I get soft right before/after penetration

Too busy to reply right now but I'll write one as soon as I can - same exact thing happened to me the first few times. Honestly, this is super fucking common, nobody really talks about it but there's nothing wrong with you, you're just nervous.

I'll tell you what worked for me when I get back but the tl;dr is going to be, chill, relax, and communicate with her. (Not talking a big heart-to-heart, just don't be afraid to say, ugh, I get nervous every time it's actually time to have sex and it just jolts me out of the mood.)

>>18520240
It's your mind. You are mind fucking yourself instead of fucking your qt.. Stop with the drugs - practice deep breathing to increase the blood flow to your brain. Also don't trip condoms suck. Once you relax things will happen naturally. Also don't immediately quit because your soldier left the field. Leave the jacket on but change position maybe eat some pussy or get into 69.

Most importantly HAVE FUN YOU ARE FUCKING NOT PERFORMING BRAIN SURGERY.

>>18520275
I'm not in any rush as we both have busy schedules, so take your time with that write up. I'm going to read every word in this thread.

We're comfortable enough to talk about it and do, so I'm confused as to why I'm not comfortable enough to just fuck

>>18520293
I know I just need to relax and have fun. Can't help but think a nice drug could get me through the hump. We've built up sex for a good month and it's important to her

>>18520313
You're 20 leave the drugs alone. You can solve this naturally. She is into you so chill out. When you get deflated just keep getting her off with fingers tongue toys -- eventually you'll reinflate and all will be well.

Also try fapping with a condom on see what happens...

>>18520329
she said she'll let me go raw next time to see if condoms are the problem

I have the same problem. It's just psychological. Try not looking at porn/jerking off for a while. Hopefully your lust can overcome your anxiety

>>18520333
Get tested then stay monogamous - also the pill is not 100%. I got my gf pregnant last month because she was not consistent with when she took it. She's getting the copper insert next week which is over 99% effective.

>>18520240
Condoms just dont feel good. Often u also got the wrong size. 4 me, they just work if im super horny.

>>18520365
Happened to me, too, with a girl who sucked at taking the pill. Except I didn't murder my fucking child. He's 4 now. Best mistake of my life. If you're white, you've done the world a great disservice.

>>18520240
Performance anxiety that will lead to performance anxiety that will lead to performance anxiety that will lead to-

There's a solution. Ask her, have her help or talk you through it. Relinquish control and let her fuck you with her pussy, not the contrary. You'll probably ease up and stay hard if there is a conversation going on between your bodies. But don't try and hide it away from her, just explain to her what you explained to us and it'll be fine. Nothing shameful at all.

>>18520573
>>18520365
>>18520333

An alternative to the Pill, that has almost the same Pearl Index (and a better one than the condom !) is without joking the modern incarnations of NFP like a combinations of the temperature method and examining the vaginal fluids and how thick the cervix is. That way you can have sex that doesn't lead to pregnancy without her having to take hormones that fuck her body and her libido up.