Cutting Off a Friend

>>18600433
If you never liked this guy then it is better to be honest. Let him think you are an asshole, who cares. It would be better than making him think you give a shit for years and dicking him around. That is way worse.

On the other hand you mentioned you used to be like him. If you were good friends with this person at one point but your life improved and his has not; which caused you to no longer like him because he is an embarrassment to your new clique. Then yes, you are a legitimate asshole.

>>18600468
Alright, I'll tell him. If he finds out 10 years later that I never liked him that will probably sting harder. I just don't know what to say? I don't care if he thinks I'm an asshole, but it would hurt me to know that I may ruin his summer. Also paraphrasing and padding a polite speech that essentially translates to "I don't want you to come near me." just sounds wrong. Fuck dude, am I being a weak pussy or am I right?

I was never good friends with him. When I met him a few months ago I was friendly because I wanted to make new friends, but as I got to know him I grew to dislike him.

One of my friends who would hang around me acted like a huge asshole to repel him and I called him out for being an asshole and acted respectful to the annoying guy. I guess that means I'm not a legitimate asshole.

I've recently grown to despise the two year-long former best friend who acted mean to the annoying guy because he's become an even bigger douche to try to be "alpha" (lying to get his way, putting me down for no reason, saying his time is too important to read what I send him, etc). I was planning on just not hanging out with him without telling him why and only tell him if he asks why. I guess that's two people to cut off, but this guy I don't feel much trouble cutting off because he's an asshole.

>>18600433
What makes him annoying? Just tell him what he's doing wrong.

>>18600544
I've tried, but it's not that simple to say what it is. Where do I begin? Before I gave him some advice he had a list of his personal enemies. He quotes comic books (I thought he was using his own words until someone called him out on it) to talk about weird pseudo-philosophical nonsense to sound wise and talks about how we should reprogram humans so we don't do anything bad. We don't share common interests, he lies occasionally, he isn't fun to talk to and some other stuff. I tried to help him change and he tried to, but I've begun to believe that he and people in general just can't change like that so quickly.

Well, I've been in the position of loner with no friends before. However, I'm an adult. I was nofriended at work. Basically, a bunch of girls didn't like me because I wasn't like them. I used to be friends with one of them and they gradually just started avoiding me - wouldn't engage conversation with me, wouldn't greet me.

It didn't hurt but it did piss me off. 1. It was work, so civilities were expected. 2. It's just disgusting they were so immature about it. I ended up just ignoring the fuck out of them too. It was lonely but I had other stuff I bothered myself with. When we had guests over at work who liked me, they were so ashamed to speak to the guest. So this is more of a Don'ts advice OP. Basically, the one who acts more "normal" about it, gets the upper hand. Act like you're supposed to act.