Angry father

>>18579286
Give I.C.E a anonymous tip

>>18579289
>kek
Im going to be honest, I've always considered the option, but then my mother would have no financial support, because shes in no physical shape to work any job, but an office one (which she probably couldnt get). They run a buisness together and that would ruin everything.

I recall her saying, that a year after i leave she will file for divorce

If you are strong enough you must beat him up and explain to him he cant go on forever like that. He will change or he can leave your family alone.Also i would be more worried about your brothers, help them. They will be only one in life when your old folks die. HELP them and try to reason your father. If you cant just beat him up and leave for new city.

are you stronger/bigger than him if so beat him and tell him to leave your mum alone and make sure he is not a piece of shit in the future move out but check up on them in the future. btw he probably hates you because you're a bastard

>>18579297
>beat him up
I've done this about 3 times, once i broke a chair over his head. He doesn't really care to be honest
>help brothers
You know, i tried, i really did, but im in no position to help them because even the top professionals couldn't do anything. Im always there for them with open arms though.

>>18579286
Sounds like you live in a toxic environement. You cannot change your father or what he says or does, but you can change how you react to what he says.

Vouch for your mother and help her once you leave. If you've got your shit figured out, nothing that he says will change that. Try to understand him (but don't accept what he does) by seeing that he probably has strong psychological issues to deal with.

>>18579286
It is not your responsability to take care of your parents at this point. If they were sick or super old you could consider it, but not now. Let them choose their own destiny.
Dad beats up mom = her problem, she could leave him, she chooses to stay with a man that beats her. Nothing you can do about it, some people are into masochistic relationships, it's their choice. if she decides to leave him, well, one less problem to worry about.

Your bro likes coke too much = his problem, it's a free country.

Get into your head that some people like problems.

Do not fuck up your life trying to help them now. Help yourself. Do your thing, set up your life straight and just come by for Christmas to take a bit of their bullshit if you want. When the time comes to help them for real you can choose to do so if you want and have the funds.

>>18579333
>nice trips
I feel like i do live in a very toxic environment, and i can feel my fathers problems and short temper rub of into me and start problems in my relationship. I dont know how to stop it
>>18579338
I think like this all the time. I have a motto that i repeat in my head all the time
>the world doesn't owe me shit, so i dont owe anyone shit
But im just looking to find a reason. Im leaving my father, and hes not very expressive and wont tell me how he really feels. I just need closure before i leave.

>>18579398
I'd recommend you talk it out with someone you trust or a therapist if you can. Being in a place like this is terrible, but it can be much better if you don't try to face it alone.

>>18579286
>mexican/irish

Sorry about that.
Alcoholics and abuse goes hand in hand with those backgrounds.

>>18579431
I have a meeting with my therapist tommorow actually, but i keep a lot of information from him, because I dont want to incriminate my father and i dont want him thinking im suicidal mentally Ill and giving me a 5150 (I want to own more guns in my life so I'd like to avoid that at all costs)
>>18579436
>this
Many people don't understand what it meant growing up being these two races. I was beat by every family member, even extended family.

>>18579446
Your therapist is bound to confidentiality, so he cannot incriminate your father or you unless you plan to kills yourself or bring harm to someone else (AKA, telling your therapist you are planning to kill or hurt someone), so don't worry to much about it. He can't call the police on your brothers or report your father to immigration (you don't even need to mention he is an illegal for the story to he complete anyways).

You don't sound suicidal, so there shouldn't be a reason for your therapist to do that. Just try to allow him to help you deal with you father.

>>18579484
Dont you think my therapist could intepret me and my well being could be in danger? Think about it, if i tell him my fathers verbally abusive to me, and that he hits my mother, couldn't he link those two up and call the police? In all honesty i am in immediate danger, but im leaving soon, so i really dont care at this point