What do they mean by this

>>18585448
What do you mean "assertive nice guys"? Because you can pull all the PUA moves by book but if you dress like a fedora, it's least impressive.

>>18585448
Because there dad or mom growing up treated them like shit. It creates a cognitive dissonance. Where being mean to a person equals love.

>>18585448
>partying/clubbing
There's your problem

>>18585448
I find it funny that some people believe every human being is a blank slate and all we have to do is just get the right attitude or the right words, and everything will work the same for everyone.

As if what works for me, I'd just have to tell you what I do and what I say and you would be able to replicate that by saying and doing the same things.
That is not have things function in my experience. We are not the same, some holy words or holy set of behaviour does not exist that everyone can just do and achieve the same results.

And this is where you are wrong. It is a law of physics that the very act of observation changes that which is being observed. Not only that, you are prone to cognitive bias so you are never observant of what works for you but only what you think you are doing that is working for you.

Giving advice or wanting advice is just a nostalgia for the past and wanting to right your wrong, going over the same mistakes over and over and how you wish you could have gotten it right.

There are no magical words that can give you what you want or a magical behaviour that can give you what you want.

Being nice to have sex isn't being nice