Relationship problem, kindof. Am I the bad guy?

>>18598806
I think everyone needs more motivation to be with someone than emotions, because everyone's feelings about a person adapt or just disappear after some time.

Being with a woman because you want to get married and/or have kids is a good reason. Being with a woman because you have a more dependent personality is...arguably a good reason. Being with a woman just because you feel you should is not a good enough reason.

Be a man who acts based on logical motivations. Date a woman because it's a good idea, and stay with her because it's a good idea. Don't date a woman because you're being pressured into it, just to leave when your "feelings fade" or some shit - that is womanly.

>>18598826
i would sortof agree but when the emotions shes giving me is more negative than positive i think its better to break up

and i have decided to break up, i shouldve specified in my original post that what im wondering is wether it is wrong of me to wait or not for my grandmother

>>18598834
That's all too vague for me to comment on. I don't even know what you mean about waiting for your grandmother.

I agree that the relationship shouldn't be making you feel outright bad overall. I would talk to someone irl about this, if I were you, someone who knows what you want in life, and who can get all the details from you.

Try to re-read what I wrote. I'm basically just telling you to operate on logical principles. I'm not suggesting whether or not you should stay with her. That's your personal decision, isn't it? I have no strong opinion. Nobody on 4chan should.

>>18598883
Sorry, to summarize:
- Been unhappy for 7 months
- Decided to break up 4 months ago when my grandmother was told she had 2 weeks left
- Grandmother keeps telling me how happy she is she got to live long enough to see me happy together with someone
- Shes still alive, i havent broken up cause i want her to die believing what she thinks is true
- Is it wrong of me to wait for her to die to break up with my girlfriend?

>>18598883
and we have the exact same friends so im scared the word will spread if i try to talk to someone in real life about it

>>18598891
>date girl I don't want to until grandmother dies
I just don't operate like that at all. You can do what you want, but I would never do that. I would actually distance myself from any frend who did that. The "waiting for people to die" routine in itself is dismal and fucked, and a red flag - although maybe I'm being overly judgemental.

It sounds like we're clear now about the situation you needed advice with? I am very against doing this idea you have, but it is just one person's opinion.

>>18598907
Thank you, yeah i dont like it myself. I thought waiting two weeks was okay but now its been so long and it feels more and more wrong every day.

and then you also understand why its hard for me to go to real life friends about this...