Cheating

You have sex with her.

>>18552497
You gotta stand your ground, tell yourself "No, I'm with someone now, someone who I trust and who trusts me, I have to fight temptation". If a good-looking woman throws herself at you, remember that, remember that as badly as you want it you have to say no. Everytime you feel tempted and start thinking of how you want to do something with some other person, try imagining yourself doing it with your partner instead of them.
If you have a fulfilling relationship with someone you care for enough, you'll find it easier to not cheat, obviously, since you'll worry too much about how you'd hurt that person if you did.
Or you could go for an open relationship, I dunno.
Have you cheated before?

You first have to gather some information.
Her occupation and where.
Where's she's from.
Where she studied.

If these are far from your girlfriend then go ahead.

>>18552497
>Implying any good looking woman is going to throw herself at you.

Good joke OP.

>>18552515
Not sure if this is specific to video games but almost every girl that I've met in game while playing with my bf has thrown herself at him, trying to go behind my back and take him, he's not allowed to add girls anymore because they aren't trustworthy. I think sometimes guys with girlfriends attract more women than they usually would

And she fucking knows. Just look at her facial expression.

>>18552497
I'm not gonna lie. I would have cheated if she did that to me. I want to believe that I wouldn't, but who am I kidding.

>>18552529
>I think sometimes guys with girlfriends attract more women than they usually would
I've noticed this, too. Why is that?

I honestly don't know, mate. What can we do?

>KO

Was Don Draper a bad man?

>>18552497

>Is this normal?

No

>How do you make sure that you don't cheat?

Exercise basic self control.

>Eveyone can be happy and in love for the first year, but what happens when a good looking woman throws herself at you?

You act like an adult and control your fuckin self, mate. Its the same reflex that stops people from eating candy all day or buying shit they can't afford.

Self control. Live it, learn in. The fact that this concept is so foreign to you is troubling.

>>18552821
The average guy can't even successfully do nofap for a week, and you expect them to not cheat if the opportunity comes around?

>>18552821
You are seriously downplaying the temptation that can arise from an attractive female giving you attention.

I agree self control is necessary, but you are making it sound wayyyy easier than it actually is.

If you're the type of guy that doesn't get much female attention anyway, then you won't be tempted as often or as much.

If you're a Don Draper type then it's an entirely different story

>>18552798
He literally did nothing wrong.

>>18552798
Epitome of alpha.

>>18552831

>The average guy can't even successfully do nofap for a week, and you expect them to not cheat if the opportunity comes around?

Being unable to stop masturbating for a week doesn't carry even remotely similar implications or consequences as being unable to stay faithful in a relationship. Your comparison is dumb.

>>18552838

>You are seriously downplaying the temptation that can arise from an attractive female giving you attention.

I'm not. Self-control is difficult but making the conscious choice to betray the trust of the person you're in a committed relationship has no excuse. I'm not saying that people don't make mistakes but I'm saying that "I couldn't help myself" is a shit cop out. Like I said, this is the same mindset if you're caught stealing or drunk driving or any number of impulsive things.

You make a decision, you live with the consequences. No one cares or wants to hear about how you couldn't control yourself. Being a habitual cheater is more than just about being unable to resist temptation, its about completely disregarding the feeling of your girlfriend and making the decision to betray her. Maybe resisting temptation is hard but for a lot of people, myself included, resisting the temptation to hurt the people in my life who love me isn't.

>>18552567
Because they see them as loyal

>>18552798
Based.

>>18552497
I cheated in a past relationship. Between studying psychology and that experience, im pretty solid now..

Three main things:

1) Avoid deep friendships with women. Sometimes they go places. Especially when youre taken. Women are crazy about taken men for reasons that would take a lecture to explain and arent solid science in the first place so why bother...

You can make plenty of friends and have a decent enough life without it. Bonus: nothing for your gf to dig into.

My current gf, love of my life, legit best friend, is crazy jealous. I only know that because its come up once or twice in 4 years. I rarely have to deal with it at all so i get a lot of her good without her bullshit.

2) a wandering eye and desire to fuck others is an instinct. It comes and goes. When youre feeling cheaty, tell yourself with confidence (because its true) the feeling will pass. It always does. It comes back but thats just another battle for later.

3) limit porn intake. Its triggering.

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>>18552926
>Women are crazy about taken men for reasons that would take a lecture to explain
Nah, you can't just say that without elaborating.

You're gonna explain it.

Cheat! Honestly, all those threads of guys and girls whining how they regret their choices are the most hilarious ones between all those boring "How can I get a GF/BF?" threads in relationship forums. It's particularly funny when it happens in marriages and the woman ends up getting everything from house to the fucking dog.

So just cheat. Need something to entertain that black humor of mine.

>>18552956

Not the anon frmo above, but it's simple really - women with really low self-esteem continually compare themselves to other women. And by "conquering" their man - which they deem to be a real big accomplishment, lmfao - they show that they're better than the guy's GF/wife.

Which is also why they often turn psycho when the dude picks his GF/wife over her, so she proceeds to make sure the wife/GF knows. And then BOOM!

>>18552497
i posted yesterday about a chance i had to cheatdo on my gf with my best friend. Today I cheated on her, I lost my virginity with my best friend and sex felt amazing, even all the cuddling, but now my mind is focused on trying to forget that I did something terrible to an amazing woman.

Learn to control yourself, dont ever cheat if you can't handle the consequences. Even if your gf is shit, don't do it man. I got trapped by my curiosity, if you feel the need to cheat, better talk with your girl about your needs or break up with her.

>>18552971

>Not the anon frmo above, but it's simple really - women with really low self-esteem continually compare themselves to other women. And by "conquering" their man - which they deem to be a real big accomplishment, lmfao - they show that they're better than the guy's GF/wife.

I think this is just one possible manifestation of low self-esteem. Every body is different and expresses their insecurity in different ways.

Also, men use sex to shore up their self esteem just as much if not much more than women. Ultimately, this isn't about women, its just about people in general.

>>18552956
not him, but to simplify, women desire a man who can provide and is higher status than herself. If a guy already has a girl, this signifies atleast that another woman finds him able to provide, and depending on the status of the woman he is with, can also signify he is higher in status than she is, essentially setting off her biological syntax making her find you attractive.

Guys on the other hand want a sex toy who only they can fuck. This is in part due to the fact we are hardwired to fall in love with women we desire sex with, hence why there are so many simps. Only after conscious training and/or thought do guys not fall in love purely out of physical attraction. We men fall in love as it tricks us into providing resources and security for the female, like a venus fly trap or an angler fish dangling some bait. Rob Kardashian is a great example of what I'm talking about. Guys don't want to provide resources for a woman in return for sex if she is giving out sex to other men for free. A relationship in this sense really is prostitution.

This is why women get shamed for sleeping around/being promiscuous, whereas guys get shamed for being virgins. People talk of equality and talk of how misogynist slutshaming is, but conveniently ignore virgin shaming and have a lack of basic knowledge about male/female biology.

>>18552956

I re read and actually started expecting that. Sorry. Ill remind its not really confirmed because psychologies kinda like that...

Running hypothesis:

Women's reproductive instinct are based on being able to get pregnant like once a year, and the fact theyre probably going to die soon from starvation, a lion, or the fucking cold.

They need a good mate and they need it fast.

When in a good relationship women are better at being faithful because they think theyve got the best one.

When they arent... Any very quick and superficial sign a male is a suitable mate will do.

Like say... Another woman is staying close to him so there must be something very good about him.. Or other women are fucking him so he must be a real catch. surely hes a good enough; then they try to steal.

Thats not the only thing they could look for but itd certainly be one of them.

Many a study with brain scans have shown women making snap judgements on men in very very short time periods (milliseconds).

And others where theyll show 1000 women a picture of a man and say hes single and ask if hes attractive, and tell 1000 others hes married. He gets higher positive feedback if hes married.

That and other studies are what they draw their narratives from.

>>18552996

You're making a lot of generalizations and assumptions about what men and women want. This is a great personal theory but, alas, thats all it is.

>>18552977
>people in general

I am the anon hes replying to and i wanted to add to my response>>18553001

Pretty much this. Humans are animals. The cultural veneer is pretty deceiving.

Everyone is really weird and fucky, and relevant to this, everyone is a downright asshole when it comes to love sex and relationships.

Men and women just differ slightly because their reproductive "schedules" are different so they need seperate strategies.


And when a female notices a males "animal" bullshit they dont experience therefore dont understand or vice versa, hoo boy, let the confirmation bias sexism and bitter world view without self reflection fly!!!

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Reading through my own thread, how the fuck am I supposed to stay faithful? No, seriously.

>>18553035

Past relationship cheater, current ltr faithful here.

Ill tl;dr a previous post....

1) avoid other women.

2) let the wandering eye feeling pass. It always goes away.

3) limit porn.

>>18553035
yeah im gonna rewatch mad men now

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>>18553041
>1) avoid other women.
That is not possible.
>2) let the wandering eye feeling pass. It always goes away.
It's on 24/7 though....
>3) limit porn.
I can do that.

>>18553042
It gives perspective.

>>18552497

I think about all the STD's and other fuckery I'll have to deal with. Hell maybe I'll even go as far as letting her get semi-naked so I can check out the goods - there's rarely such a thing as a perfect woman IRL, there will always be something. Maybe there's a bit of cellulite that usually gets airbrushed, or her hips are actually kinda narrow, or her boobs don't hang quite so perfectly once the bra and clothes are off, or her calves are too big or oddly shaped, or her pits are hairy, etc.

Then I'll also remember that I've fucked hot women before and how it's not really that big of a deal after all. Really hot for up to a few hours, then I cum and end up watching a movie or w/e and everything is normal as always.

After that I'll also realize all the fuckery I'll have to deal with because I cheated - losing the respect of my friends and family, my coworkers - and having to lie my ass off when people ask.

Yeah, nah. That fine ass is really just a mass of jiggly fat and titties are more alluring while in some kind of garment 100% of the time (imagination is always better than reality). Maybe I'll cop a feel and save some mental pics for however long that lasts, then I'll apologize and tell her about how, as alluring and irresistible as she is (hence why I went this far) I really can't betray my SO. Now I get to look like a fucking hero.

Go home, load up some porn to look for a similar body type (or not and just keep the mental imagery), fap, cum buckets, take a shower, sleep.

Wake up, glad I don't have to worry about baby momma's, clap/crabs/syphillis/HPV/Herpes/HIV/motherfucking-AIDS, or a fuckton of other shit, be glad for a brand new day, move on with my life.

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Can we all agree that Pete was the most alpha male on the show?

>>18552497
I've come to the conclusion that women just do whatever they want with us and that we don't ACTUALLY have a saying in it.

>>18553115
He had his moments for sure.

>>18552497

A lot of bait replies in the thread, but whatever.

Date someone you really love that loves you back. That's about it. Be discerning as fuck. If you can't find someone, die alone, and be good with that.

I got into a relationship a couple of years back with an amazing girl. Nice, pretty, smart, offered fuck me however I wanted whenever I wanted. We shared a lot of interests, and anything we didn't, she wanted to be a part of. Everything on the checklist. But guess what? I met a girl that was just... amazing. She changed my entire perspective. To steal a line from Bowling for Soup, when she walked in, the wind blew in and the angels sang.

I dumped my girlfriend because I knew I'd cheat on her in a moment if asked by that girl. Wait for the right person.

Look how easy it is for a hot woman to just take whoever she wants.

>>18552961
Holy shit, you're like the most sane motherfucker I've seen on this board thus far. Fucking kudos. Yeah just cheat OP.

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>>18553151
Sounds like you cheated in a way. Idk how to explain it.

What happens when another chick falls into your lap?

>>18553151
Aren't you contradicting yourself. Everything is perfect until perfect perfect shows up.

I know I'm gonna be flammed for this but why is cheating all that bad? It's just sex.

>>18553079
>that is not possible

In the longer version, its avoid risky contact. Work colleagues and friends are unavoidable. What you can avoid is flirty conversation or being alone with them in intimate settings.

If feelings are developed, sexual or otherwise, avoid them for awhile. May only even take a few days.

>its on 24/7

Could be your age. I dont know how old you are. But that also relates to porn. I mean, youre on 4chan. You got tits in your face daily (bold assumption on how much youre here.)

I seriously love my gf of 5 years more and im more attracted to her if i just cool it from this place for like a few days.

>i can do that

Coo.

>>18553204
Because I don't share. Other people can share. I don't.

That is just the way it is.

>>18553204

Instinct.

We have a monogomy drive built on top of the fuck everything drive because evolution is shoddy. It kind of duct tapes new things on top of old things.


Youre right. Its just friction. Being arm to arm with someone on a packed subway is objectively the same if you remove all moral and emotion.


But were pre installed with that "my reproductive partner! My seed! My genes!" drive. So its a huge deal. Not everyone is like this, and Maybe you truly arent, but the vast majority are.

What makes it wrong is the pain and damage it can bring to another human you care about. Not the act itself.

I know exactly where youre coming from and you arent necessarily wrong.

I suggest you involve yourself in a polyamourous relationship.

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>>18553214
Do you ever feel like you want to have sex with other women? Do you ever get hit on by attractive women?

>>18553166

I guess it's "emotional cheating," which I don't really subscribe to. I didn't cheat on my girlfriend, I found someone more compatible, and she doesn't win because she found me first.

That said, the other girl was literally a once-in-a-lifetime find, and is one of the top two loves of my life (only compared to a girl who died). So it's not like I just got bored, my entire worldview was changed.

>>18553189

Sorry, see >>18553267.

I think the point I'm really trying to make is that "perfect" isn't easily defined. I make the first girl sound great, but all she did was check off this list of traits I and everyone should think they want. But there was no passion - it was like buying a car with all of the features you agreed you'd look for at the right price, but it never made you excited.

Perfect doesn't exist, but you should have the self respect to hang on for the one that makes the world feel its brightest.

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>ITT : a lot of kids that know close to nothing about biology and evolution talking about biology and evolution

>>18553287
Enlighten us.

>>18553290

>Enlighten us.

I'm not an expert on biology or evolution so I'm not even going to begin to try to validate my own personal theories about the behavioral patterns of men and women by referencing science I'm not an authority on.

I appreciate that everyone here wants to share their personal perspective about why men or women do what they do but trying to frame your personal experiences as proven science based on even a loose understanding of evolutionary psychology is a mental leap of the greatest kind. It is a very popular thing around here for people to use pseudo intellectualism to give their opinions validity when, in my opinion, its so easy to just drop your ego and say "this is my opinion" instead of trying to characterize your interactions with a handful of women as the ultimate truth.

As someone who has cheated and deeply regretted it just don't put yourself in compromising situations. For me they involve alcohol and being with people who wouldn't judge for cheating. I have certain guy friends I can drink with alone because I know they'd judge the fuck out of me for cheating. Other guy friends would encourage me to cheat, or at least turn a blind eye. Also be aware of your own temptation levels. The night I cheated (no sex, but touching) I realized that I subconsciously orchestrated a situation where I could """""accidentally"""""" slip. It took me a long time to snap out of the denial that I knew exactly what I was doing. I don't think I'll repeat the same mistake again, it was not worth it, and the guilt consumed me for a long, long time. It still eats at me a little bit, I feel like I won't be able to tell my future partner either because honestly, what good person would stay with a cheater?

It's not worth it, absolutely not. It's a stain on your soul that will never go away. Once you've cheated you can't take it back, even if you regret it with every ounce of your being, it's part of your identity forever.

>>18553307
>I'm not an expert on biology or evolution so I'm not even going to begin to try to validate my own personal theories about the behavioral patterns of men and women by referencing science I'm not an authority on.

You literally just said that the rest of us were kids who knew nothing about biology and evolution. Way to back peddle dipshit

>>18553473

Making the statement that someone doesn't have the education or data necessary to make a definitive scientific claim is not equivalent to me stating I do. This has nothing to do with me being right and everyone else being wrong and everything to do with needing actual proof when you claim your opinion is an objective truth.

Anyone is entitled to have an opinion but as soon as you start claiming that your opinion is backed by science its going to be important to know exactly what makes you qualified to say that. I don't need to be a biology professor to know that the kids here making generalized statements about women aren't.

Way to completely fail at basic reading and comprehension, dipshit.

From my experience with cheating, and what I've read on the subject, people tend to cheat for two reasons. The first is that something's missing from their relationship. For example, after the honeymoon phase of relationships is over, couples often have sex less. Sometimes that's fine, and sometimes that leaves one partner feeling unsatisfied. Or, perhaps there's no more excitement in their relationship, or their partner doesn't give them attention in other ways. Then, they come across someone who excites them, gives them attention, desires them sexually. Or, maybe cheating helps the person access some part of themselves they were suppressing in their current relationship. The second reason is for personal reasons. Maybe the person is addicted to sex. Maybe the person's sense of self-worth is tied to feeling sexually desired from women, or from sexual conquest, and so just fucking one woman isn't enough. There's other examples I can't currently think of, but they're more internal reasons instead of a lackluster relationship creating the right conditions for cheating.

>>18553084
A true man anon

>>18553407
>The night I cheated (no sex, but touching)
Is touching, cheating?!

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>>18553115
He got the best women, that's for sure.

Is this okey with NSFW? Where does the line go? Nipple? This isn't even pornography.

>>18554550
Friendly reminder that good looking women do as they please.

>>18554550
I've been watching this gif for a good 7 minutes now.

Why is cheating so hot?

>>18554667
Because it is taboo, and because of the validation boost - you feel "better" than your partner or than the person's partner.

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>>18554667
Because everything in the world is about sex except sex. Sex is about power.

jesus fucking christ megan is hot

>>18552567
Because it means they got good genes if other females are interested in them. Simple genetics.