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Open relationship struggles 2017-07-24 12:45:17 Post No. 18549534
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Hey /adv/ so my relationship recently became long distance, and in response to that after a few weeks we opened up our relationship to hookups or fuckbuddies. Before he left I was the one to propose this because I thought it would be good for us and we both have sex drives. When he left I really wanted it and was very horny more often than usual. He was really reluctant before leaving but then decided he wanted to do it after moving although with a lot of rules which is understandable.
Now we both have a few apps and he's slept with a few people and I've suddenly lost my sex drive and I don't know what's going on. I'm worried this is gonna weird him out and I don't wanna waste this opportunity for myself anyway. We have a rule restricting the number of partners relative to the other person and I don't wanna restrict him (that's a rule he was more about) just because I'm not horny.
What do I do to get my sex drive back?
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>>18549534
sounds like you lost your drive for meaningless sex
not really much of a way to get it back other than taking a break (from sex and porn)
I'm also in a long distance relationship and want to fuck everything I see,,, but what I miss the most is fucking my partner
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>>18549534
You opted for an open relationship because you didn't want to admit that your regular relationship wasn't working. Your sex drive is gone because deep down you don't want an open relationship you just don't want to break up with him over the distance.
I base this assumption on the fact that you both felt the need to establish a lot of rules to compensate for the obvious jealousy and discomfort that you both knew you were going to feel with the situation.
I think you need to break this off. I think its silly and unrealistic that you thought an open relationship was the solution to your distance problem.
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>>18549553
>I'm also in a long distance relationship and want to fuck everything I see,,, but what I miss the most is fucking my partner
I feel this so much. This exactly summarizes how I felt before my drive vanished.
I think you're right, like it's ok that I don't want sex right now I just don't know how to say that or if I even should because it would make him feel weird probably if I told him it was fine for him to keep hooking up and that I'm having a dry spell.
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>I base this assumption on the fact that you both felt the need to establish a lot of rules to compensate for the obvious jealousy and discomfort that you both knew you were going to feel with the situation.
I think it's important to understand that we're humans with emotions and jealousy is a normal thing when someone else is fucking your partner. I personally felt fine about the whole thing but he's very new to all of this so we both set up rules and boundaries like with any aspect of a relationship. This made us a lot more open about sex and I'm not asking for advice on the state of our relationship, I'm asking about how to either communicate this to him or how to get my drive back.
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