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How do I become more okay with my sexuality?

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For most of my life, it has seemed like every other guy is way more open about sex or women than I am. I've never seen a girl and felt the need to tell someone about how hot she is, I've never even made advances on any woman. I don't think I'm gay, I like women, and hell when I was a teenager I tried pretty hard to prove if I was gay for a while. It's just not me. I'm not like a NEET neckbeard, people seem surprised when I tell them I'm a virgin. I've even had one girlfriend. Despite all of this, I still masturbate daily. So I don't think I just have a low sex drive, it almost feels like I just repress my sexuality.

The one gf I did have, it was bad. She could never get me off, she was very clingy, obsessive and crazy when we broke up, and basically it has sent me further down this hole. We'd go as far as oral, but that was it. And sometimes when we did, I'd just shut down. I'd push her off or move away, and just not say anything and look at the wall. She would try to talk to me, or force herself in front of my face so I couldn't look away, but I just felt so much... shame. Her trying to intervene made it worse. Super uncomfortable.

What is my problem? Am I repressing some fucked up memory? Why can't I just be okay with something that almost everyone is into? How do I move on?
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Talk to a therapist.
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well obviously you have some thing where you associate sex with feelings of shame.

what scarred you from being sexually intimate ?
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>>18533162
I do have a therapist. I've been in therapy for most of my life even. I'm somehow comfortable with talking about every other aspect of my life, but I just can't bring this up. It scares me. I don't talk to anyone about this shit.

>>18533167
If I knew I would have mentioned it. I have no idea. Sometimes I also just get really weird about being touched, but that has improved greatly. I don't have any memory of anything sexual being associated with shame in my life. One time I got caught looking at porn by my grandpa, but it never got brought up at all. So that was cool of him. Nothing else as far as I know.
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>>18533151
My guess would be you have some sort of anxiety about it, as well as something like the other anon said causing you to feel shame about sexual things. I'm a similar way, I don't like talking about women sexually or showing that I feel that way with things. I only do with a very very close friend of mine, and even then it can still be hard. If nothing from your passed caused it, then it could be your upbringing, maybe something you'd see as small could do it, or something as simple as you just not feeling comfortable with yourself and sexual things. To get around that I'd suggest finding a way to feel more comfortable with things like that, that way you can find a way to slowly aid you.
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>>18533151
Were you sexually molested at a young age?
>fap daily
>i think i have low sex drive
Fapping daily is pretty normal, so i say u have a normal sex drive maybe even high. Depends on your age.
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quit fapping you fuckin nigger. you replaced women with your hand because you're scared of them . you have to face them. start seeing women as objects and you wont be as afraid. you need to red pill yourself. women are inferior. They're transparent, brainwashed, no personality-having baby and sandwich makers.
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>>18533974
I said I don't think I have a low sex drive.
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>>18534284
At the moment I much prefer masturbating to trying to have sex because it scares me. It's not women that scare me dude. Not at all. It's just when it comes to the sex side that it gets weird. Otherwise I can talk to girls pretty well, as well as any other humans. Confidence is seeing others as your equal, arrogance is seeing yourself as above them.

And lets say you're right, for the sake of argument. That women are inferior. That is half of the world's population. Suddenly there are 1/2 the potential people to relate to, to hold conversations with, to enjoy the company of, they're no longer people. That's lonely. So I'd rather just continue believing they're regular people. I've had plenty of female friends, because my sexual frustration is with myself and not with them. I'm not trying to compensate for anything by putting others down, so I'm going to steer clear from thinking that all of my problems lie in others.
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>>18533939
I've considered it maybe being my upbringing, but my brother is fine. He doesn't seem to have this problem. And what could I do to build to being comfortable? I mean I still watch porn freely, it's just when it is with another person that I shut down sometimes. Not every time, but I just shut down and it sucks.

I don't really want to be with another person while I have this issue. Though I feel like it might be the only way to get over it.
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