I am reasonably attractive and I don't think I'm too awful to be around, but I've always been extremely picky with guys. A lot of guys ask me out, but rarely someone I'd consider dating.
>inb4 Chad
It's not an issue with looks.
I decided to start hitting on the guys I like myself because it seems pretty unproductive to wait for them to do something, but I don't know how to do it in an "acceptable" way.
How forward should I be? Is flirting enough? Should I explicitly ask someone out? How do I make the first move without emasculating them?
Try Bumble. That's where girls make the first move.
>>18534856
I meant more in real life.
I am not a huge fan of dating apps and such.
>>18534842
If a guy is emasculated by you asking them out then they're probably too uptight for you to have really liked later on anyways
Just be direct and make it clear you enjoy spending time with him
>>18534842
Just give him compliments, guys fucking never get compliments
>>18534842
Im a dude and I'd be happy if a chick came up and asked me out
>>18534941
I mean, I could understand it. I don't enjoy asking guys out, it feels mildly unfeminine (other than the fact that I am obviously intimidated by possible rejection).
It just feels like it's a huge waste of time to wait for a guy to ask me out when I rarely find anyone interesting.
>>18534944
Is it enough? I compliment people a lot.
I'm going out for a run, I'll be back in 45 minutes probably.
>>18534842
>how to do it in an "acceptable" way.
Start with a shared interest, there's no way he could see it coming! everything else is straight forward.
>>18534842
This is funny. I never asked a woman for a date, the women always asked me, starting when I was in high school and all three relationships I entered they pursued. Sure they were attractive and it was flattering they pursued but in the end that was the problem. If I didn't say no thanks at the first then I just went along as it careened into a relationship. The current relationship I'm in I finally did the choosing up front and asked her and it is much, much better this way.
Flattery is very seductive but it doesn't mean they really care for you nor they are worth your time.