Why is it so difficult to reach out to people without coming

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Why is it so difficult to reach out to people without coming off creepy?

You usually have to limit your attempts to two at most (or three if you want to push it) in order to avoid coming on too strong; and after that, the lack of responses become quite telling. You also can't be too blunt about reaching out, otherwise you end up scaring people away, and come off needy and clingy.

And when you do see/hear from them again, you have to play it cool and nonchalant to avoid showing your desperate, miserable side. Otherwise, the second you show those vulnerabilities, that you wish to be around more people, is the second you become creepy, and permanently dropped by not only the person who had the misfortune of seeing that sad, but also everyone who knows them. Time and time again.

And despite my age, I've yet been able to figure out how to navigate and meander between the two. You either give people space, and become abandoned since they think you're doing well enough. Or reveal that you want people in your life, and be abandoned for being a needy, clingy weirdo.

For a quarter of a decade, I could never figure out how the nuances of balancing the two out. And each attempt always backfires and destroys the few closest relationships or have. While, weirdly, the lack of attempts ruins all your relationships anyway. It's a wonder why people our age eventually do themselves in; and becoming just another statistic in the end.