>literally the third time in my three-year relationship that

don't hurt anyone

>>18603768
Someone has to lose. It's either going to be me, my girlfriend, or another woman.

>>18603778
if it's to the point that another woman stands to lose then your girlfriend already has

>>18603778
I don't understand this. I flirt with chicks all the time, even though I'm married, but it never goes beyond friendly/witty banter. I would never allow it get to the point that someone would get hurt. Even if I didn't have a ring, by the time a chick asked for my number, I would just say, "I don't think my wife/gf would like that. Sorry."

>>18603800
then you are an asshole tease, top kek, the male equivalent of a bitch

>>18603809
It's not my fault if a chick interprets me wanting to have a fun time with me being interested in dating her.

>>18603781
What I'm trying to say is, this is the third time I've gone through this thought process. Maybe it just means I'm not happy in my relationship

>>18603819
Or maybe it means that you let shit get too far, and, unless you correct yourself, you always will.

>>18603819
maybe so. allow me to ask the obvious question: are you unhappy in your relationship?

>>18603819
i think he means whoever the next girlfriend ends up being assuming the current one doesn't work out...and then the next after that one and so on and so on

>>18603820
Nah, I know where I stand. I don't cheat. It's just the jump across that scares me, deciding to break up and dealing with the logistics etc.

>>18603825
Not really, I'm perfectly _content_. To be brutally honest, I feel like I could do better. But I would never say that out loud to anyone. It's just horrible because sometimes I feel like I'm in the relationship because of her, not because of me. She's so sensitive, I feel like it would kill her if we broke up.

>>18603886
>Nah, I know where I stand. I don't cheat. It's just the jump across that scares me, deciding to break up and dealing with the logistics etc.

No, you just take things far enough to where you have a sure thing, and then jump ship. It's not that what you have is bad, it's just you have no real loyalty to anyone but your animalistic desires.

>>18603906
Sounds like I'm a sociopath desu.

>>18603906
>>18603913
Sidenote, this has never been about "animalistic desire." What I'm talking about is having a connection, a strong spark with other people that is a lot stronger than my current relationship. I've ignored and ghosted the other two because I thought it was the right thing to do; but this time I'm noticing a trend, and feeling that don't die.
I've known the latest woman for a few years, but haven't seen her for a while. I saw her last weekend amongst other friends, and I was SO SURE I wouldn't feel anything weird. Instead, all the old feelings came flooding back and we hit it off really well.

>>18603926
Everyone feels a "strong spark" at the beginning of any new relationship between two people who are attracted to each other. You're just chasing the Honeymoon Phase.

I mean, do what you want. Dump your gf, and give her a chance to find someone that will actually appreciate her. She deserves that, at least.

>>18603933
You're awfully dismissive considering you're trying to give advice. Surely after almost two years of knowing someone, it's no longer the honeymoon phase? I know what you mean, but my gut says otherwise. Unfortunately, that's all I have to go on - hence asking for advice.

>>18603944
You've been in a romantic relationship with the new chick for 2 years? Otherwise, no, you haven't entered the honeymoon phase.

Again, I'm recommending that you leave the chick. She's only got so many years to nab herself a guy, and if you aren't wanting to stick around, you're only doing her a disservice.

You aren't that special, even if she thinks you are.