NEET here, how do I get control over my life again?

You need 3 things: a job, time and dedication. Forget about relationships for a while, shits never really going to work unless you're feeling good about yourself.
Write down all the things you want to fix about your life and keep it somewhere safe. Get a job and dedicate yourself to it 100%. Get as much overtime as possible and save as much money as possible. Having cash opens up a lot of options. Try to become a little bit more independent. If you're out of shape, try working out. Look back at your list and try fixing one thing at a time. Use all your resources, anything you have that can help complete the list.

>>18549679
you never had control.
none of us do.

It was all for me.
It always was.

>>18549732
other anon here
I tried the "job with as much overtime" and was still in the same position he was, so I had to quit. Do I have to do it again?

>>18549679
What are you studying? if it's something that will land you a job, you are not so bad off. Chin up , anon.

>>18549732
OP here, I guess you are right about the relationship-thingy but it hurts being alone. But how to deal with that "inner barrier" ?Everytime I should study for my univ. courses I basically force myself to procrastinate,even if I just sit around then doing nothing while the other part of me is disusted by that cowardice. I know it sounds stupid I'm sorry but that's the best way to describe it. Fear is my motivation but it cripples me more than it's helping.
>>18549847
Computer Science

>>18549886
My situation is way too similar OP, I was studying CS as well but couldn't get anything done, I'd just procrastinate, I started in 2011 and I've switched schools, majors, still can't bring myself to do shit. And I feel you when you say it might sound stupid, I feel the same way, it's hard to talk about.