Being ignored by GF

she's bored with you and terrible at relationships. a girl who doesn't talk to you is not a girlfriend. end it dude.

Very likely that she's tired of the distance and found somebody else at that club. Sexual desires are fickle and demanding. Don't take it as gospel but be aware. She might be playin you. Wait silently for a week and if she doesn't persue you assume that the relationship is over and move on. I wouldn't take time off if I were you. Idle hands do the devil's work while greiving.

>>18592629
Our culture likes to think that proper, well-adjusted adults are independent and don't need others. However, we rely on close loved ones to provide us with comfort, support, and acceptance, much like a child relies on a parent. When we encounter something that threatens that bond, real or not, it sets off our panic system. With a secure attachment, we quickly realize there is not real threat. For those with weaker bonds, people generally do one of two things: get clingy or aggressive, or get distant and withdrawn.

Maybe something has happened, or some things have happened, where she feels like the relationship has been threatened. Rather than admit that she's feeling sad, scared, or just hurt about this in general, she may be withdrawing as a way to protect herself. You may not have even realized these things happening that pushed her away--everybody's got their own things that seem trivial to others but really set them off

>>18592686
Thanks for the replies, I found the first half of this post really interesting.

I just can't figure out what's happened here, this time 2 weeks ago we were painting the bathroom then cooking dinner and watching old horror movies. Neither of us are particularly outgoing, I find the sudden change in behaviour the most confusing.

I'm not one for sending hundreds of messages or contacting her ebay account etc etc but I do feel somewhat isolated I suppose? Since I'll have to wait until this time next week or hopefully sooner depending on what my boss says to get an explanation. There's this knot in my stomach, it's going to be a long week.

>>18592747
Yeah, the shift can happen very quickly, sometimes even in the middle of a conversation. If this is unusual behavior for her, there might be some problem she's having but doesn't want to talk about. Her withdrawing to her friends would make sense, when women withdraw they often turn to others in their support system.

Some people withdraw and shut down to keep the peace. They don't want to upset their partner or be the one to announce that something's wrong because they're afraid of the situation escalating and seriously threatening the relationship.

Whatever her problem is, it might not have been something you did. There's all sorts of reasons doubts can start to pop up into our heads, and if she doesn't feel safe enough to turn to you (but don't feel like this is your fault if this is the case, might be past experiences reminding her to run away to lick her wounds rather than try to let you heal them), she may be withdrawing