Advice Giveaway, AMA and I'll Help :)

>>18538331
Should i shave/trim/wax my pubes?
I don't like the way my wiener looks with hair. What do you think most girls prefer?

What is the best way to block out negative thoughts and memories and focus on the good aspects of life?

>>18538341
I think you should if the sight bothers you (it is actually pretty unhygienic due to all the bacteria and such).

From what I know most girls prefer a shaven or trimmed beard down there. Some actually don't mind, but it does bother them when it comes down to blowjobs.

Keep in mind it's very itchy at first when you shave it (I know from experience). You might want to get some cream or something ready for the itchiness.

>>18538352
From my experience:
Don't think too much. Just do things you like, whatever they are, and the bad thoughts will automatically go away.

As for the focus on good things, I'd say you need to have goals and dreams (think of something long term first, then break it up on short term objectives and go for them. Try to have many short term objectives going at a time, so if anything goes wrong with one you can quickly shift to another one and avoid getting depressed/lose interest).

>>18538368
Good advice, appreciated

I have a girlfriend, but should I fuck a guy for money? I'm short on money.

>>18538409
You're the only one who knows about your values and beliefs.

If fucking a guy for money goes against your moral values and beliefs, don't. No matter how much poverty or lack of prospect can fuck you up, nothing is gonna fuck you up more than losing your dignity.

If not, by all means, do it.

Might do a thread about it later, but I'll ask here first since you seem sincere.

I'm in a career where the title you get is meaningless by industry's standards, and the highest priorities are making a good portfolio.

It's been a year since I started a group project with 3 other people, and I think we bit off more than we could chew, since the scope of the final work just kept getting bigger.

It's gonna be our final year, and I barely have anything to show on my portfolio... Should we abandon the project to have the chance to work on our stuff? Or should we start cutting corners, in hopes that we'll be able to finish the project this year?

tldr; Is it better to have one big project, or multiple proofs of concept when you want to ask for a job?

>>18538463
If you believe your project can be finished, I think you should stick with it.

I'm not really sure what kind of career you're talking about but I have a guess, and if i'm correct, it is better to have a solid big finished project than having multiple small ones.

I know things get boring after a long while working on the same thing, and even worse when there doesn't seem to be a clear end in sight, but still, I'd stick with it since you've already come this far. Better to have one big thing you can be proud of than having a lot of "meh" things like everyone else.

Also, if it is worrying that the project got out of hand, you should talk to your group and find a way of compacting it a little bit without losing the essence, yes.

>>18538496
You're right, I think I'm just getting a bit jaded because of how much it's taking to finish the project.

I'm studying game design by the way, dunno if it was your guess, but this is the sort of advice I needed, thank you!

>>18538331

Thanks for doing this OP...
I have a chronic illness and feel like I have unfinished business. I never got to fall in love, follow through on my career dreams, or become independent. How do I let go? I know it won't matter to me when I'm gone, but that could be years. Each day is full of sorrow that I can't seem to overcome.

yo, i just text this chick whos 16 so legal anyways, a few things and said yh i dropped her back to thr train station 1 time a couple years ago, it was for a friend at the time, she said she didnt remember, n i offered her to smoke a zoot with me anytime she sees me, she defo smokes weed, she hasnt read that msg yet and i suspect she will not reply, but does this strengthen the chances in future if i see her in real life, i live in england and people around here are less formal

so how autistic did i do

>>18538518
I'm sorry to hear that.

Is it really terminal? If it is, there's not a better saying than that of living every day as if it's the last. If you love someone, whoever that may be, tell them, there's nothing to lose. Do what you want to do, what makes you happy.
Don't worry about being independent and career dreams now. You have a disease. This is not the time to think about work and money (unless you lack the latter, in which case you'll have to find the first unfortunately).

Humans have always lived their lives in a serial way, like robots, doing what society says we have to. No one is ever plainly happy with anything.
I'm sure you did your best up to this point, and just like I am proud of you, I'm sure a lot of people are.

Say what you want to say, do what you want to do. Live for yourself without a care in the world. You deserve it.
As a matter of fact, we all do. This advice is for everyone out there. I know it's always hard to put this thought in our head when everything around us presses us to act in X way, but sometimes, the best thing to do is to just blind ourselves and do the first thing that comes to mind. In a few hours/days/weeks/years none of it will have mattered unless we regret not having done it.

Just don't go full crazy okay? Don't go punching babies because you can.

Consider your illness as the green light to do whatever you want right now.

You're a good person, you deserve it.
Don't think about what you should or needed to do, think about what you want and will do from now on.

>>18538522
If she does weed, maybe she'll agree.

But I suspect you should have been a little more "casual" you know? It sounds like you just came by a person you haven't seen in years and threw weed at their face like: "Yo, let's smoke this up".

She may be a little confused about this.

Can I pee on my property?

Like, out on my front lawn, for example?

>>18538599
Thank you. I'll save this to read whenever I forget. You seem like a good person from all the advice you've given in the thread- hope you come back sometime.

>>18538607
You can.

I would make sure no one is around to see though. It could ruin your reputation where you live and could also cause you legal problems (say a kid sees it, tells the parents, parents file a report/lawsuit for indecency or sexual harassment).

>>18538613
>ruin my reputation

lmfao only reason I'm asking is to get a repuation, I wanna be known as the drunk porch pisser with the log cock.

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>>18538510
>>18538612

Thank you all too, for trusting me.

>>18538612
Don't forget: We are all afflicted by a terminal illness called mortality.
I don't know if it's sadder that some people happen to know when it's coming to take it's toll, or sadder that most people don't know when it's coming and thus forget to live every day and treat it as special as it is.

>>18538624
Well, I can tell you're already halfway there then hahahaha. Good luck my log cock friend!

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Hi sorry if wrong page.

I live in the UK, I recently got a caution I'm on the sor for 2 years now for low grade c images on my computer from years ago. I understand my caution ( It just felt rushed like they were just checking a box, through out the interview about the caution I was told court would be bad and this caution is the best thing).

I'm getting some help from riverside(mental health), I have gender therapy which is on hold while I deal with my autism I've had my first screening, I do show many signs of autism, now just waiting for my first test in November. I have had some other therapy, I'm on some medication for anxiety and depression n sleep issues, plus waiting for a dyslexic test.

I have just had my first visit with the police at my home they went through all paper work documenting my computer, phone, people I know plus my sexual orientation and if any porn what type. They seem to some what understand my issues and they did talk about some support they could offer throught different groups. One of the worrying issues is they talk about turning up at my home without notice (we worked out a compromise with them texting me first if outside)

It's just all a lot to deal with mental health issues.

I have emailed multiple people n groups just looking for some advice/support really.

>>18538736
Hello.

From what I understand you had low grade child images? That's passible for a police investigation, yes.

I understand autism exists in varying degrees and is controllable to some extent, I'm sorry for your experience.

You should be as complying as possible to the police since they do have to follow protocol due to the incident, but you CANNOT ever have that kind of content on any sort of media with you. It is passible for jail and/or in your case forced mental institution admission due to the pretext of representing risk for society, so you should take care that it doesn't happen again.

Aside from that, you should never be embarassed of your autism. I understand people have all sorts of prejudices and misunderstand the condition, but it is not life-crippling and you can and should strive for a normal life.

Also: I don't think 4chan is the best place to speak about this kind of issue since people around here are naturally more inclined to be prejudiced and non-understanding.

Otherwise - Trust those responsible for your treatment and also trust your family. I wish you luck!

>>18538808
Ty I understand

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Do I look overweight and / or creepy in this photo?

It was a group photo but I was looking away when it was taken. I'm not this fat in real life, promise :(

>>18538331
I've been reading about gaslighting since my gf told me a week ago that she found out that she was checking every box of emotional abuse and told me that this might've been a problem which arose because of how her dad treated her.
She didn't outright tell me that i'm not responsible for her past relationship sinking, but with everything mean she's said to me and tried to change me to how her ex was, it's safe to assume that she's emotionally abusing me and she keeps doing it.
Besides breaking up, is there anyway i can show her that she's in the wrong? I've been thinking about so much stuff, thinking that i shouldn't have done things in the past and really contemplating why she has not been like she has couple of months ago, now she's groing distant because there are a lot of things she suddenly dislikes about me and so forth.
Before this whole "this is what i don't like about you" list started i was pretty self confident, now it's really wearing me down and this has to stop.

>>18538999
Not really. I'd say you look normal.

I have way worse pictures, trust me.

I've been reading about gaslighting since my gf told me a week ago that she found out that she was checking every box of emotional abuse and told me that this might've been a problem which arose because of how her dad treated her.
She didn't outright tell me that i'm not responsible for her past relationship sinking, but with everything mean she's said to me and tried to change me to how her ex was, it's safe to assume that she's emotionally abusing me and she keeps doing it.
Besides breaking up, is there anyway i can show her that she's in the wrong? I've been thinking about so much stuff, thinking that i shouldn't have done things in the past and really contemplating why she has not been like she has couple of months ago, now she's groing distant because there are a lot of things she suddenly dislikes about me and so forth.
Before this whole "this is what i don't like about you" list started i was pretty self confident, now it's really wearing me down and this has to stop.

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Didn't mean to post twice woops

>>18539007
Relationships are very sensitive and specific. You know your girlfriend way better than I ever will (even assuming you only know her for a few weeks) and no amount of information you give me based on your assessment and perception of her will let me give you a loyal and accurate "walkthrough" out of your situation.

That said, here's my opinion: People who emotionally abuse others tend to act either systematically (which is an indicator of sociopathy) or unconsciously. If it's the first case, no amount of trying will help you out here except if she really loves you.

Never, ever compare yourself to people, even when other people do. You are your own man and your own person.

What I would try if I were you is to casually ask her to sit down and have a conversation. Now, this is the important part: You have to sound very affirmative yet very calm, way calmer than normal. If you show any kind of revolt here, due to her agressive communication behaviour, she will have the green light to shit on you and even break up.
First you open up by telling her (if you do) that you love/like her, tell her why. Make her feel confortable, but again, in an affirmative way, not submissive. What you want to do is disarm her.
Then open up and tell her what has been bothering you (still calmly), pinpoint what specific behaviours of her have been bothering you (as if you were speaking to a child, as to avoid presumptions and assumptions from her. Women love to assume things when criticized).

Tell her you would like her to change these because it's hurting you, and you thought you should speak to her about it before it becomes unbearable.
Listen to what she has to say if she interrupts you in any part, clarify if asked something and then continue. After you're finished, listen for her output.

Should work if she's willing even a little bit to make it work. If not, I'm sorry to say but she doesn't like you anymore.

Good luck!

>>18539042
It's unconsciously

Thank you anon, gonna save your post and read it tomorrow evening, that's where we want to talk.
Need to go through our texts so i can show her exactly where she hurt me

Thanks a lot man!

>>18538331

How am I suppose to have a good relationship with a girl if I can not stand the thought of them having casual sex? I don't believe in casual sex, and I've never partaken in it. However, I know that most people do it, so it's very likely that any girl I potentionally date has had extensive casual sex with a variety of men.. how do I deal with that?

I don't expect to find a virgin. But I just think casual sex is a trashy thing. I just don't believe in it

>>18538331
Should I hire another escort or actually save my money? I really want to get laid again but am too fat and ugly to do so normally.

>>18539056
I'm not an adept of casual sex either, and I usually kind of cringe when people are mentioning their sexploits.

What we unfortunately have to realize is that we live in a modern world where the culture and the many groups included in it allow and even encourage a person to have multiple partners, especially when they are young.
That said, you can easily assume some people end up doing it due to peer pressure, others because they think it's cool and a last group does it just because it's a possibility that is thrown their way a lot.

There are three ways you can deal with this relationship-wise: Ignore it completely and not even ever ask/mention sex life with whoever you're with, talk with her and make sure she's not what you would call a "slut" (low partner count, not likely to make you just another one on her list) or try to find, as you said, a virgin or almost virgin in groups and places where it's going to be more common (might be a meme nowadays but: church, younger girls, not in-your-face hot girls, etc.).

Just as you know it's a trashy thing, assume it's a redeemable trashy thing just like any other trashy thing a person might do in their lives, then move on.

>>18539073
If you really need to have sex and aren't willing to get it, go for it.

Just remember: Escorts are paid to pretend and get money out of you, just like any commercial worker.

Also, this can become quite an addiction on the long run, and very unhealthy for you, your emotional and your wallet. You might want to fix your insecurities and try to get a girl the non-paid way.

Trust me, there are a lot of fat and ugly guys getting girls out there. I assume you work to be able to pay an escort, so, you're not a cavedweller of any sorts. Couldn't your money be put to better use on the long run?

>>18539079

>What we unfortunately have to realize is that we live in a modern world where the culture and the many groups included in it allow and even encourage a person to have multiple partners, especially when they are young

I know this is true. But I hate it.

As I said, I have no expectations to find a virgin. I'm 27, so literally every girl has had sex. But, I just don't want a girl who's been swallowing dude's loads out of boredom. I get if she had a boyfriend, they were intimate. That's cool. It makes sense. Just the thought of a girl just wanting to get dicked as much as possible just because she's young and hot bothers me. It's just very unattractive.

2 of my female friends and 3 of my male friends all have casual sex partners. The females have told me "ohh but it's so much fun! You can experiment and just it's great stress relief!" And the dudes all say "dude pussy is pussy. You need to start using your dick"

I go in and out of fit of depression i can be confident for months at a time and then go into a state of depression where all i do is want to fucking die and all my thoughts ab9ut myself are that im ugly and no one will ever like me
What do?

>>18538331
Hey, anon. I don't know if this was a wise decision or not.

A co-worker of mine broke up with his boyfriend today via whatsapp. When we left the office she started to cry and told me what happened. Her boyfriend cheated on her and even said horrible things like "my life would have been better without you". She was devastated and I tried to console her.

She was desesperated because, without him, she doesn't have anybody. No friends, her relationship with her family isn't the best either... She had plans for the whole summer and now she finds herself alone. She even begged on him to not leave her.

Of course, I told her that his boyfriend was a dick, and that there's better ways to talk thing out, but the problem to me isn't the break up She doesn't have someone to talk to, so I suggested if she would be interested in meeting one of my group of friends, the most out-going one. That cheer her up, but now what? Do I have the right to make this to my friends and "force" them to help me out to make her happy?

how do i hook up with a girl where there's mutual attraction? i was hanging out with a girl who was flirty and shit for coffee and i wanted to just kiss her so bad, but i didn't know how to do it

i'm 21, and just got out of a four year relationship. i've never "casually dated", so this is new to me

>>18539115
This is the kind of culture I mentioned.

It's the usual nowadays. What you'll find out if you give'em a shot is that the "overlooked" kind of girl usually had few if any sexual partners, and most kind of despise this kind of hookup too. The downside is the below average/average beauty, but that can easily be fixed with a good personality. They also come in all ages, you'd be surprised.

>>18539145
I think you did the right thing. No one is forced to help make her happy, you'll just try to take her thoughts off that dick.

Just look out for him. Some of these guys think they have rights over the girl and may even be agressive about it. If not, worst case scenario you have a grateful person for you trying to help.

>>18539161
If she was flirty, there's a big chance she was up to it.

Now, it's kind of weird to just go up to a person and kiss her, awkward, but it can work if there's mutual attraction. Just don't show any nervousness and be ready if she rejects at first.

Otherwise, you should just do the so called escalation. Do your best to physically engage with her (touching, maybe put your arm over her shoulder or entangle your arm with hers as you walk around - friendly but still helps). When you feel like it, go for a kiss. There's no right time for it. But if she is receptive, you better not take too long, she may get bored or think you don't like her/don't want anything else.

First kisses and intimate interactions are always awkward, even when both parties are drunk - they just don't remember the next day.

>>18539119
That's actually kind of normal. No one is happy all the time.

Most people's psyches are like batteries: Once they're charged with positivity, even the day to day life tends to spend it in varying speeds, so there's a time when we begin to second guess and in some instances get depressed about life.

A factor that makes this proccess happen way faster is stress. School, work, socializations, even driving tend to stress us up and deplete our optimism.

Your case sounds a little over the edge though, you shouldn't want to die. Reassess whatever positive things you have going for you in your life, keep yourself busy and don't forget to always have some time for yourself.

I understand this mindset drags us down and clouds our judgement, but you must remember that no matter how wrong things may go in your life, there will always be someone who likes you, and there will always be some dream or goal worth living for.

We all die in the end, there is no need to rush it.

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How can I stop thinking that almost all women are sluts? I see my snapchat and IG and I only see provocative pics. It disgusts me, really.

>>18539239
Drop Snapchat and Instagram, really.

That's the trend for girls and women: To show off their physical attributes (they even go out of their way to make them look bigger/better).
I don't really blame them. Yeah, it looks really slutty but that's what the modern world implies is the new default for "beauty". They're just trying to look pretty like anyone wants to on a picture.

Yeah, they do dress and act that way IRL too, that's just something we can't avoid. But we can ignore if we choose to.

And remember that not all girls are like that. There are more discrete and family oriented girls out there - they are indeed rare, but they do exist.

>>18539264
I can't drop Instagram because I put my pics there. "Artistic" pics. In Snapchat my friends are really active there.
I understand that it's not their fault that they want to show some skin but it looks like they seek attention. Weird stuff.

>>18538331
If OP can't answer then can anyone else help me out?

>get in a ldr with this girl
>she's super shy, thinks I'm 'too cool' for her, gets insecure about not having anything to talk to me about on 2nd date
>after 1st date we really liked each other so don't see why she would have doubts
>she ghosted me because of that hoping I'd go away because of her insecurity
>made me feel like shit for a couple of days but whatever, I endured it
>I made it clear at the start I'm looking for a relationship
>she said that if I still like her then she'd be fine with it
>I like her, try to look past her not opening up at all (when asked for her dog's name she'd tell me not to get too curious etc), understand that she's shy and thinks she's boring
>she's not convinced I still like her although I made it clear to her
>she flakes out before 2nd date (thats when she told me what the problem was)
>I tell her not to be silly and arrange another date
>she's down for it
>day of the date approaches
>we talk about previous relationships
>I never dated before, but apparently I'm the 'cool' one
>she dated before
>my retarded ass gets insecure, like I'm less than
>she tells me not to be silly
>I apologize for being a retard and breaking down like that
>again, she tells me not to be silly
>"I don't want to do this anymore. Sorry"
>before she implied she's not looking for a relationship right now, even tho until then she led me to believe otherwise (she told me like I said before)
>we break up, distance would later anyway so didn't ask for a 2nd chance
I think she either broke it off because I got insecure, or she felt too awkward and gave in to her insecurities about being 'boring'. I can't tell but I put up with her insecurities so it doesn't seem fair to me that she didn't want to put up with mine if it was the reason to break up.
Anyway, help me feel less shitty about this, she was nice in the end about it so at least there's that but I feel embarrassed and shit that it ended that way

>>18539222
Thank you for the advice, anon!

>>18539097
Yea... But sex is so much fun. Also, there's no way a guy like me could ever get a girl as attractive as these escorts. Ever. I am not a cavedweller. I have a job, house, car, and a degree. I could... You're right. It's just women have eluded me all my life (mostly through my own fault) so I've developed an addiction to sex/porn/strippers. It's the only sexual female attention I've ever gotten.