Breaking up with someone you live with

>I feel like this relationship isn't going anywhere
>I'm just not sexually satisfied anymore
>It might be time for you to find another place to live
>You have until next month to move out or things will get legal

>>18549273
And then live with her for another month? I don't think I can do that

>It might be time for you to find another place to live
>You have until next month to move out or things will get legal
If she's on the lease, and I'm guessing she is based on how long they've been together, he has no right to kick her out.

>>18549292
We're renting, both names on the contract

>>18549300
Which means you can't kick her out unilaterally. And there also may be a penalty if you end the lease early

>>18549286
then a week, or suggest another place for her to stay until she get get her stuff

>>18549273
>>18549292
>>18549308
I feel like everyone's focusing on the wrong stuff, perhaps I didn't convey my issue very well - I care about this girl a lot, I don't want to leave her in a place that will remind her of me every day.

Is there anyone here who's been in a similar situation?

I would have broken up with my gf two years ago if we didn't live together. Our relationship got a lot better at the end of last year. Things go up and down. They especially go up if you communicate and look out for yourself.

I don't know if my life would have been better or worse now if we had gone separate ways though. I like stability like you, so I guess I rather deal with some issues once in a while than shaking things up. Perfect relationships do not exist.

>>18549326
This guy's not wrong. Communication is a very important piece of any successful relationship. It sounds like you need to talk to her about this stuff.

>>18549322
But based on this, your problem is that you are caring too much. It's important to make sacrifices for someone you love, but you should never have to sacrifice yourself. Be honest with her and don't put all of your focus on her needs, you're only neglecting the one who really matters which is you. Explain what you posted above to her and if she cares about you the way you care about her, she'll be willing to work things out, but if she's not, then you know it's time to move on.

>>18549326
>>18549346
Thank you both for your advice. I guess I will try to discuss some of these things with her, maybe even all of them over time, despite the fact that she doesn't handle these talks very well. But who knows, maybe she'll surprise me.

>>18549366
>>18549326 here

My girl wanted to travel all the time, and it was very stressful for me. I ended up telling her that I hate travelling and I wouldn't travel with her if it could be avoided. She didn't take it well at all.

It took some time to drill it in to her head that it wasn't down to me not wanting to do things with her. But that it was something she wanted, which is so costly for me that it was only something I could do sparingly for her, if it was really important for her. And only because I really cared for her. As it wasn't a thing for both of us, but her interest, together we found things we both care for (and can manage without getting strained). It is important to realise that you are two separate persons, and it is impossible to be totally compatible in everything. So it is vital to figure out what causes you to drain each other, and do those things separately. And then build up something common between you that both enjoy.

I don't know if my experience is applicable for you, but there you go nonetheless.

>>18549439
It's not exactly applicable, but the conclusions you've drawn from your experience help.