How much of a turn off is it if the person you're interested

don't worry, your upbringing probably fucked you up enough to not get considered dating material to sane people anyways. just go with the flow.

>>18607570
Am I doomed to crazies for the rest of my life?

Honestly I don't expect anyone perfect. I even feel relieved if the person I date says they're also not close to their family either.

I guess I'm just trying to gauge my overall chances with most people. It's not like I don't get asked out, but I always seem to find myself attracted to people who end up having close families. I'd usually give it a go anyway, but I always wonder what it's like for the other person to be with someone like me.

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It's hit or miss. Basically I'd mostly consider how valid it is, or if you're just being dumb and digging your heels in. The lack of interest in a family will also be a deal breaker for many people.

>>18607587
you will only get with people with the same level of issues. usually, the issues THEY are having are in the opposite direction. don't worry, that's how humans work. the trick is to use those opposite issues to grind them down into some kind of sane middle ground together. iow, you'll mostly attract people who have co-dependent relationships inside their family. they might seem "close", but in reality they are just as fucked up.

>>18607594
Ah ok. That makes sense. Guess I can't blame 'em.

>>18607599
I've started to kinda notice that, haha. Although I wouldn't want to date someone quite as fucked up as me. I feel like if both people in the relationship were fucked up then it would just be toxic as hell. And thanks, that makes me feel a little better.

>>18607613
it's not a joke... people who are saner than you will be repulsed by your issues. same for you. you wouldn't date someone with heavier issues than yourself. you consider them the "filth of humanity/bottom of the barrell". you can not possibly date someone who has smaller issues than you. they might be entirely different and better hidden, but don't be fooled.
anyways, it's not a problem. ofc the further down the "issue laddr" the two of you are, the bigger the obstacles you willhave to overcome to reach an acceptable level of sanity. yes, that means that the bigger your own issues are, the bigger the possibilty of you having a rather insane relationship. the only way to get out of this is by working on your issues and actually overcome them. but it doesn't matter if you do that whilst you're still single or with your partner. it's only a problem if just one of both works on their personal issues. that normally ends in them going separate ways at some point.
other than that, it is a lot easier to reach new levels of sanity when you're in a relationship since your partner usually shows you exactly where the issues are. (the things you always argue over are the stuff you need to focus your attention on). you might stay blind to them if you're single. possibly forever.