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I'm in a new city and don't know anyone. For a while now.
I see girls every day I find attractive, but it seems socially unacceptable to talk to anyone
>Can't I go to the grocery store without being hit on?
Where am I supposed to meet people?
>I'm just walking down the street, you don't know anything about me other than my looks!
Guess I'll never get to know anything about you.
>I'm in the park to read, I don't want people talking to me.
Public places don't seem fit for human interaction.
Oh okay so join some clubs
>I thought I could join a mountain biking club without trying to get fucked by every guy here.
Also I think I'd have to be prepared to exit the group if things went bad.
>You're supposed to join the book club because you like books, not to ask girls out!
Full circle back to the girl at the grocery store I don't know anything about.
Dating sites seem to be a waste of time, I'm a not 6'2" millionaire looking to take care of children.
I'm seriously at a total loss. It's Friday night for about the 60th time and I'm tired of going out, spending $30 on beer I don't want, staring at the wall, speaking to no one, because everyone is in their little groups all having fun. I hate it.
I don't consider myself bad looking or anything, before I moved I was doing okay. But not having a network of friends to start with makes all this so much worse. Tinder/etc has worked well here and there but it just seems really pathetic and I'd like to act on opportunities that present themselves instead of being a part of that.
I literally cannot think of a scenario where asking out a girl wouldn't be some bullet point on an article about how all men are assholes.
I mean even if I did see some girl at the same place multiple times doing the same thing as me, and we locked glances or something and smiled, I still don't feel like I'm allowed to say anything or turn something platonic-by-default into a date.
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Why not start first by making male friends, and THEN meet mutual female friends?
You can go to a book club to enjoy the books and then happen to meet a girl you like. The issue is when you try to do things that you don't like and are obviously just creeping on girls. It should be a natural progression.
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have you been to a bar or something?
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>>18567927
This. Why are you trying to find a female friend if you're in a new city?
>>18567917
>I don't consider myself bad looking or anything, before I moved I was doing okay. But not having a network of friends to start with makes all this so much worse.
>I literally cannot think of a scenario where asking out a girl wouldn't be some bullet point on an article about how all men are assholes.
>I mean even if I did see some girl at the same place multiple times doing the same thing as me, and we locked glances or something and smiled, I still don't feel like I'm allowed to say anything or turn something platonic-by-default into a date.
What are you really trying to find? A date? A girlfriend? If you're in a new city, try some F R I E N D S, mainly the same gender aswell. The Women come afterwards
Notwithstanding what you've just said. If you're looking for a date, try tinder. If you're looking for a friend, try to find a similar hobby.
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The thing is though I'm not really looking for friends so much. I want an introverted significant other.
Besides, isn't it really narrowing down your choices / reducing the chances of finding "the one" if a major qualifier is being connected via a mutual friend?
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>>18568112
You're lonely. You have no friends. You're limiting yourself if you're not looking for friends.
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>>18568112
>The thing is though I'm not really looking for friends so much. I want an introverted significant other.
Retard listen, You're in a new location with people who have a different meaning of hospitality than your old location. I'm going to assume you don't go to a university or else this problem would've been solved or been significantly easier.
If you plan on finding a significant other, they usually are found by mutual connections, friends and/or coworkers. Ever wonder why men and women in relationships usually share a milieu? Well, there you go...
You're not going to find an "introverted" girlfriend so easily if you don't share a similar group of friends. Psychologically, they're not really built for socialization with outsiders to their friend group. Also, women can smell desperation from a substantial distance. If you're talking to women with Machiavellian intentions, they can smell than shit.
This is why have a group of friends helps, because this helps avert the whole "cold approach" if you have a mutual bond with her.
Jesus Christ why would you go soul searching for an SO, immediately after moving into a new city??
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listen to more tame impala
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I don't know how to say it but I don't really want friends right now.
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