General sex advice/tips?

>>18585714
bump. also source

Don't masturbate for at least a week before sex. Otherwise, you'll either train yourself to premature ejaculation and not last long enough. Or you'll get used to masturbation and have a hard time finishing with normal sex.

Second, have maybe one glass of wine to loosen yourself up, but don't drink too much or you'll have a harder time feeling what's going on and going to completion.

Use foreplay. Kiss gently, then make out, then use hand (guy fingers girl, girl gives a little handjob). Do some oral maybe if both of you are up for that. If not, keeping going into between making out, dry humping, and fingering.

Then finally take off your clothes piece by piece, making out the whole time. And once you're both naked, start having sex. Start with missionary, making out still but also going in and out. Then naturally build up as you feel it until it gets really going. Maybe switch up the position if you're lasting longer this time, but prioritize the intimacy. Pay attention to the other person's face and read the authenticity of their reactions. Adjust what you're doing to make sure your partner is still experience pleasure. Then you'll finish.

>>18585759
Nice to know about masturbation part. Otherwise nice description of what sex should be. I also do it like you described it.

>>18585743
Sorry dont have it. Try revesre image search

Don't skimp out on lube when it comes to anal sex. The butt isn't meant to insert things.
Always wear protection unless you're planning to have children. Always put on your own condoms. Even if a chick says she took the pill, still wear a condom.
Roleplay can go a long way to spice up a dulling sex life

Imagine the vagina is an ice cream cone

Keep it playful. When fucking i tend to just not stfu but usually because I'm going for a reaction from my partner. Don't be shy. Tease and joke. An intimate act deserves intimate interactions. Nothing wrong with down to business fucking but remember it's supposed to be fun.

>>18585714
Pay money. I fucked five prostitutes yesterday. It was great. No shadow side, no regrets. Do it.

Coming from a guy who is good at sex, you don't have to be good at sex. Foreplay is a must. However, you don't have to last more than 10 minutes once inside, and you don't have to be a certain size, you don't even have to worry about her finishing. Just be passionate, make her feel like this is the last time you're going to fuck her, and she'll love you for it. In other words, be a man, and a man creates, guides, and protects, but he himself is not a tool to be used by someone else (like a vibrator for a woman to get off).

>>18586415
This

Don't think you know how to have sex or even what good sex looks like from watching porn. There's the obvious reasons: porn aims to be optimally pleasing visually, which is hardly a priority in actual sex, and kind of represents a male (power) fantasy that is unrealistic about what gives women pleasure.

But more importantly, sex is something you discover for yourself and, anew, with every different partner. Just like you have your own sense of humor and way to joke around, your own matter of conversing, that might be similar to others but are rooted in something highly personal and branched out/refined from there. You will never become good at sex if you keep wanting to emulate something you saw or read. It's about being in touch with your own sexuality, with what you personally find hot, working with the personal preferences and sensitivities of your partner. Being good at sex means coming as close as possible to hitting all the spots of what your partner and you like and making the most of the dynamic the two of you have together - whether that's most often playful, animalistic, romantic, you name it. Every objective information you can find is at most an ingredient you can tweak and incorporate.

Also for female lurkers: in my experience the best lovers are men who are not fussy when it comes to how a woman should look/be groomed.

>>18586491
Also for the record I realized it might sound conflicting to give advice that boils down to not taking advice. There is nothing wrong with general tips or guidelines, as long as you realize that at the end of the day you have to make it come to life and embody it when shit actually comes down. You cannot fake the passion that comes from feeling what you are doing and not just trying something because you think that's what you're supposed to do.

Also wholeheartedly agree with >>18586415.

>>18586415
c-can you give more advice?

>>18586558
In terms of what? That's really all that's to sex. I don't know much about much else.

>>18586558
Really just be passionate, relaxed and go with the flow

this sounds retarded. virgin here who had his first experience. could only get like 3/4 hard and for some reason my dick couldn't enter her vagina maybe i aimed wrong or something. went limp after that kek

>>18586573
I mean: what about the whole meme of being dominant in bed and that shebang? Is it a meme or legit? Just had one night stands myself but when the girl is petite I always feel very inhibited by not wanting to physically damage her nomsayin?

>>18586670
It could be that you aimed wrong - the vagina is further down than most men think it is (because the actual entrance is lower than their penis is on them) and unless she's really wet and aroused, the opening is also rather small and innocuous. More a hole than an entrance. But my first guess is that the combination of her being tight and your incomplete boner made you now push fully through.

>>18586675
Not him but think of how you'd guide a big animal - firm and confident, you are the leader, but also with soft steady hands and without aggression or violence.

Most women love when you guide them into another position, press them down on the bed, kiss passionately, give a hoarse command here and there or a slap on her ass. Stuff like real hair pulling, biting, name calling - let alone choking or pushing her head down on your dick - should be reserved for trusted partners unless she is actually requesting you to amp it up.

>>18586680
what would be the easiest way to enter. her on top failed

>>18586686
Doggy, if her ass is popped up then it already opens a bit more naturally. Having said that don't do it if she's a virgin as well, just stick to missionary then.

>>18586686
Missionary is really easy for both parties. Doggie style can be fun and pleasurable but height makes a difference and it could be difficult if you just dont line up.
If thats the case you can always get off the bed and try it on the couch or just at different heights, standing, kneeling, whatever works and feels comfortable.

Tldr: Missionary is effortless and pleasurable. Shove a pillow under her if you need to.
For the love of god make sure she is wet before any penetration. Lube up. And wrap that sticky

I tried doggy style twice with my gf already and I felt barely anything, what's going on?

Sometimes I last for short amount of times (2-3 minutes). Other times I last a long time (30 minutes). Either way I don't like it and I don't think my girlfriend does either.

I want to maybe 10-15 minutes. How do I do that?/why am I so unpredictable?

Do any guys here have experience with getting pegged?

>>18586985
Yes. Use lots of lube. Start small

>>18586683
has it right.

>>18586675

being dominant just means do what you want, when you want, but don't half ass it. do you want her to turn over? You could stop look her in the eyes and ask her to roll over, or you could just pull out grab her leg and flip. which one sounds more dominant to you? and if you're not that strong, just do your best, just make sure you're doing what makes you feel good, and that will make her feel good

>>18585759
>Don't masturbate for at least a week before sex. Otherwise, you'll either train yourself to premature ejaculation and not last long enough.

actually if I dont fap for a week I get premature ejaculation because it feels so good

>>18587088
My boyfriend isn't new to it since he's used a dildo (7 inches) before solo, but I'm having trouble with angles and such. I don't think I'm hitting his prostate at all, how do I find it? I tried with my fingers, but I don't think they're long enough.
Whenever I'm pegging him he's really unresponsive, even when I'm fucking him hard and fast. I've tried fast, slow, in doggy and missionary. Also he can't seem to handle more than 20-30 minutes at a time. It's hot and I am always super wet when I'm fucking him, but I wish he would last longer and have more of a reaction.

>>18586956
this used to happen to me too. I discovered I lasted longer when I wasn't feeling much pleasure, and that happened when she was on her period. thing is, women get more wet and turned on when they're ovulating, and that feels better for the guy's dick. you need to find out which week she'll be more aroused (fertile week) and which week she will be less aroused (period week). when I found out about this, I started to make less effort for her to cum during fertile week, and more effort during period week, so my average sex time was around 15min. sorry 4bad english.

>>18585714
if/when sucking dick, don't do the deepthroat shit like you see in porn
literally no pleasure from it and it brings both parties out of the moment
instead, use hands for the base of the dick and lips for the head
pressure with your tongue
push and pull

>>18585714
1. What are some virgin mistakes I should avoid when/if I get some puss
2. How long does a cock need to make it into a girl's throat? The idea of cumming down a girl's throat really gets me off but I'm barely 6 inches.

>>18588001
Can I get some second opinions on this, because I don't want all the practice I've done with a dildo to go to waste.

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>>18585714
I figured this is the proper thread for this kind of question.

From a person who does no normal exercise asides daily work and life and eats a rather 'normal' diet, will exercising and going on a leaner, more vegetable heavy diet do anything for penis size asides uncovering anything hidden by fat?
So I'm not at all sexual and sex with others hasn't really ticked well with me, even when I've had my chances. I've been told that I may be asexual as I'm not really interested in sex in of itself, really.
I'm not looking to impress anyone and I know that in the real world size doesn't really matter, but I'm not at all interested in anyone or anything, this would be purely for personal reasons. I'm an average size and just want to know if exercise and diet would put me on the better part of the 'average' size scale. I know miracle growth and "doubling your size" doesn't happen, I'm curious about adding maybe .5"-1" or so.

>>18588054
Nothing can make your penis larger. You get what you get.

I didn't lose my v card until really late in life and was super worried about my performance beforehand. In reality, stressing about sex is a sure fire way to have bad sex.
Take it slow and realize sex is more than just jack hammering away at the vag. Just "focus" on sharing an intimate moment with your partner. Don't be afraid to communicate and find out what she likes. Couple that with what you like and you'll have a good time. It's one of the few times that "just bee urself" is good advice.

Some people REALLY like dirty talk, and others are sorta meh about it. Don't worry too much about saying the sexiest thing, it comes naturally in a very surprising way.

>>18588047
Short of throwing up on me, or biting my dick, there isn't much a girl can do during a blowjob to take me out of the moment. If you can do it, props to you and keep on doing it.

Boyfriend has a kink for deepthroat

tips???

>>18588149
Practice on him as mush as possible, make it seem like you need that cock badly. A hungry for cock attitude is a big turn on.

>>18588149
slobber

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That's one of the most useful threads I've read here in a while. Thx for sharing

>>18585743
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Twig_the_Fairy

This should lead you to all her accounts

>>18586670
Grab your dick, erect the index finger, search for the hole with it, if you've found it guide your dick into it with the same hand

>>18588047
Don't listen to him. It's hot as fuck. I wish I had a girlfriend to facefuck.

Are there noticeable signs that a man is aroused other than an erection?

>>18587391
This

>>18588011
You're not gonna be cumming down anybody's throats anytime soon anon
If the girl knows what she's doing, blowjobs will be plenty for you
That being said, I'm with ya on the deeptgroats being v hot

>>18589039
There are but they are subtle and difficult to describe. Once you have seen it for yourself a few times you will recognize it better. Their voice thickens and starts to sound strained or otherwise slightly different from normal. If they are really aroused (during sex particularly) they get this glazed over look. In other less explicit situations I find that many men get a more "droopy" look when eyeing you when aroused, and of course longer looks and eye contact in general where you can see they're taking in the sight and not just neutrally observing you anymore. Laughter that doesn't really make sense, like you only have to look at each other to become giddy, is also often due to sexual tension you both feel.

Having said that none of this is foolproof, both ways: you can misinterpret signs but many people also actively try to hide sings of arousal.

>>18586415
Pretty fucking gay dicklet ngl

>>18589102
>having sex the way that blows women's minds is gay

Okay, keep jackhammering.

>>18588001
I like the way it feels to be deep throated...

Virgin, just got a gf, madly in love, about to lose virginity. Any tips for a first timer? Dont wanna embarrass myself

>>18589105
>cumming early and not making her cum is "mindblowing"
I have some really bad news for you buddy

>>18589156
You are more likely to make her climax by not making it the ultimate goal of sex - that makes it more into a chore than into fun or passion. And most women, myself very much included, would rather have fiery and mutually amazing penetration that lasts a shorter time, than being fucked for much longer by a guy having that thousand yard stare of someone doing math in his head to not blow his load already.

His advice was spot on.

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anyone experienced with rope bondage? I'm doing fine technically, but I still struggle with making the interaction while tying interesting for the girl

>>18589154
>Dont wanna embarrass myself
don't worry, you won't. don't try to be a porn-stallion, just go with the flow and do what feels good for both of you. also, don't worry about finishing too early, sex doesn't have to be hours long to be good.

>>18589161
>you cannot do all that shit you stated without blowing your load early and still making her cum
It's not like I'd expect you to know what you want but you're fucking dumb as shit

>>18589198
just fuck off already, you clearly know nothing about >good sex and are in no position to give advice

>>18589198
First of all, ten minutes isn't "early", it's slightly above average time for penetration (which is around seven minutes). That isn't average because it does nothing for women. If you get her crazily worked up then penetration in itself is the icing on the cake to top it all off. Even the best sensation in the world grows stale as well, that's part of the reason to switch positions to begin with.

Besides this is a sex ADVICE thread. Yes ideally both have an orgasm, but if a nervous guy is trying to do a good job then he's better off realizing that sex isn't a failure because she didn't finish.

>ur just dumb
Okay.

>>18589161
>>18589198
What the fuck dude. Some women just like the feeling of being fucked and dont care too much about an orgasm.

>>18589204
>"I'm not even gonna argue it POOPY HEAD"
Floored
>>18589206
>ten minutes isn't early
Yes it is holy mother of fuck weak sauce

>>18589211
>Yes it is

>https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Intravaginal_ejaculation_latency_time

Read up.

>>18589154
http://www.askmen.com/top_10/dating/sex-basics_10.html

>>18589210
You know, my girlfriend said the same thing. She doesn't care too much if she cums or not she enjoys it the whole way through. I make her cum around 40% of the times we have some sort of sexual interaction and even though I can tell she's enjoying the act even when she doesn't cum (moans, unintentional body movments and so on) I just can't bring myself to believe women are satisfied without cumming.

As a man, if I don't cum, even if didn't get blue balls I think I'd be pretty irritated. I get that the sexuality between the genders is different but since there's no real way to prove it I just can't help but be skeptic about it.

>>18589206
>>18589210
>>18589215
>>18589221
stop arguing with him, he's an /r9k/ troll who has never had any sexual interaction in his life and takes all his """knowledge""" from American porn. just stop replying.

>>18589215
Then beat the average hair trigger
>10 minutes
HAHAHAHAAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAH>>18589210
Yeah dude some women just love horrible sex thanks for proving my point

>>18589225
Hey sweetie are you a projector because you're showing

>>18589229
>NO U

>>18589230
What I'm saying is that your ad hom was shit and that you're horrible at this, also sex

Fuck fat girls, their whole body feels like titty.

>>18589221
For what it's worth, one reason for not caring much is that I can easily get myself off afterwards if I really am dead set on that orgasm. It is in fact one of my favorite things to curl up against him and unload all that sexual energy while he's licking my neck, encouraging me, feeling me up everywhere and so on.
I can have an orgasm whenever I want. It is not the most exciting or even the most arousing/pleasurable part of sex to me. That's the interplay, the mutual desire and lust, just the very experience of being with a man itself. And that's not something that is dependent on whether or not I have any specific physical response at all.

More difficult to explain is just a different mindset. I love the intensity of an orgasm but I also love the enduring nice unrest from being horny and your body responding to all kinds of sensations, being on edge. I would feel frustrated if my partner didn't work to get me off in general, or didn't value my pleasure, but the experience itself of doing sexual things and not coming isn't usually frustrating to me. Just because it isn't the full deal doesn't mean it isn't fun. The lack of full satisfaction makes next time more intense. I like the feeling of still having that sexual energy right underneath the surface.
To me it feels most like how I might enjoy flirting or teasing for the tension and playful factor, completely regardless of whether sex actually follows or not.

>>18589235
This is the final red pill.

>>18585714
Just remember this and all will be well

"The object of the game is not to get there as fast as possible, but to have as much fun as possible along the way."

>>18586207
Wat

>>18585759
t. virgin

>>18585714
the real thing that matters is tension, this comes from eye contact, physical contact and passion. you get all this and ur a god at sex.

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>>18589229

>>18589073
Thanks for this. Do you also find yourself moving your legs more often?

>LISTEN to your partner. Don't assume that what you've heard men/women like is what your parter likes and what will get them off
>do what you have to do in order to be comfortable with yourself, in my case I remember I was incredibly self conscious about body hair and removing it completely made me feel more comfortable in my skin.
>be open to try new things, unless you really dislike something there's no harm in trying. Be also open to retry.
>however, don't force people to do things they don't want to do.
>you don't need to do a lot of things in each "session"
>if you can (this means, not having risk of STDs, not having bad side effects from it), give birth control a go. I use Nuvaring and I'm very happy with it. It's great not having to worry about condoms.
>kisses and caresses in the inner thighs and around the bikini line feel great
>having a second round usually feels better than a super long sex session (I get sore, I suppose I'm not the only one)

>>18586933
Prob death grip syndrome. Look it up and stop masturbating too hard

Any tips for girl on top? I fuck like a snail, I can't move faster to save my life, I have no clue how to move my hips while I'm up there, and I have no clue how to do the whole bouncing on a dick thing

>>18589290
Don't you wat him!

>>18589261
wisdom

>>18591204
well the best advice i can give you is, do what ever feels good. don't try and fake some move when it doesn't feel good. i used to be like that too and i was so insecure that i couldn't really enjoy it. I can't believe i'm giving sex advice right now actually.

>I fuck like a snail, I can't move faster to save my life
Is that because you're scared of something? That he might think something is wrong?

>I have no clue how to move my hips while I'm up there, and I have no clue how to do the whole bouncing on a dick thing
Well, if you really are insecure about what you look like, i'd suggest this, even if it sounds stupid and weird. Take a pillow and sit naked in front of a mirror. Practice these moves on that pillow and maybe try and really get off by it. You're probably hotter than you think ;)

You might also just need to build some more muscle in your legs.

>>18588047
don't really like it, normal bj is far better for me, but I'm the affectionate type and prefer cuddly sex

>>18591204
I'm a guy but from watching my gf do that I have some tips

Bouncing on a dick is a bit risky since someone slightly above average might poke you cervix, or it can slide out and end up in a penis fracture (yes it does exists)

The best move for you imo is moving your pussy back and forth horizontally. The dick still goes in and out, your clit rubs on his pelvis, you can do it slowly and feel a lot, and so on.

Redpill me on butt stuff.

>>18592385
What do you want to know?

>>18586415
What do you mean by "not worry about her finishing"?

I seem to have a problem with this - my ex could never come from sex, she always finished with a vibrator. Now with my current girlfriend, I don't know how to act. We had sex for the first time this week, we were fucking for about 45 minutes or so, she seemed to really enjoy it, but I don't think she ever came. I then asked her if we should finish - as in, if she's satisfied - and she said "I don't know, sure", or something along those lines.

>>18592400
I've always had a "but she poops from there" mentality about it, but for some reason lately I'm wondering what the hype's about. What's the deal with fingering/eating some ass? How do people get it clean beforehand? etc

>>18592460
Part of the reason why anal things are popular is because of the taboo factor. Aka exactly because "she poops from there". It's naughty, it's dirty. Some men associate fucking a woman in the ass with domination or even degradation. It is arguable whether it's physically better (the anus itself is tighter, but inside it is looser) and it definitely doesn't have to be as easy as porn makes it look.

Another thing to consider if you already used to have this mindset, is that poop is absolutely an always present risk in anal sex. You can take the deepest enema ever, and still the thrusting can trigger something that brings up fecal matter from very far away - bowels are long as fuck. If you feel like you'd be turned off forever (or otherwise unable to be remotely gracious about it) if you saw or smelled poop during sex, do not take the risk.

As for licking and fingering it, part of the appeal is that some women are really into it, part of the appeal is the intensity of stimulating two holes at the same time, and again, taboo factor. My ex adored eating out my ass and I'm pretty sure that for him the appeal was a combination of the taboo factor and just the very position of being wedged in between her cheeks and feeling ass everywhere.

For anal, some people don't prep anymore than taking a shit 1-2 hours beforehand. Whether you can pull this off or not depends on genetics, diet etc. For some it's fine, for others this will result into a mess and they need an actual enema.
For ass eating, either no cleaning or soaping it up in the shower, swirling a finger around inside etc.

>>18592428
Not him but some guys get really hung up on making her climax and that a) makes sex less spontaneous and fun and b) puts pressure on the woman that makes it harder to relax and to climax. This is actually a big part of the reason why women fake orgasms, because they feel it's the only thing they can possibly do to not leave their lover feeling disappointed despite them having loved every moment of it.

Also for what it's worth, when I'm in bed with a man I care that he cares for my pleasure, but I expect him to take my cue for what that means. It's a complete turn off if someone just rolls over after coming without worrying about you - but it's also a turn off if you sincerely tell him you're fine and he doesn't believe you and gets all down on himself or paranoid.

I would ask her in a non-sexual situation what she prefers, under the guise of sexy pillow talk. Find out what usually makes her come (a specific position? fingering? oral?) and if she says it's rare, ask her what she ideally wants you to do (when to stop, when to offer/do more etc).

>>18592460
As a gay guy who's given and received anal I'll explain some stuff >>18592478 didn't mention.

Anal feels good for people because some like the feeling of being full and there's a lot of stimulation going on because there's a lot of nerve endings around your anus. The cavity itself is usually empty unless you need to take a shit so unless you have a bad diet or don't get enough fiber or haven't pooped in a while you probably won't have shit there. However I'm talking about like getting full poop dick, if you can't handle getting a speck of shit on your dick or seeing at least a bit of brown on a condom then anal is not for you. You also don't need to douche every time, but if you wanna be clean 100% you can if you want. Eating ass is very pleasurable for most people.

>>18592460
I do an enema, it's basically pumping water up your ass and making sure it comes out. At times you may have to do it quite a few times, at times not so many.

I do it because even just smelling shit would make me want to stop.

>>18592559
>>18592501
>>18592478
Thanks, anonymi. Mostly interested because I like the thought of stimulating more of her body at once. I'll go for it next time we're in the shower.

>>18592756
I would reccomend against the shower. Soap isn't be best lube/can cause irritation, and the shower water washes it away. You don't want to be short on lube when doing butt stuff.