No libido due to emotional trauma. How do I fix this?

by processing the trauma so you can move past it

>>18569899
the trauma is subconscious

How do I process it if I don;t even know what has happened

Reaction from my body has been to shut off my emotions and libido

>>18569929
what caused the trauma?

>>18569943
I have absolutely no clue. Also tried many different things (regular and alternative medicinie), but it is not accesible for me consciously

>>18569972
>Knows he has truama
>No recollection of truamatic events
>Uncurable
>Can't ask friends or family what the event was

OP, this is /adv/. Most of us want to help you, but you need to either suck it up and tell us useful shit like when the lack of libido started for you, when and what you think the truamatic event was, and what you've done so far in SPECIFICS besides saying you've been taking a bunch of "St. John's Herbal Wort" -esque meds. If you can't do one of those, fuck off so we can help other people.

>>18569899
This

>>18569874
In the thumbnail that image looks like a duck sitting on a flower with its head turned back toward its wing

>>18569972
in so many words, what >>18570017 said

gotta give us a little more to work with m8

>>18570017
>>18570032
of course,

well I lost my libido about 12 years ago, I'm 32 now. I'm healthy and fit, but don't experience much excitement and emotions in my life. So I don't really look forward to anything or care much (apathy).

The problem is I don't know what it is specifically that was the trauma.

The libido disappeared gradually so I only know I still definately had it when I was 18 years old. Before that time I had a difficult period in my life with internship, didn't like it and was not really necessary, I hated it but ignored the situation and just showed up everyday and worked like a zombie. That could be it.

Or maybe it has something to do with my childhood. I was trying to show off my strenght by fighting bigger guys and got bullied for it, this happened when I was about 9 years old.

These situations come to mind, could these situations have been so dramatic to shut off my libido like it did?

>>18570083
in a roundabout way perhaps, sure. kinda sounds like bog standard depression though. you on any medications or anything? in a relationship?

>>18570156
bog?

no meds and I think I'm happy (although I heard many depressed people don't know they are depressed). I play sports, I'm active.

I can't really maintain a relationship. I've tried many times but it's hard when you have this problem.

>>18570083
This is>>18570017. I lost my libido around 18 due to a bad "breakup" and a string of continually worsening events with girls. Rumors spread that I had raped/stalked dozens of girls, literally just people jumping on the bandwagon due to it being a game to them, and no other publicschool would risk accepting me. I don't like girls anymore although porn still turns me on, but I have to work for it. Any bad experiences like that?

I still have little sex drive, but consider it an advantage now.

>>18570299
No, not at all. I also don't consider it an advantage, I think I would be in a much better state with a healthy libido. Even a high libido wouldn't bother me, I would rather have that than this. Yes, it is an advantage that you can focus all the time and energy on other things, but it is simply not enough for me.

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>>18570339
So I'm not a psychologist and don't pretend to be, but everyone has different experiences and events that they all react to differently. I don't think you have depression, but your posting on here seems to say you want libido back but are a bit embarrassed to reach out to people you know for help. If meds aren't working for you, it may be your mind is having difficulty processing the truama, and can't quite get around it. Either you don't know how and your brain is blocking the memory out of fear more damage will occur (not that your brain is feeling fear, but you know) or there is physical damage to your brain blocking the memory. I find the second unlikely, unless you have problems with your senses and other bodily functions you didn't mention.


TL;DR: This is honestly a problem above /adv/'s paygrade as most of the people here just have first world or finnancial issues, and they just have to be told to man up. I'd suggest seeking a type of counseling for working past this issue you have, either for traumatic experiences or life counseling depending on specifics. Good luck OP.