After I turned 18 I barely talk to my father.

>>18566127
He's emotional distance. Its probably has to do with how he grew up
>boys can't show there emotions meme
That's probably the problem. He wants to be apart of your life, he just doesn't know how to convey those emotions.

>>18566127

eh. hard to say. a lot of people do one thing but want another. my father once said that his biggest fear was I'd grow up, move out, and never talk to them again.

this assumption (when i was in 7th grade mind you) is probably what pushed me into that. he never seemed to like me much before but he defniitely liked me less after. he just kept me at a distance under the assumption that i dont love him and made it very difficult to love him.

he always had this weird belief that it was the childs job to engage with the father, which is weird. on the rare occassion id ask him to do something with me he'd yell at me and say 'its not always about what you want to do, you gotta do what other people want to do too' then he'd try to make me do something i wasn't really into and lecture me the entire time.

I'm not sure why i was a pretty good kid. I struggled with match and science, but i was one grade ahead in those courses so its natural. I didn't raelly talk back or break the rules or rebel or anything, I was one of those goodie two shoes who believed in following the rules. ironically my parents were okay with letting us drink but I only ever partook once a year for special celebrations whereas my brother was a teenage drunk every weekend.

bit of a digression there, but in the end he didn't have much of a reason to hate me, but he always seemed to. so as an adult hes maintained that 'its my sons job to build our relationship' and like your dad, has only called me when he needs tech help like torrents.

I was brain damaged for a month last year and he never called. when he finally saw me he only said 'whats wrong with your eye?' and 'whats wrong with your hair?' (my nephew had styled it for fun).

now i dont talk to him. he had a stroke and i paid my respects but since then i told the family im just out.

>>18566127
my dad does the same thing
sometimes he'll ask me to go fishing with him though