Beginning Self-Improvement

>>18604261
Well mostly because I live at home but I feel like I have no one here I can tell this sort of stuff to. When I have in the past, because I've had difficulties with this before (trying and then failing), if I ever wanted to vent about my plans like how I'm planning to be better and how I'm going to do it and all of my thoughts and fears and excitement etc about it, they'd just say something along the lines of "you're not gonna do that" or "oh, you're just going to go back to doing what you usually do" or some other negative, defeatist thing. Which hurts because they're my family, but what can you do? I wish I could just be open and honest about it but really, if I say stuff and that happens it just makes me feel like shit, and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. I feel like I can't actually do it because no one supports me emotionally and then I just end up like "ahhh fuck it" and go back to being an asshole basically.

But I wanted to tell someone, and I can do that anonymously here, so here I am. I just wanted to tell someone that I'm at the very start of being on track to not being an asshole anymore. I want to ideally be productive from when I wake up until dinner time, so that then after that I can have my unproductive stuff to do like play video games knowing that I accomplished stuff and got closer to completing my goals earlier that day. Eventually, probably starting next week, I plan on taking dieting and exercise more seriously. I've already been doing pushups almost every day for the past month, up to 50 a day now which feels good, I want to get up to 100 and then start doing other exercises. Build up to doing a half an hour to an hour of exercise every day ideally, that's my long-term goal. Probably going to reduce my daily caloric intake to around 1500 for awhile, or at least 2000, see how that goes. Eat less and exercise more, in short. Hope things work out, just wanted to vent.

Good job for recognizing these bad habits within yourself and starting a plan to change them.

I'm currently doing the same. Best of luck to you OP.Take it one day at a time.

>>18604261

I think the key is surrounding yourself with people who share similar motivations.

With that said, that's easier said than done.

I'm very interested in starting or joining some sort of self improvement group for men. Sort of like a mastermind group that entrepreneurs would attend, but more general and focused on personal development.

I also recommend looking into mini habits. The idea is to pick up to four key habits you want to focus on, find a way to reduce the scope of each habit so much that they can all be finished in less than 10 minutes.

By requiring very little of yourself, you'll ensure that you never break the chain. You'll meet your minimum requirements every day. And most days, you'll massively overshoot. Because once you start something, you'll feel more motivated to finish it.

So, if your habit is "one push-up," you'll have no trouble meeting that minimum every day. And most days, you'll massively overshoot. You'll start with one push-up and wind up working out for 90 minutes.