How to feel love?

Bump for help. I really need some

>>18545047

I think you are misinterpreting the situation here. you probably DID like her at first and now the honeymoon phase is over and you realize she isn't anything particularly special, so you are retroactively applying those emotions to the entire relationship. this happens a LOT.

sometimes you meet someone who in person seems to be really happy and fun, and they make grand declarations about how they are the happiest and luckiest person because of their friends.

then that night on facebook they've been home alone for 3 hours without a god hobby so they become sad and they retroactively apply that emotion to their life. they think 'well im sad now, and its really sad, so that must mean that happiness was a lie, therefore I am depressed and just putting on smiles for everyone elses sake'

Nonsense logic. but thats what a lot of people do.

anyways, in your case if you arent into her it doesn't mean you are wrong or broken. hell even if you NEVER felt anything for her it doesn't mean you are wrong or broken. you cant just date ANYONE and expect happiness to fall out.

>>18545347
What do I do? I am scared about breaking up because it's the first person that has ever taken interest in me.... I'm so introverted and "Beta" that it's impossible for me to initiate anything, and most girls are sluts in my town? How can I get back that "honeymoon" phase of a relationship?

>>18545047
you don't feel love...

you are love

So wat do?

>A guy who can't feel love has had a girlfriend for nine months

truly there is no hope for me

>>18547007
So are you basically saying that I actually love her, but the endearment isn't registering up in the brain, per say?
If so, I just got mindfucked....

>>18545047
Not everyone feels loved the same way.
JUST ASK HER how you can act to give love/affection to her.

>>18545047
the questions here are, do you care for her enough to try and love her back? do you see yourself with her in the future?

Love can grow and change with time, when you care for a person well being and you want to pass your time with that person, that is already a form of love.
Romantic love in the other hand, is more profound, when the life of that person outlevel yours and you want to care and protect, and enjoy time with that one no matter what hardships shows in time.

If you dont understand, feelings, read behavioral psychology and empathy, it could help you in some way to understand people more, it helped me.

>>18547200
this.