ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

I geniunely dont know if I want to be just really good friends with a girl, or if there is something more to it and I suspect she has the same dilemma. So what to do, how to decide?
We have really high quality time together.
Is talking to her straightly like that a bad idea?

Ladies, what does the ideal male physique look like? Post pictures.

i'm confused about this girl i just started dating. When i kiss her she kisses back and stuff but she never follows up or initiates. Feels like nothing happened at all. Yet she tells me she had a fun time and wants to see me again.

>>18561428
that's entirely subjective though. I'm not a girl but i'd say most of them like a manly body so some muscle definition and not too skinny. But not a bodybuilder or too much muscles as well

>>18561446
If she keeps seeing you then she's probably just shy or inexperienced or 100% used to never having to initiate. She will loosen up.

>>18561423
Probably. Make a big deal out of it before you're even maybe on the way to getting together and you've gone on and over-thought the shit out of it and no girl will find that sexy. Make up your mind then make a move. Personally I'd say the fact that you can't really tell is an answer in itself. There's almost always some kind of unavoidable pull to each other when the romantic potential is real.

Girls (or guys with knowledge): When laying on the bed with a guy, what's the most subtle way to make a move?

I've screwed up in the past where a girl expected me to make a move during a movie but I didn't. The same situation is coming up again and I don't know how to do that first bit of contact and touch.

Guys (and girls that were in this position)

I caught my boyfriend watching porn for the second time. Like the previous time, I told him how I felt, but not to worry about it, and that a lot of guys do it, but I can't help feeling really sad about it. I never deny him sex or anything since I want to make him feel good, and it makes me feel good. We've also done just about every position, anal, sex toys, rimming, etc, etc. He and a lot of people have told me I'm beautiful, have a nice figure, and I'm a sweetheart, but I can't help but feel really worthless, unattractive, and boring to him.

He knows how depressed I get when I find out, and he was very apologetic. I know I can't stop him if he has those outide urges, and I told him to hide it better next time, but it still makes me think he's bored of me.

Guys: Am I overthinking/over reacting about this?

Girls: How do I stop feeling sad?

>>18561661
>Guys: Am I overthinking/over reacting about this?
Yes. Very.

My gf doesn't give a shit since it means nothing. She looks at porn too and I don't care either.

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Why do girls like older guys?

>>18561661
Grow the fuck up

>>18561557
>When laying on the bed with a guy, what's the most subtle way to make a move?
Depends on how you are positioned. Hand on the thigh or arm around the waist. If she doesn't freeze and feel weird, start caressing her leg/sides.

I guess I can ask this here

I've been trouble getting it up with a girl I started seeing recently. This had only happened to me ever once before, but with her it's happened multiple times now. Why could this be? and how can I fix it?

>>18561670
>>18561677
How do I stop feeling this way then?
I've tried watching with him, but I don't enjoy it or get aroused like he does.

>>18561685
The position will most likely be me just a few inches away from her. It is pretty much a hookup thing but I just want it to feel more natural than just asking if she wants to fool around.

>>18561691
Brush your hand against you leg or your arm around her shoulders.

>>18561690
>How do I stop feeling this way then?
By accepting it and getting over it. People watch porn and that's all there is to it. It doesn't mean anything. Do you get offended and hurt if he finds an actress attractive?

>I've tried watching with him, but I don't enjoy it or get aroused like he does.
Nobody said you had to watch it with him.

>>18561673
To me, guys are basically unfuckable till they turn 25. I seriously get more and more aroused by my boyfriend as he gets older.
But, also - older guys are cooler than younger guys. They are more experienced, more interesting, more relaxed, better at flirting, more independent, possibly have money to buy you stuff.

>>18561661
You can always break up with him and date someone with similar values. A lot of guys preach the same thing about body count.

>>18561701
How old are you exactly?

>>18561661
it depends on how he handles it
if he's genuinely attempting to keep it rare or leave it at all, you are overthinking, if he doesn't care about what you think and just does it all the time anyway, you are in the right
it doesn't really sound like he's just watching porn all day long and if his apologies are sincere, I wouldn't give it too much though
not saying that it's a good thing, but it's unfotantely normal and not usually a sign of anything if not overdone

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>>18561701
>possibly have money to buy you stuff
Being an older guy myself, hearing this just makes me want to avoid younger women. This sugar daddy trend is getting out of control.

>>18561696
>Do you get offended and hurt if he finds an actress attractive?
Not at all. Being attracted to beautiful people is a normal thing. But, admiring someone's beauty and jerking off to naked women are on different wavelengths, no?

I'm not telling him to stop what he's doing. I'm asking HOW to get over feeling sad about it.

>Nobody said you had to watch it with him
I tried the see if this would help me get over it, but it didn't work.

>>18561661
I had a gf with whom I'd fuck literally 5 times a day. I would still watch porn and masturbate moments after she leaved the house. All because she'd make me really fucking horny.

I never thought about fucking any other girls. Porn was helping me cum, since my imagination wouldn't suffice.

there's really nothing wrong with him watching porn. Really. it doesn't mean he want's all those .jpg girls. He's just horny, and you are the person partially (maybe even mainly) responsible for it.
So take it as a compliment it it

>>18561710
24 now. I've been like this since I can remember, tho.
My boyfriend is 3 years older than me and looks a little older, so I still thought he was kind of cute. But, really, he was maybe a 5/10 when he was 19 and now he is definitely a 8/10 in my eyes.

>>18561715
It's not a "sugar daddy trend" - it is how things have always been. Men used to provide for their partner financially, dating someone older than you means that he probably can provide for you better.

I personally take a lot of pride in being financially self-sufficient, and I spent much more money on my boyfriend than he spent on me. But it'd be hypocritical to not mention that if I had to say why girls go for older dudes.

>>18561701
>possibly have money to buy you stuff.
Hearing this makes me hate women even more

>>18561722
>But, admiring someone's beauty and jerking off to naked women are on different wavelengths, no?
no

>>18561728
I always wonder why people hating the other gender come to this thread.
Of all the fucking threads on all the fucking boards, this is like the least appropriate one for you

>>18561727
>can provide for you better.
Generations of feminists fought to get women in the workforce, now own it you parasite. If you're competing for jobs you're splitting the bill

>>18561701
Lets say there is a guy your age, but looks (a lot) younger. He is cool and confident, well you know what I mean. Would you still fuck him?

>>18561734
So being with someone just so they buy you shit is just fine? Okay then.

>>18561732
kek.
They really are though. I find plenty of actors and actresses attractive, but I'm not itching the ditch about it.

Finding people attractive CAN make you masterbate about them, but don't tell me they're interchangeable. It's a build up to it.

>>18561735
I make more money than my boyfriend and provided for him financially for 3 years while he was pursuing his master and doing his first internship at 1/4 of my wage.
I have no issues with providing financially for my boyfriend, and as I said I take a lot of pride in being able to look after myself and take care of him.

Just saying that it might be a reason why women find older guys attractive.
In general.

>>18561737
If I got interested in him personality wise, perhaps. But a boy-ish looking guy could never be attractive to me purely for his body.

>>18561748
Well maybe phrase it better next time where it's actually about both of you providing for each other instead of "he'll have a job and buy you shit".

>>18561739
can you even read?

>>18561732
yeah well, you're wrong about this one

if I see a good looking actress I think 'hey she looks good' and move one
if I'm watching porn, it's more than just that
doesn't mean that I watch porn where I don't like the way the women look, but it doesn't work the other way around

>>18561748
>a boy-ish looking guy could never be attractive to me
Uhh well thank you for your honesty

>>18561428
"Ottermode" is really popular right now and it's also my personal favorite.

>>18561756
>can you even read?
You might want to ask yourself the same question.

>older guys possibly have money to buy you stuff.

>>18561747
well, I consider masturbating to someone as an act of admiring their beauty.

I get what you're saying and I guess I can agree with you, but I still claim there's literally nothing wrong with just jering off to someone. Just as there's nothing wrong with just thinking about theft or murder. If you don't act, it's cool

>>18561757
speak for yourself

>>18561755
Personally, I'm not interested in that because I'm way too proud to let someone look after me, both emotionally and practically. It's just a personality thing.

But, again, I'd be hypocritical if I didn't say that one of the reason why girls go for older guys is because they usually are wealthier than guys their age and it is comfy to have someone who can provide for you, buy you gifts, treat you to nice things, etc. A lot of girls enjoy dating older guys because they can provide for them better, like a lot of older guys date young girls just because they are hotter. It is not a mystery or something extremely unfair.

>>18561760
you incredible cretin.
I am another poster, replying solely to your idiotic claim about 'hating all the women', which I stated very clearly.

learn to read

>>18561766
>'I' in literally every statement
>speak for yourself
kek

>>18561764
If you're making comparisons, thinking about theft and murder would be more similar to thinking about other women. Watching porn would be similar to watching "How-To" videos on robbing and murdering. It would be an extra step.

Just a side question, but if you say it's fine as long as you dont act out on it, what is your take on sexting other women while in a relationship?

But anyway, I can't do anything about his habits if he has those urges. I'm just gonna try keeping my mind occupied, I guess.

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>>18561794
Actually porn is more like when you're watching a movie and think how cool it would be to be in a big car chase or be in space or some other shit.

But keep up your crusade about how evil porn is.

>>18561800
and you don't see a problem with that?
that's literally 'how cool would it be to fuck that woman right now?'

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>>18561804
Nope. A car chase would be fun, but I wouldn't really want to do it. Being in space would be cool, but I'd be afraid of it.

It's called fantasy and imagination dipshit.

>>18561800
kek
I'm not saying, and I never said its evil. I'm not tying my boyfriend down to an anti-masturbation cross. I told him it's fine. I just can't help feeling really shitty that he does it, and I'm wondering what to do to feel less shitty about it.

>>18561808
who's saying that's not a fantasy?
I don't get where you're getting the idea that it's different
why can't you fantasise without the images? why do you need some other woman to fantasise?

>>18561811
Why go see a movie if you can just imagine?

>>18561811
I'm a girl, but I really struggle to get off without some media. I can't do it just with my head, it just takes forever.
It can be anything - sometimes I watch porn, sometimes I read erotica, I often listen to audios of dirty talking. Just can't do it without a stimulation.

I don't even fantasise about it, just the idea of sexual stuff turns me on.

>>18561673
Different reasons. Older people tend to have more confidence, more sexual experience, more independence/success. These are things that are more traditionally a centerpiece of male sex appeal than of female sex appeal.
Another factor is that when someone is older than you, it is easier to look up to them and this is something that quite some women enjoy. Think of the high school girl who thinks she's so cool for dating a guy who has his own place and "does drugs" - while in hindsight she sees her ex as a guy wasting his life smoking pot all day and unable to keep his own place at an acceptable level of hygiene. It is much easier to see the failures, flaws and insecurities of age peers than of older people. The difference makes the guy seem more mysterious, more part of the "world of men".

Another factor is just physical preferences. I find men aged 18-30 (depending on the individual when exactly) the most aesthetic, the prettiest: they have the smooth elastic skin, the lack of wrinkles, that fresh faced beauty. But looking at sex appeal and not just visual beauty, I also love a man with some wrinkles/skin damage and a gut. Something about instantly seeing that there's been wear and tear, that he's been around for some time. It's not pretty but there's a gritty kind of appeal, like raw reality appeal that we are all humans and all going to die.

For the record I like men of all ages and prefer dating as close to my age as possible.

>>18561816
there's obviously a difference between seeing a movie where there's a story behind it and porn where it's people fucking and hardly anything else
you watch a movie because there's something interesting about it, you watch porn not to see interesting new stuff but because you already know what you want

>>18561820
do you have a boyfriend?
because if not, there's nothing wrong with that, it's just that if you have someone, I feel you don't really need someone else for that as well, but maybe that's just me

>>18561811
Pornanon here

Guys are more visual. My boyfriend has always been like that. But, with how adventurous our sex life is, it sucks catching him masturbate to porn. It makes me feel like I'm not enough to satisfy him, and I question whether I make him happy, or not.

But, a lot of guys do it, so I'm trying to get rid of this feeling.

>>18561830
>but maybe that's just me
Considering the rest of this thread and people in general, it's just you.

People watch porn. Get over it.

>>18561794
sexting? I wouldn't ever do it if I didn't want to actually fuck another woman, so I consider it immoral and wrong.

Girl, 'keeping your min occupied' is a steady way to earn some minor mental issues over the time. You need to acceot it, make him actually stop or break up.
Other ways are harmful for you. Perhaps a therapist couold help here

>>18561830
>do you have a boyfriend?
Yup. 7 years together, amazing and frequent sex.

To me, masturbating is a completely different need from sex.
Sometimes I just want an orgasm for the sake of it. I'm nervous, I can't sleep, I'm horny, I have an headache or whatever and I want to come.
I don't want to have sex, I don't want the intimacy, I don't want foreplay, I don't want to get eaten out. I want a 5 minutes orgasm, to release my nerves.
I don't need "someone else". I don't see how masturbating, which is something I do alone in my bedroom, is needing someone else.

>>18561833
as I said before - watching porn has nothing to do with lack of a good, satisfying sex life. It's just a fun activity.
You sound like a housewife, who is offended if the husband suggests going to a restaurant, because she considers her cooking skills to be just fine

Girls, how to perform the best anal sex?
what do you like the most about it? How fast should I go, how deep, in what position? should I take it out copletely between thrusts?

>>18561855
Very few women like anal sex. I really, really doubt it's something most women fantasize about.

But if you want to try it and go easy on your girl, I've heard missionary is best (maybe something about easier communication?), and don't come all the way out until you're finished. The anus isn't intended to be a two-way street.

>>18561855
I have never had it myself so I cannot speak from personal experience. But before breaking up with a partner we looked into trying it and I've read up on it lots, so here's some info...

The biggest thing is that for some women anal sex is very easy and natural. It just feels good, it is easy, they don't have to do more than taking a shit an hour or so beforehand and they're good to go.
But there's also women who find anal sex quite difficult and the important thing to keep in mind is that in porn, actresses are essentially doing their job and they didn't get that job by being fussy about anal. The asshole isn't designed to get fucked. In real life, anal sex doesn't always look like vaginal sex: for example, the woman has to bounce up and down the man's dick, he has to stay still and not actively thrust into her - otherwise it hurts or just feels otherwise bad. Some women keep needing stretching out before anything anal happens, even after they've done anal for years. So the key is to be quite careful with a first partner. Let her do the initial moving, use tons of lube, and stretch her anus beforehand with fingers and toys. Once she turns out to take it like a pro, you can go further and be more active. But before that, better to be safe than sorry.

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How would one become less creepy or intimidating to women?

I'm a decent looking guy, but I have a very deep, booming voice and I can see people become visually startled when I start talking to them. I'm also told I have sort of a disgruntled look on my face most of the time, but when I try to fix it people seem weirded out by my smile

>>18561869
Completely forgot to address the cleaning part. Whether or not you can just put your dick up there and expect to get it back reasonably clean will depend on her own body (and diet, but that's not everything). If you have anal sex, seeing and smelling shit and getting some on your dick is ALWAYS a risk. Don't act all offended if this happens after you wanted to enter her literal shithole. Just lay down a dark towel (the lube can come out light brown) and gently suggest a shower if things turn out badly. Keep babywipes close.

Also, some women just need to do an enema before anything entering period, or else it'll come out covered in shit.

>>18561661
>but I can't help but feel really worthless, unattractive, and boring to him.

So... From this line, it's pretty clear that your insecurity goes BEYOND the scope of just feeling off about his porn use.

Yes, it can be reasonable to feel kind of awkward about the porn thing (people feel what they feel)

But right now you're deflecting a lot of your own insecurity issues on to this porn thing, and that's something you should really address.

Your self confidence and self-worth shouldn't be so easily shaken, and this is something you should take a hard look at.

>>18561855
>how to perform the best anal sex?
Give her an orgasm before. Get her ass ready (rimming, fingering, lube, toys). Be patient.

>what do you like the most about it?
I find it physically pleasant. I also like how much my boyfriend loves it and it feels sexy and "taboo".

>How fast should I go, how deep, in what position?
Slowly at the beginning, then a little faster. Do not hammer her butt.
My boyfriend is about 6.5" and he goes in with 2/3 of his dick.
I love spooning. We also do missionary, pronebone and doggy. Pronebone is his favourite.

>Should I take it out completely between thrusts?
Nope. That's the most painful part, to me.

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>>18561866
I'm talking to a girl right now who is very into anal

>>18561870
Smiling for the sake of smiling isn't a great idea, it can come through as creepy if you aren't sincerely feeling it and just trying to be more approachable. I think your best bet in that regard is to just give them an interested look without reserves and feeling your own goodwill. It's shitty but if you are physically or otherwise intimidating and you throw nerves/self-consciousness into the mix, it can really put people off. Get in touch with your own conviction that you are a decent person and not someone to be afraid of. Also try to think of a quip that you can use to break the ice if someone comments on it.

>>18561866
my question was obviously aimed at those, who *like* it.

>>18561880
yeah, that's pretty informative, thanks. I knew most of it though, As I did some anal before (from which I learned, that the part about tons of lube is a serious exaggeration, at least in some cases.)

>>18561890
why should I give her the orgasm before? Won't the anal be more pleasant if she's more craving at the beggining?

also, thanks for the detailed info. is there anything else to add?

Finding a person, all I have is one picture and a name, no contact info or address. Aside from private investigators is it safe to ask here to find her? Met through text 8 years ago, we live in the same city but never saw each other until she left the country. I really want to meet her.

I guess what I'm asking is will doxing this girl be bad? And is it safe to ask here?

>>18561893
>girl

>>18561899
It could potentially be dangerous for her. Also, 4chan isn't your personal army.

>>18561899
If you met her through text why did you fall out of contact?

>>18561899
you must be really new here

of course it's absolutely safe, 4chan respect privacy above anything else

>>18561902
Im what you call a newfag so yeah

>>18561904
Not really fall out of contact, she just doesn't want to give me any info

>>18561908
Yup newfag here >>18561909

>>18561911
If she doesn't want to give you info then yes, you should leave her alone. What do you hope to achieve here? That if you manage to reach her again, she will suddenly be all over you despite having kept you at a distance so far?

>>18561911
just be sure to ask on /b/, not here. They are waaay better at doxxing

>>18561661
yes you are shaming him for what is natural to him. Learn to knock on doors and wait until you can come in.

my GF knows what I wank to, that I wank more if we just had sex and that it has nothing to do with her. So she is leaving me my privacy and doesnt sniff around on my hard drive, because she knows fully well, that it would hurt her more than me, and only a masochist would actively look for that.

>>18561688
is she unattractive, unhygenic or just doesnt do the right moves? is she nervous?

All of that and more can have an influence on your dick. For me it's totally important to hear my Gf breath and be extatic. But also a small bad move or BJ with teeth can make the dick go limb.

>>18561870
artificial smiling is always creepy, unless you are an extremely good actor. Try not to do it.

Also girls will like your foice, just be groomed and well dressed and what scared the girls yesterday will drive them to you tomorrow.

>>18561899
>>18561911
>she just doesn't want to give me any info

that last sentence should really give you a hint, either she is a guy catfishing or you are to creepy for her taste.

There are search tools, that can help you search facebook with filters, but not sure if I wanna give a link to one of them in such a situation.

>>18561913
We've been in contact again after a scare of pregnancy from her ex, been single for almost a year now so the idea of her and me suddenly went through my mind

>>18561914
Been there, I'm afraid of the people there

>>18561898
>why should I give her the orgasm before? Won't the anal be more pleasant if she's more craving at the beggining?
Not for me, no. If I'm very horny before we start, I find it a lot more pleasurable. When I'm really in the mood, even just feeling him rubbing the outside of my ass gets me tingly. I'm not the kind of girl who feels "done" after an orgasm tho, especially clit orgasms.
Usually when we have anal we do a lot of foreplay (more than when we don't). My boyfriend eats me out till I come, then eats my ass a little, then we do some fingering and just then we start having anal.

>>18561919
The thing is she's a person not on the grid of social media, so finding her is a bit hard. She waa the one to contact me first, heard her voice and all so I'm sure not a catfish

>>18561926
She totally is a catfish.

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>>18561895
>>18561919
Thank you friends, I will try to be more genuine and confident

>>18561848
Kek
What's with all of these comparisons? I'd kill myself if I was ever the type to be that emotionally invested in food. lol

Is it wrong for me to feel sad about it? I love and care very deeply about my boyfriend. I'm not denying that it's a fun activity for him, but it still hurts. I don't masturbate to naked dudes, or anything. He's the only one that can make me feel good. I wish I could be okay with it inside, but it's hard.

>>18561937
>Is it wrong for me to feel sad about it?
It is not wrong, but a little unreasonable. It is wrong to expect people to feel like you do.

Again, you see porn as a light form of cheating, but it's all in your head. Either try to talk to your boyfriend and understand why he masturbates so you can accept it, or break up with him and find someone compatible with you.

>>18561937
such a housewife wouldn't be invested in food, but in the effort she put into makinga meal. She would have so low self-esteem, she'd think her husband doesn't like her cuisine

and it's exactly you - low self esteem, need of confirmation. you feel sad, because you're afraid he'll leave you.
there's no need to however

>>18561946
>It is wrong to expect people to feel like you do
When it's your significant other, you both kinda have to work together to understand one another. Make compromises. In this case, I'll have to be the one to compromise.

And I have already talked to him about it the first time it happened. He knows how I feel. I don't want it break up with him over something like this, so I'm just going to have to deal with it someway. I have work in an hour, so hopefully I'll forget about it for the time being. kek

>>18561959
Yes. You're not working to understand him. You're feeling hurt because he doesn't feel like you, and seeking for validation for your hurt feelings.

Have you asked him why he masturbates? Have you tried to understand why he wants to do it? If there is something you can do to please him more sexually (send him pictures, audios, videos, whatever)?

To the men in this thread:

My boyfriend has a friend that he had a crush on at one point. She's beautiful. Like, model beautiful. She used to treat him like a beta oribiter before I came into the picture, and now that he's taken she has upped the flirting. My boyfriend still sees her as a friend, so they occasionally talk and as far as I've seen he never reciprocates the flirt, but it pisses me off. Is it wrong to want him to not be friends with her anymore? I know it's petty jealousy but I can't help myself. Wat do

>>18561963
This will happen: he will cheat on you or leave you and get together with her.

>>18561963
well, it's natural you're jelaous. Talk to him about it, find a solution together. There's no one good answer, ao /adv/ can't help you here

>>18561947
Still don't know why the housewife comparison was needed. lol. Jerking off to naked women is different than going out to a restraunt. It wouldn't be on the same scale, emotionally.

But, you're right. I am very self-effacing. Low confidence, self-esteem, the whole package. I don't think anyone here can help me through this. I need to figure it out myself.

At this point, I'm just using this thread as an outlet to make me feel a little better

So, thanks for everyone's responses

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Do females like to have their nipples sucked? My gf says she likes it but how common is it?

>>18562023
>Do females like to have their nipples sucked?
Some do, some don't. I like it, personally. Not to the point of orgasm, but I find it enjoyable.

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>>18561963
She will make him cheat. I ended up cheating.

>>18562023
It's an individual thing and I can't tell you how common it is. I've had one friend who outright commented that her breasts had zero sensitivity. Personally I enjoy getting my nipples sucked but if you are speaking strictly of sensations, I'd rather have my neck licked. My ex was crazy for it, his nipples were definitely much more sensitive than mine. However I do find it a good sensation and most of all I love the sight of a man with his mooth around my breast.

Really anecdotal but I doubt it's something you will find better answers to. With most of my friends it simply never even came up.

>>18561416
How do I know if a girl is being flirty or just nice?

We playfully insult each other at work all the time, (IE when somebody says something needs done she'd say "Best not get anon to do it because he'll just mess it up"), and she gave me this look a couple times, like she'd smile with her head tilted forward. Also I'm pretty sure she wanted to dance with me at the bar one time, but I kept saying 'what?' because it was loud so she just said 'nevermind'.

Yesterday she walked behind me in a tight space and put but her hands on my shoulders briefly, which got me thinking. She's playful with other people but I don't know if she's quite like this with them too.

Is there a way to find out without outright asking her out?
I really don't know how to flirt or gauge this shit.

>>18561963
Well, if he likes you more than her it's no problem, but if he 'settled' for you, then you might be in trouble. Like the other guy said, there's many solutions.

>>18562040
She's flirting. She might not just you but then she's flirting with everyone, not "just nice". Might seem like a trivial distinction but I'm pointing it out for future reference.

Follow her lead. If you are playfully insulting her then you are already flirting back. In real life it most of the time doesn't look like a highly sexually charged quip dropped with momentum like in blockbusters. It looks like longer eye contact, more smiles, brief touches, inside jokes, less just being nice and respectful and more both being nice and sassy/playful.

>>18561825
Thanks

>>18562045
Oh fuck I hope you're right.

Any pointers on how to flirt back other than the sassy/playful insults? IE how should I touch or look at her without coming on too strong?

What do girls find annoying in guys? What do girls find attractive?


Personality wise

>>18562051
The most basic form of flirting is not hiding the natural signs of your attraction. Most people have a natural reflex to try to hide or compensate there. Lean in, instead. Don't hide that looking at her face makes you smile a little, that you look down at her mouth sometimes while talking, that you stand just a little closer, that you (swiftly) check her out. If she catches you or gives you a knowing look, shrug with a "what's a man gotta do" kind of grin, hold up your hands like "you got me", make a show out of acting coy or guilty, whatever suits you but do not act like you don't know what she's referring to. Any excuse to touch her (her commenting how soft the fabric of her sweater is, needing her to step out of your way, having to grab her attention) you touch her. If she shows interest in your dating life or whatever, don't give her instant gratification, relish that she is coming out and showing attraction and play with that a little. Eg if she asks you if you have a girlfriend, don't say yes/no but give a bright (so bright/cheery that it's obviously not in earnest) "you'd like to know that, wouldn't you", or something like a teasing "what's this? are you an interested candidate? are you asking if there's a position available?" or "no [name], I tried dating but I'm so heartbroken over your callous dismissal of my tender feelings that no woman has been able to fill the void in my heart". It matters much less what you say than your tone and your (confident!) delivery, so run with what you feel you can personally pull off. Different people have different styles and that's fine. The main fun is in non-verbally communicating interest, anyway, not in impressing anyone with your smooth words.

>>18562057
Different strokes for different people, but far and about most women want a man who is confident (not arrogant - the difference is best described as arrogance being thinking that you're great, and confidence that you don't need to be "great" to be worthwhile as a person). Someone who treats them with care and respect because he respects them, not because he doesn't have the guts to treat someone more callously when he doesn't. Someone who in fact respects them enough to hold them to standards and call them out when they are out of line, as well as encouraging them to thrive in life. Women want to impress a man who isn't just impressed by someone being a woman. Ideally a relationship is when you love each other and use that love to help each other flourish in all areas of life and make each other into better people.

Humor is sexy. Being your own person with your own pursuits, interests and connections is highly appealing. Being able to discuss things instead of just fighting, to pick your battles and know when to stand up for yourself and when to cut your partner slack, might not jump out right away as important but is a huge part of what makes you "marriage material" and not just someone to spend time with when young.

These are scattered examples but I'm sure you get the picture. A lot can be forgiven if you give them a reason to want to see past it, what you bring to the table is always more important than the flaws and quirks that everyone has.

>>18562057
Depends on the girl.

>What do girls find annoying in guys?
- Getting too attached, too fast
- Showering me in compliments
- Being too pushy
- Stupidity
- Ignorance
- Passive aggressiveness
- Playing games
- Being extremely emotional
- Carelessness

>What do girls find attractive?
- Genuine kindness
- Sense of humour
- Intelligence
- Curiosity
- Honestly
- Forwardness
- Stability
- Self respect
- Passion
- Introversion
- Thoughtfulness

>>18562061
You're right, I've been hiding the fuck out of it, I don't want to look too attached too early.

I'll screenshot your post, it all looks good. Thanks alot stranger.

>>18562096
Being attracted to someone in itself doesn't imply attachment. Most women with some (life) experience know that whether or not a guy flirts and displays attraction ultimately often has more to do with whether he's a flirt and enjoys it/is comfortable with it, than with how seriously he's into me.
In fact, most times I had a hunch that a guy was quite invested in me it wasn't because of anything like this (showing attraction) but rather because I could tell that he was micro managing to a huge degree how he behaved around me. When a guy flirts with me, that in itself doesn't make me think more than that he felt like doing that and feels some (fleeting?) spark of attraction. If I approach a guy and I catch him quickly straightening his posture, trying to make his desk look more organized, clearing his throat, before looking me in the eye with a lot of care - that's when I conclude that he's trying to make an impression.

No problem, best of luck. It takes some practice to develop a gut feeling for what move is appropriate with what person and in what situation, but that applies to lots of social interaction. You just don't perceive it as complicated because you have all the etiquette internalized. Look at how much people struggle to explain to (real) autists what is or isn't a joke - you just know. It is the same with flirting, eventually you just know by someone's look or tone of voice. Enjoy!

>>18562115
>Being attracted to someone in itself doesn't imply attachment.
I never thought of it this way, thanks again for your help.

I'll get to practicing!

How do I tell my boyfriend I want him to go down on me? I'm a total virgin and we've only kissed so far so it's not like he's a selfish lover. I'm just shy and I don't know how to make it sound appealing to him. I also think I want to tell him in advance of when we first have sex, but that seems awkward. Suggestions?

>>18562195
push his head down

>>18562195
Start getting more physical. Touch his body, undress him, undo his pants, touch his boner, etc. He'll probably do the same to you. Eventually you'll get there.

>>18562195
You can get away with a lot as long as you pass it off as dirty talk or otherwise sexy suggestions. If you can talk about sex frankly between the two of you (a great plus in any relationship), you can just tell him that you are really curious and excited about that and find the idea very sexy.

If this is not an option, in a heated whisper/moaning voice going a simple "(I want you to) taste me" is an option.

Whatever you do please tell him that you need more if he wants to rush to penetration. If you are lucky then he's a thoughtful, attentive guy who thinks of both his pleasure and yours. But you cannot put all your trust in that, you'll have to be able to safeguard your own needs in life. Being clear and vocal about what you expect and want is vital for that.

>>18562208
>(I want you to) taste me
If a girl ever said this thinking it was hot I'd fucking throw up.
Do not use this line ever. Say something like I want you eat me out just be explicit

>>18562031
on your imaginary gf by jerking off to the girl you orbit?

>>18562212
What's wrong with it, provided there's no issue with going mouth to genitals? Never had a man have a bad response to this particular phrasing. Hell, it was a man I first heard it from.

>>18562212
bullshit, I'd like that line

>>18562216
There's nothing sexy about the taste of raw clam
What's sexy is the act

>>18562222
Personally I love the taste, but there's no arguing about that, taste is subjective and all.

But either way, I guess it's mainly about stressing the naughty factor of putting his mouth between her legs over stressing that you are essentially requesting an "act of service". "Eat me out" to me sounds more like a serious command and not everyone is into that.

I'm hooking up with this 19 year old sorority girl (25 year old here) and she's in to really weird shit, I've asked about it in this thread before

but whenever I want to do something that doesn't involve slapping her ass red etc she says that's too much like a date

I want to do other shit besides sex bros

what do I do

>>18562321
Find a different girl for shit besides sex.

>>18562201
rude imo

>>18562204
>>18562208
>>18562227
So it's probably just easier to wait until we're in the foreplay stage. Works with me.

where do I find good insecure women who will put up with my shit and take abuse?

>>18562355
>rude

not if you do it right.
You just push gently, giving him the right idea, but letting him choose on his own.
I did it mutualy with my every partner, worked perfectly

Is this something I should tell my gf at all:
I went on a trip with some friends, we backpacked through forest and arrived at a lodge exhausted, so our sleeping situation is a bit sensitive because there are not enough beds. Basically on the first night, I found a bed for myself upstairs, with joy I quickly settled in, when I was half asleep a female friend came in and lay next to me. During that night we talked about stuffs and she told me some bad things happened to her family and it was her fault, and she cried and I ended up hugging her. And we fell asleep facing each other. Then early morning I woke up with a funny feeling, she was caressing my erection through my pants, our eyes met and I came a huge load. I looked at her in disbelief and she teared up and apologized. I haven't talked to her since.
I feel guilty, because honestly the sensation was so good, even though our flesh didn't touch, our faces were really close and from her hand's movement I think she knew what she was doing, it's not just a simple touch.
I also feel so bad because my gf was against me taking this trip in the first place. Unfortunately, I will see the female friend again in the next semester. Even though she's hot I would never cheat on my gf, but sadly I get erection just thinking about her and her smell.

>>18562593
You already cheated on her.

Can polyamory work?

>>18562627
no

>>18562630
y tho?

>>18562627
I've seen it working.
But it's for very specific people, who fucking know their shit, are open, know themselves and are ready for a lot of troubles.
Definitely not for somebody who have to ask about anything on here

>>18562644
because it always goes to shit at some point because someone gets too attached, too egoistic, too jealous or too possessive

>>18562647
Me and my gf both like a girl, and she shows signs that she does like us too. I'm not sure if we are really polyamory but we'd be willing to give it a shot with her specifically for now, until we find it out. Of course, it could probably be wishful thinking from my dick, but it'd be cool if it really worked

>>18562649
we have been on and off with her since november and it hasn't happened yet amongst ourselves, but we did get jealous when she said she was seeing a guy

>>18562659
>but it'd be cool if it really worked
you really fail at reading comprehension, you know?
reread what I wrote.
Then stop putting your finger in the door, or enjoy becoming a single again, kid.

>>18562659
>Me and my gf both like a girl
This is always the case with the LARPers on here kek. Ok bud you ask question in this specific thread hoping for it to reach a girl because you and your gf both like a girl, not because it's a fantasy or anything

>>18562659
>Me and my gf both like a girl
well, your gf likes another guy, too

To both males and females

Do you ever think about your ex when you masturbate?

>>18562681
Also how long has it been since you broke up

>>18562681
fuck yes. about every single one of them.
I mean, I have some very cool memories with them, you know.
Am a guy.

>>18562681
>Do you ever think about your ex when you masturbate?
No. Right after we broke up it would make me sad, when I stopped being sad I was over him.

I did watch a video of us fucking once, but didn't really get me horny.

>>18561701
Sounds about right, I'm soon 26 and feel a lot more confident and relaxed right now than what I was ~5 years ago. Also back then I had no idea how to get dressed right.

>>18561416
Do girls like younger guys at all? I am gonna try craigslist to find older women to hang out, and all the women seem to want "mature older guys"

>>18562681
My ex no, not regularly at least. She was shit, fat, and a starfish in bed. I have on really rare occasions, fantasizing a "revenge" scenario where I fucked her good just to show her what she is missing

>>18562693
Some do, some don't.
To me, it is always a turn off. I prefer guys older than me, in their late 20s or early 30s ideally.
If you have an amazing personality and great mind, then it's fine. I liked a guy 2 years younger than me.

>>18562710
This bothers me because I seem to consistently hate girls my age.

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Does blonde pubes actually exist like in pic related? That is so hot.

>>18562717
You'll survive. I had the same issue for many years and never dated older because I thought it was very inappropriate. I kept looking till I found a good match.
It's just a matter of meeting new people and giving them a chance.

>>18562723
Usually the carpet matches the curtains...

Other guys, realistically, what’s the easiest way to last 15 mins (of vaginal penetration)? My partner said she would prefer that, but otherwise doesn’t really care and that it depends on how long I can last

I wanna be able to fuck her for this long, without compromising pleasure (slowing my stroke so I don’t put a lava of cum inside her 4 mins into it), what options do I have?

I’m aiming for at least 3 positions, 5 mins per
Missionary to start -> kissing cuddling between that (5mins)
Her riding me (5mins)
Then from behind until I finish
I see myself losing ~4 mins into her riding me

How do y’all keep up?

>>18562775

We were condoms to soften the sensation and we jerk off before we have sex.

Works for me honestly because it dulls my penis thus allowing more to get me to cum.

>>18562775
the other guy nailed it Wear the extra safe condoms for even less stimulation to last even longer. Furthermore, you can think of completely unrelated subjects, while you feel the orgasm nearing (but not right before orgasm, it won't do any good at this point)
thirdly, you can change positions when you feel it coming - sudden change is likely to hold your cumming for a moment

But to be honest, I gave up on all this shit. I just fuck, cum, fuck again, cum again... this way I always last for no less than half an hour, she comes multiple times, everyone is happy.

Also, I wouldn't advise you to set a schedule of fucking. Just do what comes naturally.

How do I cope with the fact that the girl who I'm talking to is great friends with my boss? Apparently she confides in him about life things and that they talk a lot and are good friends. I'm leaving the job in about a month ago he won't be my boss for much longer, but this fact is holding me back from fully taking her out and all that.

>>18562818
meant to preface this by asking how do you deal with a girl who has a male best friend when you're pursuing her?

>>18562798
Yeah, a schedule is too ridiculous and also I convinced her to get on the pill solely so I can fuck her WITHOUT a condom. I think switching positions with a little bit of downtime to make out and a combination of thinking of something other than the sensation should help. Cumming before fucking will also but that makes for a significantly less plentiful finish.
Your idea seems best, fuck, cum, fuck and cum again

>>18562356
hentai sites

>>18562845
yeah, if you're on the pill, it should go smoothly and right. She shouldn't care how often you cum, as long as you still fuck her. Just be sure not to stop - use your fingers for a moment, make her suck you back to full erection, fuck again... your imaginaton's the limit

>>18562906
*she's. she's on the pill, I got that.

>>18562723
Dark pubes are the most common but yes blonde pubes exist.

>>18562627
Rarely.

>>18562644
Because it complicates everything. People into this tend to stress that cheating is no longer an issue. This might be true (MIGHT be, because cheating at the end of the day just means "violating the boundaries agreed upon for the relationship" which can still happen in an open relationship) but it raises a shitton of other issues.

The biggest problem isn't being fine with your partner having sex with others. That's entry level shit. It's being fine with your partner leaving to perhaps go fuck one of their other lovers after you just had a fight and you feel rejected and hurt. It's being fine with your partner rejecting you for sex a couple of times in a row because someone else wore them out. It's being okay with someone asking if your partner is cheating because they same them cosying up to someone else and having to explain that you don't have a traditional relationship. It's choosing who gets to meet your family.
Open relationships need A LOT more communication, rules and talking through various scenarios than other relationships. In that regard it absolutely isn't more "natural".

And all of this is just thinking of people in their twenties. The most common complaint for couples in their thirties is not having enough time to just be lovers, not enough time for deep conversations and romance. Imagine if on top of the career, family/kids, friends, hobbies, alone time to rewind and the relationship you have, you throw another relationship with its own expectations and needs into the mix.

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How do you get female affection?

On a scale of 1 to twisted fucking psychopath how bad is it that I have an extremely convincing fake instagram that I used to follow someone that is private on instagram that I suspected my SO was cheating with?

How can I tell if a girl's chatting is interest or just being friendly?

I'll assume the latter if I'm not sure but thought I'd ask just in case.

>>18563109
Ask her out. Waiting in limbo is the worst thing you can do to yourself.

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Questions for women:

1) In your relationships, were there any differences between the ones made official buy the other person (also could you specify their gender?) and the ones made official by you?

2) If you get into a relationship with a guy who is experienced sexually and openly admits when you first start dating that he's dating other people, are you insecure? Do you find it hot?

3) You date a guy and everything is wonderful minus a few of the usual issues (dumb fights, etc). However later you learn he had gay sex. Does this change anything? Does it depend on what he did (top, bottom, both, oral)?

>>18562925
Thanks for the long winded answer bro

Our case is a bit different. Gf is bi and we've been wondering if we'd be a le to date another girl, both of us. It's not exactly an open relationship but what you said is what concerns me too. Let's say the perfect scenario would be all the three of us living toghether, however unlikely this might be, or nearby. I suppose this shaves down a couple of problems, but of course might raise some others that I can't see now

>>18563140
Two of you are going to get along better and it will cause resentment for the third person

Question for both:

Girls, what do you like about men?

Guys: what do you like about women?

Body parts, personality traits, behavior, everything applies.

>>18563121
Can't answer the first question because I've only had one relationship.

Yeah I'd be pretty insecure. I have at times gone on dates with multiple people at the same time but physical affection is a big deal for me so I'm not kissing someone I don't have feelings for and a desire to get together with. If he means strictly that he is going on other dates with women as well (no kissing or anything, just getting to know each other, flirting) it would be okay with me but it would still depend on other factors whether I could actually cope and not just nope out of feeling like I have to compete with an army of invisible women.

It doesn't change anything provided that I have no reason to believe that his interest in women is overall much less than his interest in men. If I am the first woman he dated after dating several men seriously, and identified as gay for some time, then yeah that would cause me some doubts because I'd be afraid he would miss being with a man at some point. But if you're simply talking having had sex with a guy then no, I actually think that's quite hot.
I don't care whether he was top or bottom (and actually it was always my impression that most couples alternate at least somewhat). I would not care to hear details of sex acts that are not appealing to me at all. Eg if my guy used to be someone's sex slave and got called a bitch and jerked around on a leash that's not for me.

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>>18563155
>Guys: what do you like about women?
I hate their guts, but they fucking complete me.

I fucking love you assholes. Would war just to protect you.

This doesn't mean that I like anyone of you cunts. Fuck you all.

>>18563179
Why are men like this? You hate us but you're also willing to sacrifice your own life for us?

>>18563155
Physically I love men's big hands, their hairy bodies, their deep voices. I adore the visual of how the happy trail blends into the pubes cupping his dick like a shadow of a hand. I love the contrast between the sturdy parts of their body, like broad shoulders and big hands and feet, with the more frail parts like their collarbones and wrists and lips. Just catching a whiff of fresh male sweat in itself gets me thinking of sex. Such a primal, strong scent.

I love male playfulness, how much many men are on the look out to make themselves and others laugh. The tapping on stuff, the whistling, that boyish energy. I love the male bravado, whether it's shameless flirting or boldly making an ass out of themselves to entertain friends. And I love the contrast between that audacity and provocative streak and the vulnerability of getting to know someone as your lover and seeing them struggle to face issues in their life or hearing them whimper in pleasure, stripped of all decorum, just their naked human self. In general seeing a man who at other times can be decisive and bold be all affectionate and tender feels extremely intimate.

Also there is no way to explain to someone not into men how an erection pressing up against you feels. It's this overwhelming "shit's about to go down" sensation that makes something deep inside of you give way, it's like I feel my reptile brain stirring.

>>18563144
It doesn't seem like it. During a "trial" we got along just fine. Me and my gf are dating for almost a decade now. She and the other girls are lawyers, so they're always chatting about work. There's affinity for each other in a really similar level, which of course is a bit more intense between me and my gf, but she apparently accepts it since we've been together for so long

>>18563165
Interesting for #2.

May I ask, do you think its possible for other people (or maybe guys in general, but IMO women can as well) to not necessarily feel emotional when they kiss or fuck?

>>18563197
Not that guy, but in short:

You are whiny, entitled and manipulative, but also cute, soft, and your sole presence make us feel happier and stronger, and your smiles, oh god youir smiles...

I love you girls, never change.

>>18563197
Some men might be willing. I just hate you.

>>18563221
Yes I think it's possible. Although I think people tend to be too simplistic about it. Take "catching feelings" after sex - it isn't that illogical if you think about it. If you are having sex properly then you are exposing yourself not just physically but also emotionally, and have this other person gracefully accept it. The chance is considerable that something mildly embarrassing happens (a queef, for example) and he is accepting and reassuring. Proper sex is not just lustful but also affectionate/attentive in feeling. Making sure a guy is leaning his head against a pillow instead of a bare wall or radiator before giving him head enhances the pleasure as much as some oral trick does, but the feeling is more... nurturing. Sex can feel like someone looking after your body and your physical needs well. And all these things can and (sometimes) do inspire feelings of intimacy, gratitude and solidarity.

Still I think it's possible, I just don't think that sex and love are entirely different things. And talking about this scenario it is less that I am convinced that if he's going around being intimate with other girls, he must have feelings for them. I just have no desire to pull my partner out of another woman like he's Excalibur. If I am into someone I couldn't care less about other man and I am looking for someone who feels the same way.

>>18563197
Most of the things I hate about women wouldn't be such a problem if society didn't encourage them. I'm extremely annoyed by you people but I still want to save you because underneath it all women aren't bad, they're just incredibly misguided.

There's still a lot of nice girls out there too. Thots are irredeemable though.

>be masculine and tall
>tfw have 4 inch penis
I've rejected a few girls at my uni because I'm scared they'll make fun of me for having a tiny dick. I feel like girls will never actually be satisfied with me and start to resent me even if they're attracts to me emotionally/physically.

>>18562057
I hate it when guys aren't Chad, so annoying, it should be an arrestable crime.

>>18563289
You drew a shitty card there, not just because your size is below average but mostly because this is such a personal aspect that only comes up when there's in many cases already some attachment and you care more about their opinion. I don't want to come across like I'm trying to shrug that off because it's a reality.

Having said that, there's a reason why women want to sleep with men despite being able to go out and buy a 9" vibrating dildo. Being a good lover is about a multitude of things and more important than anything else is your energy and what you have to offer as one person to another. You'd be surprised at how many men are too complacent, self-conscious or dispassionate to grab their woman and make her feel irresistable. Or realize that sex is not just about dick in pussy but about tension and seduction, power dynamics, playfulness, intimacy and so on. What makes someone sexy or a good lover has very little to do with the technical details of their body.
What's more, when women think of a nice dick they think of aesthetics, length AND girth, hygiene/grooming, ability to get and stay hard easily, ability to go multiple rounds, curve that does or does not press the right spots etc. The whole pissing contest about who has the biggest dick is not representative at all of how women view it. Size is spoken about as if all other factors are the same, but they never are in real life. The very fact that your dick is yours, and is perceived (at least in a dating situation) within a context already determined by how attractive you are overall, changes everything.

Also vaginas are not black holes and they differ not just in width but also in depth.

Try to love your dick not for being a perfect dick but for being the part of your body most sensitive to pleasure and the part of your body you most intimately connect with.

>>18563197
nah, men aren't like this.
this is just a 4chan basement dweller, a specie on its own. Very rare to be found on the surface, so don't worry.

I meant mostly the hate part. There are a few women I actually would sacrifice my life for. But then again, there are also such men.

>>18563289
I'm around 5.25", and even though it's considerably longer than yours, I still consider it slightly below average

That said, I have never heard complains, had casual ONS's come back for more, and women cum like crazy on my little warrior.

Like the other anon said, you can't shrug it off, and without sugar coating it is small. But it you actually go into a relationship or build a connection, and is really good at oral and clit fingering, you'll never give them reason to badmouth you. Girls do like penetration and there is the aesthetic appeal of a bigger dick, but you can be just as efficient as an orgasm machine as anyone else.

>>18563289
wtf my dick is 8'' (serious) and it looks small

how fucking long are those in porn? 10?

>>18563379
Eight inches is literally huge. If you think it's small then it's probably because you're looking at monsterdongs all the time.

>>18563385
it doesn't look like anything that i see in porn

like the average dick looks bigger than mine and i look at casual stuff

>>18563403
Granted I'm not a fan of porn so I can't judge that but statistically speaking it absolutely shouldn't (be or seem smaller than average). Average is 5-5.5".

>>18563415
i know it just visually looks smaller than theirs

idk

>>18563432
Try taking a picture or looking in a full length mirorr if you never have before. Looking down on your dick isn't a flattering angle.

>>18563439
ive tried the mirror. looks smaller 2bh

its a good size according to stats so im not really worried

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So uh, that 50 Shades stuff was pretty popular, eh? I guess a lot of you ladies are into that sort of thing, huh?

I need friendship advice from a girl, although I'm not sure you will be able to help me.

Important info about me:
Autistic (very light aspergers)
Divorced parents
Barely any contact with father after increasing fights with him and my stepmother.
Situation at my mother's is not much better. I don't have any fights, but everyone else does.
This basically means my family is a ticking time bomb.
I live with my mother and stepfather.
I'm 18 y/o.

My best friend is a girl I've known since third grade.
She has always been there for me.
When I found out I was autistic.
When my autism caused problems.
When my father just refused the idea of me being autistic "you're just a piece of shit".
When my mother was crying every night after the divorce.
When my family was almost torn apart by exes and custody battles.
And so forth.

Also I had a crush on her, but that was years ago and after I confessed things went right back to normal. (Aka friendzone)

But now her mother has died of cancer. She saw it coming, it had been going on for a year, but still.
Now, I want to be there for her, like she has always been there for me. The problem is, she pretends to be fine. I'm worried sick that it will suddenly hit her even harder, because it is absolutely impossible that she is completely unaffected.
I'm afraid to bring it up, because it feels like if she wanted to talk about it, she would. On the other hand, i think she doesn't realize how much it can help to have someone to talk to.
On the day it happened I told her that she could always talk to me and that i want to be there for her like she always is for me.
Can anyone tell me what to do? I'm worried.

>>18563464
>On the day it happened I told her that she could always talk to me and that i want to be there for her like she always is for me.
I'd say that's what you needed to do. She probably thought it was nice, but didn't feel like talking. If anything, you could ask her if she's doing okay every now and then.

>>18563385
He's doing something called "fishing for compliments"

>>18563475
Thanks for the fast response. I'm afraid that she is trying to bottle up all her emotions, and I know first hand how bad that can get. It used to give me anger issues. She is the reason I don't have that anymore, and I would hate to see it happen to her.

>>18563464
First of all don't write off the option that she really is relatively fine. If she's seen this coming for a year then she's had a lot of time to emotionally come to terms with her mother passing. As weird as it might sound, it's also not weird for loved ones in this position to not just feel grief but also relief that their (in this case) parent is no longer suffering. When someone is terminally sick you often have to see them lose control in many different ways and lose aspects that used to make them who they were. In that regard death can absolutely be merciful. Even if this isn't the case and she's really sad, people deal with that in different ways. She might need space and lots of alone time.

All you can really do is tell her exactly what you said here. [Friend], I want to respect what you told me about being fine. At the same time I'm not sure whether I should take your word for it because you went through all this. I want you to know how much I appreciate everything you've done for me and how you've always been there for me when I needed you. And I want you to know that I'll be there to talk about it, offer you distraction, just keep you company or whatever else you might need. I want to respect your needs so I won't push it further but if you need anything at all for me, reach out and I'll be there.

Something akin to this message, anyway, tweak it according to your preferences and dynamic of course. I am just writing it out to give you an idea of what to say.

Also if she insists it's all fine, make sure to stay on top of inviting her to do fun things so she can take her mind off it nonetheless. Don't treat her like a sorry victim because her mom died if she doesn't want to talk about it, just offer her your company and conversation. Keep an eye on whether you can offer practical help, like taking care of a pet or bringing her food if she does break down and is unable to look after herself properly.

Best of luck anon, you're a good friend.

>>18563460
A lot of girls I know thought it was stupid. Lots of "if he wasn't rich people would think he was creepy" stuff. I know this because my libshit uni literally made us watch the fucking movie and most girls and guys made fun of the uni for weeks afterward. Anyways, some girls do like it, just not the majority.

>>18563500
>I'm afraid that she is trying to bottle up all her emotions,
Maybe, but what can you do? As long as she doesn't start having obvious emotional issues, trust her that she's fine. I know you want to be the man who's there for her, I understand that feeling well, but it might not happen, and that's okay.

>>18563460
Not me.

>>18563460
You can't be a billionaire and do all the shit he did. There is no way you have that much time and energy on hand while being a billionaire. Nope. It's like running a country.

>>18563460
Only because the character is filthy rich. Otherwise it'd be just domestic violence

Tbh I never knew a single women with a plentiful sex life that liked it

>>18563501
Thank you, I really do not want to autistically screw up and patronize my friend, but it just feels bad to do nothing.

>>18562593
WTF any real advice for this???

>>18563536
It's okay to do nothing if she doesn't need you to do anything. You'll be there for her if she needs you, but she probably doesn't need you as much as you need her.

>>18563537
You want your gf to be long term? Tell her. Be completely honest with her. If she finds out through someone else, or you accidentally say something about it in the future, you'll be in a lot of shit. Also until then you'd have to carry a pretty big secret around, which is never a good thing.

>>18563558
Do I tell her that I came in her hand? or what?

>>18563575
I said completely honest didn't I?

>>18563580
GOD

>>18563537
You were basically raped. However, being a guy, your gf is more likely to give you shit than support, specially because you came (which is kinds common even in rapes)

Some SJW might say you should press charges against that girl for rape, but even though you could I'd say just leave it be. She seems sorry, and your gf is unlikely to support you if you come to her.

However, apparently you wouldn't say no if that girl came to you again. So do reconsider your relationship.

>>18563587
Also, for clarification, how much time was there between waking up and cumming?

>>18563587
She raped you, but you were asking for it laying in bed with her and all. It's not the end of the world. Tell your girlfriend and she'll get mad, but it's better to rip this band-aid off now.

A question for the women

Is it a unattractive or a problem if a guy doesn't have friends/ is a stay at home kind of guy.

>>18563596
not sure, 1 minute? my dick feels good but I barely registered what was going on at that moment. However now I can recall very vividly her look and her smell and her touch.

>>18563590
>>18563598
Yeah. I guess there's no other way. This is probably the end.

>>18563620
A minute was enough time to tell her to stop. But most guys wouldn't have done anything either.

>>18563626
You are right. I fucked up/

I seem to be way too different to women and have only ever met 1 woman who I've had anything in common with.

I get along with guys super well, but women never seem to share any similar interests, they seem to think so differently to me, I feel like we never have anything to talk about.

As always though, there's always an exception to the rule, but she didn't love me back so what use was that.

Is this a common feeling amongst other men?

>>18563620
You didn't even have time to realize what was going on and stop her. You deserve no blame at all for this. Gf probably won't like it, but should be mad at the other girl, not you.

>>18563630
Not in my experience, but i'm autistic, so maybe it's different for me.

>>18563640
OK I guess that rules me off for being autistic so that's good I guess

>>18563630
Not after I grew up and started talking about literally everything with women and treating them as equals. Damn just this week we cracked poop jokes on a first date.

Only alienated stacies have nothing to talk with man. Any normie girl can talk of tons of shit.

>>18563648
That's the thing though, I wanna bond over lifting and guns and stuff, not literal shit.

I feel like my hobbies are too masculine for the women I'm attracted to

>>18563601
Yes

>>18563652
Get a gf the that takes gym seriously. Shooting really is a hard subject but you'll probably be able to find a girl that's interested in it that you can take to the range with you.

Help me out femanons...

I have a crush on a coworker. We talk from time to time, greet each other and occasionally I help her out with things. I have yet to make any move but I feel like she's not into me. We really only started talking to each other a couple of months ago. Before that we kinda avoided each other because she would hang out a lot with another coworker of mine who I have somewhat of a bad history with and since she would be a bit mean to me I assumed they had a thing going with each other since they would also go out to lunch together and spend every break together, though that eventually stopped.
While she and I were getting to know each other, she told me that she had a 2 yr old daughter and had a husband. It kinda surprised me considering the situation with the other guy but I took it as a sign to back off until another coworker of mine told me that she had said to him on snapchat that she was only with her "husband" for the sake of the child. That news encouraged me to pursue her, though I honestly don't know what to believe.

My mind says to take what she herself told me as fact (even if it might not actually be) and lay off but my heart says to go for it. I really do like this girl. I don't care if she has a kid or whatever situation she's in with the father, I would still like a chance with her but the thing she previously had with my other coworker bothers me. I feel like she told me about her husband to let me know she's not interested.
Should I listen to her or should I try to go for what I want?

>>18563648
>>18563648
>>18563648


>Damn just this week we cracked poop jokes on a first date.


sounds like friend to friend convo

>>18563666
Ye that's my point... They're a rare catch and I already let one go...

>>18563669
Met on tinder, never saw her before
>>18563671
They're really not. You might not find a girl into heavy lifting and a shooter, but I'm 100% sure girls interested in diets and gym and weapons are not that rare, even if they're mildly interested in those subjects

how do i get the rich smell of cum out of my room?

>>18563200
might as well kill myself

>>18563379
in porn there are camera tricks and the male actors are often quite short, so their dicks look proportionally bigger

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How soon is too soon to move in together? I'd like to share a space with my boyfriend. We've been dating for almost 3 months now but knew each other as friends for 2 years. Should we wait or just go for the kill?

>>18563732
>almost 3 months
That is not a lot of time, better to just wait

>>18563657
>only Stacey replied to that guy's question

>girl asked my phone number
>we texted for two days
>added her instagram and fb
>yesterday I drunkenly asked her for nudes

How do I unfuck this shit

>>18563871
Kill yourself

Do women feel disinclined to date a guy around the age of 25 if he still lives with his parents and is still in school, just still figuring everything out?

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>>18561416
So long story short, my friend introduced me to a girl and I asked him to bring me up in conversation casually. This did not go as casually as I hoped (pic related). how do I open conversation now

>>18563732
Wait at least a year. How somebody is in a relationship is different than how they are as a friendship. There are different expectations and obligations. You will want to see how he is in a variety of situations while in his boyfriend role before you commit to something as huge as moving in.

>>18563923
that's a good sign anon :) i actually met my bf in a similar way haha i tried to play it cool

>>18563923
"hi"

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>>18563930
>>18563933
Oh fuck that was faster than I expected. What now

Guys: Why do you care if Ive slept with a lot of guys in the past?

>Talking to a potential partner, he's a 9/10
>He asks me if I've ever had sex and if you ever dated a black guy.
>Was honest and said Yes, I've had sex with quite a bit of dudes. (Told him a majority of my sexual partners were black.)
>He says Oh and tells me to look for other guys.

Like wtf, it's none of your business if Ive fucked a lot of dudes.

Girls, have you ever had sex with a female family member?

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>>18563991

>>18563991
he just dont want to get keked girrl

Is it possible to be fwb with someone if you don't have a medium/large dick?

>>18563962
Have a conversation. You dun goofed if you didn't think up a couple of topics to open with.

>>18564002
Like what

>>18563991
I don't think it's unreasonable for someone to judge another based off of the number of sexual partners as long as they too are a virgin. It is unreasonable to judge a girl for not being a virgin if you've slept around.

My roommate is a virgin (by his choice for religious reasons among others) and he will not date anyone that has had sex with anyone else. He will also not have sex until marriage.

Now I don't necessarily agree with that and I've slept with numerous women and don't judge people for their past, but I still understand why he chose that and I respect his decision.

>>18563991
once you go black, we dont want you back

>>18564001
5 inches at full mast here.

I've got a fuckbuddy I please regularly with my dick, mouth, and hands. Turns out having a dick is maybe a third of the equation for sexually pleasing women. As long as you know how to turn her on, how to touch her, and how to get her off, she literally won't care how big your dick is.

>>18563991
you had many pertners, so you are likely to cheat, that's all. I know it doesn't have to go like this. But statistically speaking, it's exactly what would happen.

If a guy had a problem with niggers, he's either a racist or bought the bullshit of 'size is the only thing that matters' and became insecure. Dodged the bullet here

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>>18563991
>sheesh, here we go
females are genetically inclined to chose fewer sex partners with a more emotional and particular decision making process, because you have to chose carefully and then wait 9 months to try again, while males have lower standards and can just throw their seed everywhere every day

therefore, if you've banged "a lot of dudes" it gives the impression that you will leave a relationship if someone better comes along

read a book
then stop banging so many dudes
or don't, but accept the fact that you won't ever have a normal relationship with a guy

>>18563155
I don't have anything I like specifically about men that I don't like about women as well, when they have those traits. I'm bi, and I just go with the kinds of people I like, I don't really care about gender.
I like logical, thoughtful, artistic and introverted people who are compassionate and kind but not virtue signalling and controlled by emotions. Interests vary, but I tend to like left leaning people who aren't SJWs. I can't stand blonde hair on anyone, or being overweight, but other than that nothing stands out physically. I basically take people and potential partners on a case by case basis.

>>18563121
>1) In your relationships, were there any differences between the ones made official buy the other person (also could you specify their gender?) and the ones made official by you?
I'm bi, and I'd say that women are more eager to make it official, so they tend to do it before me since I'm kind of a reserved and shut off person. I've never really been the one to "make it official" - it usually happens by mutual agreement.
>2) If you get into a relationship with a guy who is experienced sexually and openly admits when you first start dating that he's dating other people, are you insecure? Do you find it hot?
I wouldn't like it. It's not so much a matter of insecurity, as feeling like he's not looking for anything serious, and is thus not worth my time. Not "hot" or unattractive, just a mark against going further.
>3) You date a guy and everything is wonderful minus a few of the usual issues (dumb fights, etc). However later you learn he had gay sex. Does this change anything? Does it depend on what he did (top, bottom, both, oral)?
I'm bi. I've had sex with women. It would be hypocritical. That being said, rather like dating a straight chick who's experimenting, if you were the kind of "bi" guy who was just a gay guy experimenting, and you'd only ever had serious relationships with men, it'd be a massive red flag.

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>>18563155
Dude here.

I like the way girls smell, the curvature of the waist to the hips, I like that they're soft and smooth and gentle. I like the look a girl gets on her face when she knows she's dragging you to something you really don't want to do but you're going anyway because you like her and she knows it. I like the way they're frustrating but worth it and the way they always need to be touching, even if it's just resting their hand somewhere on you. I like lots of things about women.

>>18563121
>were there any differences between the ones made official by the other person (also could you specify their gender?) and the ones made official by you?
I had 4 relationships, all with males. The times I made it official that lasted for longer and overall went better - happened with my long term ex (6 years) and with my current boyfriend (1,5 years). The ones where they asked me to be my boyfriend were a bit of a failure, but for pretty opposite reasons.

>If you get into a relationship with a guy who is experienced sexually and openly admits when you first start dating that he's dating other people, are you insecure? Do you find it hot?
The last guy I dated before my current boyfriend was like that. He had had many partners (40+) and, when we started dating, he had a FWB and was seeing other people.
It made me very insecure. Even if he made a conscious effort to make me feel valued (dropped everyone, asked me to be his official girlfriend, came to meet my parents) I still felt enormously insecure and ultimately broke it off because I didn't enjoy being with him.

> Does this change anything? Does it depend on what he did (top, bottom, both, oral)?
I actually find bisexual guys pretty hot, as long as they are masculine.
I also don't feel as much competition with guys as I do with girls, so I don't even feel jealous of exes or such things.

Women,
Are you as bothered by a large number of partners as men?

>>18563155
>Girls, what do you like about men?
Physically, I like how big and strong they are in comparison to me. I have this strong feeling of safety when I sit on my boyfriend's lap, rest my head on his shoulder and he wraps his arms around me. Like I'm surrounded by love, I'm somewhere safe.
I love the roughness of their skin, the feeling of their body hair under my fingertips when I caress them. I love their beard and the way it pokes me when we kiss. I love the way their jawline is shaped, the Adam's apple.
I love the contrast between their broad shoulders and the collarbones, strong arms and wrists.
I love the way their body moves when they sleep at night, the way they breathe.
The way they smell, too. One of my exes had this strong, amazing scent and ever time he slept over I couldn't get out of bed for hours because my bed smelled like him. I was so enamoured of his smell.

I like the contrast between the person they are around others and the person they are with me. I love seeing them being driven, passionate, competitive, bold and then the way they can be sweet, compassionate, loving with me. I love the intimacy with them, especially because it seems to be something so special and reserved for very few people. Like it's a gift for me only.

>>18564816
>Are you as bothered by a large number of partners as men?
I am bothered by it and it'd be a turn off. I don't think I am as bothered as them, because I don't feel repulsed or anything, but I definitely do feel insecure and I don't enjoy the fact that we have so different views on sex and its importance, the intrinsic value of the act of giving your body to someone.
I try to not make a huge deal out of it, but the only time I tried to date someone with a lot of partners it didn't work out well.

Girls:

Recently got into Tinder. Came across a chick I know IRL on there. I knew she lived around here but didn't think she'd have an account. Thing is I actually like her and it'd kill me if we didn't match. If it was just one of my female friends I'd match and laugh it off with her either way. Also I know this girl for professional reasons and I have no idea if it'd be awkward as fuck to then unfailingly have to see her at her work on a regular basis.

Wut do?

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>>18561963
Consult some other girls you know who're into makeup or go to a mall and ask one of the clerks in the makeup sections for what would look good on you. It sounds like the only thing she even puts on the table for you to be afraid of is her beauty and you can match her easy on that front by just learning your way around some eyeliner&shit unless you're just morbidly obese.

If you try it ain't all that hard to be the Kiara Mia or Brittney Spears/Avril Lavine your dude wants to fuck.

RIP if you're black though. Makeup helps there but not much so it really just comes down to how easily social and accomplished you are.

>>18561428
Everyone know women prefer the fat and bald men - fat wallets and bald dicks.

>>18561963
I was that girl. This guy I used to be friends with orbited me for FOUR YEARS. Then he settled for my one of my best friends. But kept hanging out with me. When they broke up, she told me that she knew he liked me more and according to her he "never stopped talking about you".

>>18563601
Depends on the woman. I'm introverted so... works for me.

>>18561673
They don't "like older guys." Girls like certain attributes that you are incorrectly categorizing as "he's older". A 14 yo might date a 16/17 because he has a car and is a step up in the social ranks. A 20 yo might date a 25-30 yo because he's likely out of school and has settled in a career/has more time for her. However, a 30 yo female doesn't typically date a 40 to 50 yo unless it's for money (hoes). The 30 yo would love to jump on a 22 yo dick in a heart beat.
This is a classical error in thinking.

>>18564910
Wow, you sure sound like a major bitch.

>>18562321
Porn and society has affect females too.
For some damn reason, many girls think every guy lusts over a large fat disgusting ass - especially if they're shaking it every which way. I can't stand it.
For some damn reason, many girls think slapping their ass is sexy. I find it completely dumb.
For some damn reason, many girls think just because they have sex with a guy, nothing else they say or do to said guy matters. They tend to become violent when guys don't just agree to all demands just for the opportunity to have sex.

Girlfriend and boyfriend labels mean absolutely nothing.

My advice: break up. When you eventually tell her you don't like it, she'll likely berate you and make the break up unpleasant.

>>18561833
If you catch him watching porn/masturbating you can join him and have sex, I'm sure he'll like it

>>18562627
Absolutely... women often have more than just one at a time...
We used to call them whores, but now they labelled "empowered."

>>18562693
"mature older guys" translates to "has more money and fewer obligations".
dump ass...

>>18564745
That's cute

>>18563598
Technically the opposite... you raped her. Report to the nearest police station and turn yourself in. If they don't immediately lock you up, find your own punishment get any BBC to ram you in the poop chute. That way... if you're ever in the same situation again, you'll have the fear on king dong to motivate you to run away.

>>18563121
I only date people I know and like. I wouldn't date someone to get to know him in general so no, I wouldn't date someone who's dating other people.
Yes, I am heterosexual and want to date someone that's heterosexual. I wouldn't find anything else hot.

>>18563601
Not if you have lots of money. Truthfully, women don't care about anyone other then themselves. Check out Darwin's second book, "The Curse of Men", page 31.

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Girls:
Asked this chick out just now and she said
>I can't I'm busy on Sunday:\
>But I'd love to another time
Should I just start offering other times or back off for a bit and try again next week?

>>18565039
If I were you I'd ask her to tell me when she has time, you can also say "what about next Sunday" if you do want to propose something

>>18563620
Boyfriend and girlfriend labels don't mean anything at all.
Really, it's your "girlfriend's" fault. None of this would have happened if she were laying there instead of your victim - regardless of what you say, that's how it'll sound in court; they all lie. Your so called girlfriend should have been there sucking you dry.
Don't you dare feel bad one once.
In fact, you should get some hidden cameras, call them both over to discuss and simply pull it out and repeat after me, "Are we going to do this or not?" The one who begins sucking first is the one who most wants you to be happy.

Girls

are animalistic grunt sounds a turn off when sexing? I dont really moan when I fuck but when I start pounding hard I unconsciously become full cave man mode and start grunting, not that loud but enough to start sounding like an orc rofl.

Ive been pretty insecure about it because one girl told me to "stop with that" in the middle of it.

>>18563732
Never, unless you get married. Seriously, seriously, seriously...

>>18565058
Goes right at home if you're pounding her right and she's moaning or doing that exhaling shit or whatever.

>>18563991
So, are you saying it should not matter? or are you simply mad because apparently it does matter?
Whore...

>>18563991
>Why do you care if Ive slept with a lot of guys in the past?
It's none of your business. Funny how that shit cuts both ways right?

>>18565058
I don't know, recently I met someone who makes those noises when he eats. I dislike him a lot and hearing that would remind me of him. Before I would probably have found it hot.

>>18563991
People have all the right to choose whether they want to be with you or not based on your past.

>>18564999
Thanks sempai can I please list you as a reference when applying for girlfriends?

>>18565039
That's some strong language so signs are good. I'd hit her with something like "When are you free?" and maybe nudge her into being the one to offer up the best day for her.

I'm a 22 years old guy, been talking with some 16 year old girl and she's inviting me over to play badminton. Would it be creepy if I accept?

>>18561727
What about dab daddies?

GF is incredibly insecure and wants PDA/validation all the damn time and it's getting tiring. Every time I bring it up she blows it up into a huge argument, pretty sure I'm just gonna break up with her. Thoughts?

>>18565401
how could it be possibly creepy if *she* invites you?
but if you do any sex-related things, it's extremly likely for the situation to jump right into creepiness

>>18565436
I mean, I fancy her physically, but I doubt she wants anything with me... I guess.

Will just accept and not try to escalate on my own. I'm kinda scared of legal stuff because age of consent here is 18.

>I think you're perfect. I'm serious, you really are boyfriend material... but I just don't know, I'm not feeling it. I'm a mess in my head right now and I can't think straight. I usually grow into loving someone and maybe I will, but we've been seeing each other for months now and what if that moment never comes? >Let's take a step back and just be close. I really don't know what I'm doing, but if we just change our context I might start feeling different about you.
We spent hours talking about going steady. She got out of a breakup quite some time ago and it's still nagging at her. I really do want to try, but it feels wrong to just dial back and pretend nothing's happened until she decides something will.

Does this sound like she's bullshitting me?

>>18565452
You're the rebound ya dingus. Move on

Girls, how thunder do you like your cocks?

>have an interwebs friend
>we get on like a house on fire
>great banter all around
>except dms where the atmosphere is stiff, cold and awkward
why and what can I do to fix it?

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My GF has recently broke up with me. I went extremely angry on her, apologized later. Two months have passed by, and what I have developed throughout this period is one particular fantasy, which basically rips me apart.

I imagine how she breaks up with me, recycling that event in my head. Then he goes on vacation (which she did), hook up randomly with some older male and after thirty minutes of funny chatting and bantering he bangs her in a car, on the front seat, her face is shining and she begs for more. This shit doesn't let me sleep at night, I have chest pain and one time I almost vomit. I am trying to distract myself from these thoughts, but they are so tough it made me depressed again and I have suicidal thoughts.

How do I get rid of that feeling?

>>18561416
to girls : suppose you have a bf with a below average dick. and someday somehow you encountered a big dick like idk maybe at the beach or the hospital or something, and it turns you on, the big dick turns you on, not your bf, but you have sex with your bf instead because of it. should that count as cheating ?

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How can you tell if a girl likes you?

I haven't had a gf in 5 years and don't want to make a fool of myself thinking she is into when she really isnt

>doesn't talk about her love life to me

>laughs at my dumb jokes

>she brought me leftover pizza she made once

>when I mentioned a YouTuber of one of my hobbies was cute she pretty much asked who it was and immediately looked her for some reason

>said she hated X artists music when I asked her if she listened to the new album yet. then I told her I loved it and she should listen to it. about a week later she starts posting songs off the album on her social media. (I don't have social media just sometimes stalk her public profiles to suss out if she likes me)

how can you tell if she is just being nice or if she is into you that way?

she is a coworker btw. known her for about a year and she hasn't asked me about social media or to exchange numbers yet.

if she ever asks to add me on Facebook or something how do I say I don't use social media without coming off as a creep or a red flag?

>>18565487
>should that count as cheating ?
No? How's that cheating?

>>18565474
Firstly, accept that its over. Repeat it to yourself once or twice a day.
Secondly, distract yourself with friends.
Third, dont go to sleep on a whim, you have to instantly fall asleep to avoid that pre-sleep daydreaming.

Iktf brah, it sucks dick when you imagine it

But you gotta tell yourself you dont care and eventually you wont, good luck

>>18565502
>thinking you can tell if a girl likes you
Yeah i was underage once too

>>18565502
Ask her out.

>>18565401
Just bring condoms to be sure. At 16 her body is full adult and any drop will make her pregnant for sure.

>>18565433
If your gf is like that, you will break up. You want to break up. Dont ask /adv for permission. You already have made your own decision.

>>18565506
cus you're turned on by other people that is hotter than your partner ?

>>18565487
Suppose you get a hard on from seeing a big titted girl on the beach, and you fuck your gf because of it. Would you be cheating?

I mean, I'd sure feel hurt if I got to know about something like that, but unless she told you you wouldn't know anyway. My gf is not jealous at all and she's even slightly bi curious, so whenever I get horny because of some other girl, she knows I'm coming to her to fuck her brains out. Sure it's a different situation, but you wouldn't know if she didn't tell you anyway.

>>18562215
I'm not even a guy.

>>18561963
I've been in his place, it was a bit different though: I got a crush on a childhood friend that I met again later in life, she didn't reciprocate, I got a gf and we remained friends.

At one point she was so jealous she just started to freak out and argue with my gf in a barbecue we were throwing, full of bullshit. I didn't even need to pick my gf's side just out of her being my gf, because that friend was full of shit regardless of who she was. I've scolded her hard and we never spoke again.

So do keep an eye out, sure, but if he really likes you, he'll remain faithful, and she'll screw up hard at some point and leave your lives. Girls like that are not used to losing in this game and they freak out when they do

Is a club at school a good place to meet potential gf candidates? It just doesn't really feel like a place people go to if they are looking for a date.

>>18565605
>but you wouldn't know if she didn't tell you anyway.
it's just such a shitty phenomenon. with girls, they all feel the same, but if our gf is turned on by bigger guys, fucking us wouldn't satisfy the kind of thing she wished to be satisfied. if that's just the nature of women that we all should just accept, then how is it worth it to actually marry a woman, in this day and age ?

Girls

Do other girls criticize or pressure you if you are a single girl and not having sex with someone?

As a guy, I hear shit all the time. Like "if you're not going to use your dick, you should donate it to someone who will" or "men have sex, boys don't"

>>18565683
You're exaggerating. First, girls don't all feel the same. Second, you overestimate the effects of a big dick because of porn.

I'm like 5.25~5.5" and I poke my gf's cervix if I'm not careful. A big dick is aesthetically appealing for them and a turn on for the looks, but too big is actually discomfortable. Unless she's a fetishist for big dicks or size queen, it's really unlikely that she'd trade a good lay with an average guy just because of a bigger dick. Those with a really whore side might cheat out of curiosity, but those are whores regardless of size or not.

And "this day and age" have nothing to do with it. It's always been like that, except before there wasn't internet to make those widespread concerns

>transferring next semester
>want to lose my vcard and and then sine while Im away
>tfw 4.5 inches
Ladies, how much of a turn off is that realistically? I have standards and I plan in pursuing girls with standards as well. I'm a good looking guy, but tfw 4.5 inches. I was hoping my overall confidence would make up for it.

>>18565681

If youre looking for a gf, you don't do activities like that for the purpose of finding a date. You do it to meet people. You could meet girls there you might want to ask out or you might meet girls/guys who could introduce you to girls you might want to ask out. Starting any hobby or activity and expecting a date will lead to a disappointment, but knowing a lot of people who know people will significantly increase your chances in the long run.

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>>18565727
Pic related.

>>18565743
All orgasms for girls are in her clit stimulation. Dick size only means if the sex will hurt her or not. Also poking cervix is not fun.

Do foreplay, cuddle before and after, eat het out, make her cum before you insert and you will probably be her best lover yet.

>>18565754

That's an interesting quote.

>>18565740
you have no idea, the fornix thing is a secret orgasm for them, really good orgasm. i can't find a big dick amateur porn where the girls aren't enjoying it. but with below average penis, a lot. if big penises are aesthetically pleasing then how do you think they would feel about a very aesthetically pleasing thing is inside them ?

>>18565767
>you have no idea
>my experience watching amateur porn says so
>mfw have fucked my gf over a thousand times by now
>mfw being schooled by a porn connoisseur

Sure pal, you're the big dick expert apparently

>>18565767
Do you actually believe girls enjoy what they do in porn?

>>18565727
Not at all. It can even be considered whorish.

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Need some advice from women and men here please:

I've been on 2 dates with this girl, as soon as I saw her I instantly liked her and we spent 8 hours together.

2nd date was even better and we spent another 8 hours together she even paid for my Uber and her Uber home.

But in between those dates, I try text but she doesn't respond, or she gives 1 word answers, I really like her, I can imagine bringing her home to my parents etc.

But for example this morning I said how are you? She replied and didn't ask how I was, which I thought was a bit rude.

I feel like spilling my guts to her because I can't stop thinking about her, but is that the best action?

I don't want to waste my time if there is nothing there, I'm 27 I want a girlfriend that I will end up marrying. (Which I won't say to her yet as I don't want to to scare her away)

Pic related is part of the convo from our texts that I mentioned above

>>18566016
Flash news: some people hate texting!

Ask her on another date and stop bugging her via texting when it is obvious she doesnt enjoy it. Try something else to do with your free time in order to not be clingy bf. Csgo? Sport? Sleep? School? Fap?

And try to hold hands in public and tell her she is sexy! And whatever you do, never tell her you love her first. Use actions instead of words. Ask her on dates, fuck her, bring her flowers whatever just dont talk about love and or relationships.

Good luck!