My boyfriend can't make me cum

F is for foreplay, do it together,
U is for do it yourself (if you can't maybe see help)
N is for not letting him cum till you do
(not maliciously, just make it a rule if you have to)

>>18576927
New to 4chan so I apologise if I terminology goes straight over my head.

As the title suggests, I have been with my bf for over 3 years now and he can't make me cum anymore. Over the last year he had gained a fair deal of weight and I dont find myself feeling attracted to him. Before he put on the weight I wasn't attracted or repulsed by him but I did and still do love him for who he is and how he treats me. Am I a bad person?

>>18576927
I can. Let's talk :D

>>18576935
Thanks for replying. I am capable of it myself such as when I'm alone. Foreplay doesn't help sometimes because kissing him doesnt turn me on therefore anything else further than that doesn't either. I often encourage him to cum so it can end

>>18576936
How important is it for you to cum? Youre not a bad person, Id suggest even telling him (if he is bothered by it).

>>18576946
Kissing him doesn't turn you on? So, you're just not into him physically at all then? Why are you u with him? If kissing him doesn't turn you on even a little then I'm sorry but you should probably break up

>>18576936
>>18576946
Break up & move on

>>18576947
I have mentioned it to him. It seemed to hurt his feeling a little and he has been trying to eat healthier I guess. But he has been telling me he will go the gym for a long time so I'm not holding my breath.

It's not the most important thing but it would be nice to have a bf I'm attracted to aswell as love. I kinda feel bad staring at other attractive guys.

>>18576953
It used to but it more so depends on my cycle. If im horny anyway at the time then yes but if not then no.

>>18576946

OH I thought you were a lot earlier in your relationship, or maybe have never cum.

It seems like the issue has a lot to do with his appearance. That's a tough fix, because it's reliant on him AND it will take quite a while for him to get back into shape.

If you want to fix things, which it seems like you do, I suggest:
a. start working out together, and eating better. (Low/no carb is GREAT for losing weight.)
b. Try new things. Things you consider sexy. Do some fantasy stuff maybe, or ask for a massage and dirty talk... Foreplay is a lot more than kissing and fingering.

>>18576959
If youre losing attraction and he isn't making the effort to make you happy then you might be better off moving on. How long have you been together?

>>18576963
I second this.

>>18576963
Thanks :)

>>18576965
He is making an effort. The situation he is living in for the next month isnt ideal

>>18576975

I don't know how long it's been going on, but I suppose you should weigh pros and cons to decide if it's worth sticking out this rough patch. Might it happen again/be a recurring issue? How about in 5 years, 10, 20?