Financial Struggle and Heartbreak

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I feel so tired, /adv/.

I'm married to a decent man with a 1 year old daughter and another baby on the way. I say decent because he is smart, funny, and kind, but quick to anger. I get called names pretty frequently and have been hit. This is besides the point but it contributes to how I feel because this is new behavior of his.

We moved to the United States ∼4 months ago and it has been hell. He was insistent that I be a SAHM. I would love to, but surviving here with one income is very hard. We moved around a lot while he did bused tables, did contracts, etc. We can pay the bills but we still have no friends, family, or home.

I am relegated to sitting in an extended stay hotel every day until he comes home. It became too much for me so I will be taking our daughter and myself back to our country of origin. I am a tearful mess every day but at least everything will be more stable soon.

My husband wants to continue trying to forge a life here while we live apart but I am so burnt out. Our savings are gone and we have gained nothing. He does not want to return because he thinks it will be embarrassing. He is worried about being a failure. I continue to tell him that he is immensely loved by those who miss him and that his effort was amazing, but he is stubborn.

We're both so tired. We were so much secure and happier last year - I had a good job and many friends I sacrificed. He sacrificed too much as well. I want to save this marriage before the stress destroys us.

How do I convince him to give up this fight and come home with me?