Borderline Personality Disorder relationship experiences

>>18580152
the most awful and regrettable 2.5 years of my life
0/10, would not recommend

>>18580152
If theyre getting help and making a legitimate effort to be better, its bearable, especially if they can take a step back and realise their behaviour in more logical spells, apologize, and continue to take steps and action against themselves.


Otherwise it is completely their fault and you should bare no responsibility for their condition. I know you didnt say to say run but in that case.....run

>>18580156
Did you not have any positive experiences?

>>18580196
The first 2 months were super intense, filled with crazy sex, and love bombing. And then reality sets in you'll be stuck trying to get back the feeling from those first couple months for the rest of the relationship.

It's the emotional equivalent of getting hooked on heroin.

>>18580167
And here's the catch 22:

The disorder makes behavior like that largely impossible for them in the first place. Which is why most people with BPD never get better.

I have BPD and I dated someone with BPD for two years, which was absolute hell. He believed that all of his therapists were lying to him and refused to get treatment and continued abusing me because i felt to guilty to leave.

>>18580304
this is true, I constantly tried to get back to where we were for the first couple of months, but he got to comfortable and just didn't put in any effort anymore.

That being said, I have BPD and I go to therapy twice a week, read up on it, and have been taking my medication. I'm not perfect or cured by any means, but I'm working my ass off and I've become a lot better.

If your partner isn't getting help - leave. Like, now. Because only certain people will get help, and there's a good chance you won't be able to convince them to if you can't do it now.