Wife

In b4 just fucking ask her what is the problem and politely explain that you care and her behaviour is fucking with you both so if it's something you can fix she should tell you and if it's not she should stop acting hostile towards you. You're there for her and she should not abuse that, that's shitty.

>>18593953
This is not a logical person. The bottom line is that I fucked up, no matter the context. Can't leave because my car is in. Her name as well as cell phone. She completely illogical. Bad parents. First "real marriage" logic does not apply

>>18593947
thanks OP, you've given me my daily affirmation that I'm never getting married

>>18593969
Same lol

You're stuck in a cycle of tension because she shuts down. I'm not sure exactly how you're contributing, but there's probably something there, even if you don't see it. Maybe tell her that it hurts you to see her so distant and feel so far from you, and you want to help heal her pain so badly. But you don't know how to help her because you don't know what's wrong. You can't meet her needs if she doesn't tell you what she needs from you

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>>18593961
Her daughter has diabetes, and went to stay at a friend's, after she ask me what I thought, which I said no bc she never does her chores, she let her go anyway, after coming home she always had a shitty attitude, still not doing her chores, wife let's her go, has and extreme low at 10pm, wife comes home from neighbors raging about having to go pick her up, I say calm down she not gonna die everything's fine, *crucified*

>>18593978
I get that it upsets you to see her so angry, and you want to help her out of that mood, but telling her to calm down might just make her feel like you're dismissing her pain, and nobody likes to feel dismissed like that. They want empathy and support. But to be honest idk why she's upset for picking her up

>>18593976
She acts like she wants me around and involved, but she disregards my thought and opinion. For reference. She has two kids from previous marriage, I have two kids from previous marriage, her parents sucked at raising her so she had little coping skills for a relationship. Which I did not realize until to late.
To all you bachelor's.
Stay that way. You have nothing to gain from marriage.
Only loss

>>18593988
What initially drew you to her and made you want to marry her?

>>18593999
She basically lied about what kinda person she was. Daughter was diagnosed 3 months into our relationship. It's a constant battle. Which results in her raging about.

>>18594026
What did she lie about?

>>18594028
She pretended to be better than she was, like fake.

Different anon.

>>1859402
Yes correct. She seemed much more caring and understandimg of situations. But a single mother of two, at this point in not surprised. First relationship with "not my kids"

>>18594044
how do you find the "not my kids" thing?

I have a kid and my girlfriend also has a kid. We're less than a year in, so we don't really involve the kids in much, so I haven't spent much time around her kid. My initial response is to get out of there because I don't want some kid that's not mine always around, but maybe I'm being unreasonable... I have no idea. The kid is 5 and seems like a pretty good kid from what I can tell, but who knows.....

>>18594063
Even though we are married and discuss things, it seems like she is gonna do what she wants regardless, like the whole discussion is just for show. She never listens to me and needs 500 second opinions on everything. I hate it.

>>18594065
Have you suggested couples therapy?

>>18594066
You know that's a joke right. If u already hate each other then it's over.

>>18594066
Also checked

>>18594068
That's a little true. If neither of you are willing to try and make things better, then it's over.

>>18594088
Dubs speaks again. Yet I am trapped through my car and cell. Complicated.

>>18594100
Well, even though you're a stranger, I'm sad to hear that neither of you will be sticking to your wedding vows. But it's also important to fight for your happiness so your children don't have to see two miserable parents constantly at each other's throats.

>>18594107
Omg no doubt. This is my second and last marriage/relationship. I think I can cuck through another year because I don't really care by now. I love her kids but she's fucking it up so I can't feel guilty on that part.

>>18593947
Talk to her about it. Communication is key, my man.