don't care that you don't have empathy
I think your problem is that you are too comfortable, I don't know where you are getting money to support yourself but if it's someone else giving it to you then you could start by getting rid of that

>>18609530
I mean sure if you're okay with going through life a lonely piece of shit with no regards for others.

>>18609558
thats kind of what having low empathy means

>>18609593
Yeah, but the anon was asking how to increase empathy and that was the response. Had to add my statement in there.

>>18609597
if you could live the rest of your life without needing 8 hours of sleep every day or 4 bathroom breaks would you?

>>18609601
Hell no. Sleeping is a great temporary escape.

>>18609625
i didnt mean no sleep just not 8 hours
something like 4 hours of deep sleep would be a lot better, your body only needs the rem sleep anyways

>>18607933
do be narcassistic

>>18609628
Still no. Having 20 hours in the day awake? ew.

>>18609530
I don't actually think that I live a comfortable life. My job isn't comfortable, too.
Why am I caring about my empathy? Cause I want to built a family one day. Atm I am by far not qualified to be a parent. I also feel absolutely lonely, even though I have a gf. She's pretty distant towards me these days and I'm 100% to blame for it. I had 4 relationships and I have never felt intimate. I treated them like my pet than an actual human being. Sex was pretty degenerate, too. Is this how you treat the mother of your children? I've been always a success driven, manipulating hard working asshole. Now I'm questioning myself for what? I always thought that power and fame is something you automatically work towards, too. That succcess is the only thing that determines a man. Did it make me happy? I have been depressive for quit a while now and I'm not feeling that it's worth living... so why not change something. I got nothing to lose.

OP here is the old thread from /fit/ if someone cares. >>>42459480 I think I got a lot of feed back and tips how to change things. Time will show if I can fight myself.

>>18607933
what is narcissistic personality disorder?
I am a narcissist but since when is it a disorder?

>>18607933
NPD isn't curable. It's a part of your personality and it pervades everything you do. Really look at your behavior. Why did you make this thread? To feed your need for attention. For the feeling of people looking on you as unique. Maybe for the feeling of people thinking of you as dangerous.

You don't fix it. This is what you are. Try your best to be as self aware as you can and minimize putting yourself in shitty situations. Ultimately, you're just going to have to try and minimize the shitty feelings that come with this. You won't ever be able to feel empathy or connect with someone like a normal person, so try to focus on something that'll be more productive.

>>18609722
See? You you you. This is all navel gazing nonsense. You only care about attention and recognition. You can try to dress it up, but that's all it comes down to in some form or another.

Focus on your work. That's where you'll find the most happiness in life.

>>18609750
Thanks anon. This made me think.

>>18609750
>Thinking work is where you'll find happiness.

Good one

>>18609530
Low empathy is correlative to success, no causative. The thing that determines success is purely your ability to be smart and make friends with people. Sometimes lacking empathy helps in that, but's not universal. Autistic people lack empathy, but are usually very unsuccessful.

>>18609756
For someone with NPD, this is true. For anyone else there are other things in life. But with someone who's pathologically inclined to try and gain recognition and attention, what else is there? A family life is just going to be hellish.

>>18609761
This. Yet instead they're NEETs with no friends or gfs.

Something I would recommend that helped me is meditating. Did down relax and expand your mind, disconnect yourself from your ego and take notice that even though we may think we have the best opinion we can still learn from other people because they see the same problem through a different angle. It's not till you can understand other people that you can understand yourself. At the end of the day we are different people with different opinions but doesn't mean we can't coexist get along with the things we do agree on. Know your opinion is your own and try to better that by listening to others point of view. You won't know the best answer till you've heard them all

>>18609737
That is exactly what someone with NPD would say, well done anon

I kind of empathize with OP but I'm a bit different

I'm married but have no friends. I have zero interest in anything other than attractive people of the opposite sex, porn, my hobbies/intellectual pursuits and money. I've tried hanging out with people of the same sex as me but I never enjoyed it.

Generally I'm working or thinking about work 13 hours a day on the weekdays and just waiting for time to pass on the weekends. My hobbies aren't that time consuming so there really isn't much else to do. Too bad being rich doesn't get you cute friends (even if you're attractive).

>>18610719
You sound like a bit of a fucked up dude, but not a narcissist.

You can feel like a fuck up but at the same time feel like you're always right, and that your situation is the result of others rather than your own mistakes. It means you aren't taking responsibility for your lack of successes in life and instead shifting the blame on others.

Low empathy is the least of your problems if you have NPD. Lots of normal, mentally healthy people are very low empathy. It's not a bad thing.
With NPD you probably have lower empathy than even people who are very low in empathy, which is a problem for sure if you're totally oblivious to how other people feel, but I doubt it's as big a concern as your ego issues, especially when it comes to dealing with criticism. Coming to a place like this is pretty good for someone with NPD

>>18607933
I've never been diagnosed with NPD but I think I'm definitely a narcissist-I'm always bored, almost non-existent moral compass, constantly need to feel like I'm on top of the world and the only thing that can divert me away from this self-destructive path is my passion in life. So I spend most of my days creating, learning and trying to fake it until I make it.

I sent this thread to my ex because it related to him and he blocked me :(