How do I stop falling in love with every girl that smiles at

>>18515994
By realizing that women would be lucky to get with you. If this isn't the case, then make yourself someone that a woman would be lucky to get with.

>>18515994
By getting laid. Not even trolling. That is just one of the common symptoms from being a virgin. You overreact to every little thing. Your hormones are on crack because you're so pussy depraved. Just deal with it until you eventually get some one day.

>>18516010
How is someone a woman would be lucky to be with?

>>18516028
I'm honestly fine with just cuddling, I'd be lousy at sex anyway.

>>18516044
>How is someone a woman would be lucky to be with?
Someone that can provide for themselves, as well as provide a comfortable life for their partner, who doesn't have any serious vices, who knows how to look nice on their own, and who can listen, hear, and respond to a woman.

>>18516044
>I'm honestly fine with just cuddling, I'd be lousy at sex anyway.
Everyone is lousy at sex at first. It takes some time to figure out what each woman likes, and it takes time to pick up on the non-verbal cues of what a woman likes. Don't let fear of sucking hold you back. If you're gonna lie about your virginity, you can just say shit like, "Sorry. It's been a REALLY long time. It'll take me a few tries to get back into the groove."

>>18516050
I can provide for myself but I'm not at the point I can provide for someone else yet. I think I take good care of my looks, don't smoke or drink or anything like that.

The last part is difficult though. I always found talking to girls, especially pretty ones difficult. What do I do ?

>>18516060
I really hate doing things for the first time with people and being bad at it. I don't know man. Besides you wouldn't expect somebody of my age to be a virgin.

>>18516044
>i'd be lousy at sex

Nah dont think like that. Sex isnt complicated at all. It's not some tactical systematic order of maneuvers that you have to memorize. All you really need to know is the basics when it comes to sex. Nobody is going to judge your performance unless you were physically incapable of doing a humping motion.

Also, just watch porn. You can learn a lot from porn. Just look up missionary or doggy style and watch what they do.

Cuddling is all good and nice, but you eventually have to show you're a man and embrace your animalistic instincts. It will help you grow and act as an important learning experience.

Of course this is is all assuming you are both of legal age to consent...

>>18516010
great advice

>>18516090
>I really hate doing things for the first time with people and being bad at it. I don't know man. Besides you wouldn't expect somebody of my age to be a virgin.
>"Sorry. It's been a REALLY long time. It'll take me a few tries to get back into the groove."

>>18516110
There's still the whole performance part.

>>18516095
I thought girls hated the kind of sex you see in porn?

>>18516122
>There's still the whole performance part.
If you're going to be in a relationship, eventually this is going to be something that you are expected to do. You realize this, yes? Better get over that mental hill before you start looking for anyone, or else they'll think there's something wrong with them.

>>18516134
What about platonic relationships?

>>18516147
No cuddling if its platonic

>>18516147
The second said girl gets any sort of romantic interest, that shit will end fast. If you don't mind chicks constantly using you as a pillow, and nothing more, then I guess you're welcome to that kind of life.

>>18516122
Nah man, sex is sex. Sure, there is some wack shit on the internet if you look for it. But it's not hard to find a regular video of a regular couple having regular sex online. Just go take a dive into pornhub and see what you find. Think of it as research.

But in the end, it's really just a back and forth hip motion though. That is literally all there is to it. When you're inside a chick, they're not going to be judging you because they are too busy feeling the ecstasy of your dick rubbing all up inside them. Just lose yourself in the moment and do what feels good. It will feel good to her too I promise you.

Aside from sex though, it may also help you if you stop caring so much about female attention and affection. Chicks are mega attracted to dudes who ignore them and seem like they always have their head in the clouds. When you act all gushy all the time, it will scare them away. And the less shits you give, the less power a girl and her smile will have on you. Life in general gets a lot easier and women will actually be more attracted to you when you learn to stop caring about them so much. Just do you, and do what makes you happy in life. Dont worry about girls all the time and that shit will eventually just happen naturally.

>>18516153
I hear about male and female friends cuddling with no sex constantly. Hell I've done it myself.

>>18516158
You're right there. The thing is I'm sure im going to fuck it up and not even manage to get it up if I have sex with a girl which will make her feel bad and me depressed. Sex just seems like something overly stressful

>>18516186
>You're right there. The thing is I'm sure im going to fuck it up and not even manage to get it up if I have sex with a girl which will make her feel bad and me depressed. Sex just seems like something overly stressful
You just sound like you overthink shit. Like you'll pick up a video game console and practice for hours and hours before playing any sort of video game with a friend. Let it go. Sex, like many other things, takes practice. It's ok to not be a sex god.

Believe it or not, most guys (even experienced ones) don't please girls on the first go. Each chick is different, and it takes experimentation to figure out what each girl likes. Just because you've mastered Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 2 on the PS1 doesn't mean you've mastered it on the N64.

>>18516208
>Believe it or not, most guys (even experienced ones) don't please girls on the first go. Each chick is different, and it takes experimentation to figure out what each girl likes. Just because you've mastered Tony Hawk's Pro Skater 2 on the PS1 doesn't mean you've mastered it on the N64.

Eh, this isn't really true. If you have basic knowledge on how to perform the act, you can easily please anyone on the first go. I dont know what kind of high maintenance stuck up bitches you've been fucking, but most women are not that hard to satisfy at all. And most of them typically like the same things too. There's only so many ways you can have sex after all. Just stuff them and pump your hips and get yourself into a good groove, then you're good to go.

>>18516286
I've never had a guy please me on the first go. But keep telling yourself that the moaning that they are letting out and the kegels they are doing equates into pleasure. We just don't like guys to feel like they aren't doing much for us.

Then, a few rounds in, you might notice gentle guidance, "Just like that," or "Keep doing that." But no, you're a sex god on your first go. ;P

>>18516208
I understand what you're saying and it makes sense, it's just I don't see myself as a sexual being, you know? It's not that I don't have a sex drive and libido, it's simply that I don't see myself having sex at all

you dont
keep falling and keep trying
you will eventually succeed 99%, if you are that 1% then it doesnt matter, you wont make it anyway

ppl here are so fragile, you guys have no idea how many rejection and humiliation i went through before getting with a girl
10 to 1 would be a good success rate, but it doesnt matter, it lead to relationships and stories to tell

>>18516296
If you have a libido, then you're a sexual being. You're just self-conscious.

>>18516296
Well girls want sex. You are human dude, come to terms with it or else you're fucked.

>>18516305
It's difficult to explain. I am not that self conscious, it's just like sex is something far away for me. Something for other people.

When my friends talk about sex I just feel uncomfortable. Again it's not that I don't have sexual drive or don't masturbate but it's like actual sex with other person is not something I see myself doing.

I am not bad looking and I take decent care of myself, but I am also pretty nonsexual and inoffensive looking. I guess that's why girls like to talk to me?

>>18516317
Ok. Then get comfortable with being alone. Glad we could help.

>>18516290
There's no such thing as a sex god. As I said before, sex is very simple and straightforward, with only a finite number of ways to actually execute it. I guess you're just jealous to find out that there are actually guys out there who understand how simple women are to please. Not sure why else you'd try to tell me I'm wrong, when I'm not.

Also, I have a pretty large girthy dick so maybe that's why I've never had to work hard at pleasing girls during sex. So unless you've got a decent sized meat stick, then yea maybe my advice isn't so good. I tried though.

>>18516310
Girls don't even like like sex that much. Most women are fine with something like once every two weeks or even a month, and mostly do it for the emotional intimacy.

Ah this brings me back. I used to be the same, getting crushes left and right...

Unfortunately I burned out that circuit in my brain and I haven't had a proper crush on a girl since high school

>>18516320
There have to be at least a few girls OK with a nonsexual relationship.

>>18516333
Maybe rape victims.

>>18516329
Uhh. No. I'm sorry but you must be a virgin or something because that is just plain incorrect. Women like sex just as much as men, if not more.

>>18516336
Not him, but I dunno about that. Many chicks have claimed that, but none of the chicks I've been with want to do it 4-6 times per day, every single day. They wind up sore after 2 or 3 times, and need a break.

>>18516332
>Unfortunately I burned out that circuit in my brain
How so?

>>18516336
I've only been with two girls and both were fine with weekly/every two weeks. Maybe both just had abnormally low libido but in general I don't think females hurt for sex like males do. We literally cum in our sleep when we don't masturbate or have sex for a few days.

>>18516329

This is so wrong its not even funny

>>18516344

I think in general I've just gotten more jaded and cynical over the years. I used to get emotionally attached to things and people all the time, but that has certainly waned as I got older. Now I struggle with getting attached to anything. I'm pretty emotionally distant these days.

Starting back in school though, specifically about girls, the constant unreciprocated feelings got to me. After years of rejection and embarrasment and no real progress or success with girls, i created emotional barriers and defense mechanisms to "protect" myself.

It's a mixed bag. On one hand I can say I've never experienced true heartbreak and have avoided a lot of emotional nastiness that many people are subject to. However, it also means I have never truly felt romantic love. I've never had a fulfilling relationship because I struggle to connect with people on an emotional level. So yeah, kinda living in an emotional grey area here

Honestly the best defense is experience. First trip into a candy store everything looks good. But once you know what's actually good and what you like, you can narrow down your search and ignore the rest

>>18516366
Same here man. So many years of rejections and bad experiences pile up.

I'm an optimist though, so I'll keep trying to find that qt that accepts me. I'm just afraid I might have pushed her away already, I take so long to warm up people usually get bored and don't bother.

Wait. So girls think being ignored is attractive? The fuck? I'm already pretty studly, I get shit done, ride my bike, and look good because of it. You're saying I just need to not give a fuck about women and they'll start wanting me? Huh.

>>18515994

You have to love yourself first, be a man you can be proud of.

>>18516337
It's because you're a fucking monkey

Nobody would do it 4-6 times a day every day

>tfw I am you but girls don't actually smile at me
Get fucked, nerd.

>>18516442
No, NOBODY feels attractive and validated at an "ugh you'll do because I have really low standards".

OP has such shitty standards, a girl has to just smile at him. No girl will want to date OP once they find out OP doesn't really love her as a person, all he cared is that she smiled at him.

>>18516576
I know that feel

>>18516608
I don't know, girls smiling at me makes me feel fuzzy inside.
For example I'm at the train now and a cute girl smiled at me to warn me the train was incoming.
Now she's sitting next to me and every once in a while glances at me. She is for sure just looking around or through the window but it makes me feel like she's looking st me.

Jeez you're right I'm a pretty sad fucker.

>>18516329
Youre a fucking cuck if you let women lie to you like that. Me and my girlfriend fuck at least once a day and we have been together for 4 years. And me and my ex used to fuck like twice a day.

I think you might just have a tiny dick bro. Nobody wants your shit more than once a month kek

>>18515994
>How do I stop falling in love with every girl that smiles at me?
Stop thinking that finding a girl is going to fix all your problems

Actually work on fixing all of your problems

>>18516028
Is this the same for girls?

>>18516903
You got one thing right. That is pretty sad

>>18515994
Haha look at this faggot, he still gets smiles from women. Lol. What a joke.

>>18517506
I'm lonely.