Internal Dilema

>>18600370
I think you should talk to your partner about this, anon. If you think there's a problem with your relationship, maybe you can work something out together.

>>18600370
Your only issue is that you fancy another girl. The question you need to ask yourself is whether its worth throwing away a sure thing in order to take a gamble on someone new.

And that comes down to you. Nobody can advise you on that. I might think it would make you happy to stay, and another might think it would make you miserable. Regardless, if it took you over a decade to decide you don't want to be with that person anymore, you're a fool.

>>18600374
Yeah, I suggest this. You're both close enough for this.

>>18600381
OP here.

It hasn't taken over ten years of feeling this way before internally confronting it, it's only been within the last few months.

The other girl ain't going to happen, it's only an infatuation. I don't want to throw away what my server and I have so maybe confrontation is the right thing to do, as hard as it will be.

Everything becomes boring over time.

The best case scenario in throwing away your current relationship is that in 12 years you will be in the exact same situation. The worst case is that you threw away a partner that will grow old with you for a unfulfilling fling.

>>18600370


You are not *supposed* to be "in-love" forever. Your brain doesn't work like that. That's like expecting to be constantly drunk, or high forever.

Long term relationships are all about choice. You remain with your partner because you chose them. You do what you can to maintain healthiness and positivity in the relationship, and support each other through life.

But you don't have to be in the honeymoon phase forever, that's a pipe dream. And it's not the point.

Having feelings for another person is entirely natural and not wrong. What is wrong is acting on those feelings.
People are judged on their actions, not how the 'feel' about things.

I swear, 80% of the problems with relationships these days is unrealistic expectations.

>>18600370
id suggest you to separate from each other for like a week; go on vacation without her and then come back. If everything goes right you should miss her not being able to see her for a while. Hope this helps if you decide to try it out

>>18600471
OP here.

You talk like I'm new to this. Remember, we've been together 12 years not 12 weeks.

I'm aware of the "honeymoon phase" and I'm long past it. But I'm now finding it hypocritical to cuddle and kiss when these thoughts are running through my head.

The other girl won't happen. Even if she wanted to she's heading home in a month so the investment isn't worth it.

I'm going to try and talk to my partner. I'd like to work at it as 12 years is a lot to throw away over a burrowing feeling. I'll just have to brave it and sack up. The timing couldn't be more shit what with the recent move.