Life Advice (How Typical)

Yo, if everything turns around a girl for you, well I've got bad news for you.
How about you fix yourself, or even better, accept your mental state. Try working on that first. And guess what, you won't be able to if you keep your mindset like that. That girl is just a reason you've made up so you can blame whatever is not working in your life on.

>>18507495
>Depression
What I've been told is to continue fighting. I've been told that fighting keeps your brain active and staves off even worse depression. The more you keep active, in spite of the feeling of sputtering out, the more likely you are to succeed and find something that lifts your spirits.

That's the canon atm.

>>18507515
I wish it were that easy.

>>18507515
My problem is I feel no motivation to move on. I understand exactly what it is I need to do to move on, but my mental block is having nothing there making me want to move on.

I'm totally aware of my situation, and while I want to get better, I at the same time don't want to, and it makes things worse and worse because I'm constantly battling myself, and more times than not the "not bothering to advance" comes out stronger.

Several friends have been put off helping me due to this mentality, and all I can do is suffer through it being fully aware.

I always seek help like this, but when it gets to it I suddenly go "eh nevermind" and leave everyone hanging.

>>18507530
Yes. It's very hard. Where did I say anything about easy or difficult?

>>18507534
Yeah, I know what you mean. I am mentally blocked from doing almost everything I want to/ought to be doing. Do the stuff that you are not mentally blocked from doing.

I'm kind of just parroting what I've heard. It seems like the exact opposite of what I'm saying here would be to lay back and quit. What is there to do other than to keep trying?

>>18507495
You know, you can't really do something like "obtaining motivation". Motivation is something that arises from your well being and your sense of purpose.

If you're healthy, safe, have at least a couple of people to talk with and something you want to achieve, motivation will suddenly pop up.

Think what you want out of life and try to achieve it. You may think that you need motivation to do that, but that's really not it. As they say: motivation is fleeting, discipline isn't. Set some sensible goals, work towards achieving them and hold yourself accountable.

Also, don't dwell on the past. What's done is done, try to learn from that experience and move on.

Also, check out this video:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LO1mTELoj6o

>>18507553
My immediate answer is lay back and kill over

>>18507559
My next issue is I don't know what I want anymore
The first thing that pops into mind is the typical "to be happy", but god knows how that's gonna happen.

>>18507561
Sometimes that helps. Here's a short story about keeling over, unless you meant to type "kill over."

Someone wanted me to go to this bar with them, but I said, "Fuck that. I do not like existing right now." So, I went to the park and lied down in the dugout.

I was like, "Take me out, coach." Then my mind cleared up some, and I begrudgingly rejoined the land of the living, because it became slightly preferable to laying in a little-league dugout.

I went into this bathroom building to charge my phone, and sort of slumped over against the wall. I went to post a "help me" thread on advice.4chan.gov, and I saw some photography stuff open on my web browser.

So, I pulled my camera out and started taking pictures of what I liked about the shopping center. Then, I stopped hating my existence for a moment, and walked back to the bar where my friends were. My homosexual friends were tired from karaoke and that adult apple juice that is being fronted as cider these days. By contrast to them I was an enlightened monk, and I didn't want to die anymore.

The end.

>>18507582
Another issue is I don't often go out with people
I don't have a lot of people I share interests with
The people in my life that have been truly invested in helping me I've unfortunately turned away and put off due to my terrible tendencies.
If I were to start going out, I wouldn't know where to go, why to go and so on.
So I just sit.
In my room all day.
Wondering when something will happen.
When it's obvious that, like this, nothing ever will.

>>18507575
Happiness one of those things that doesn't happen if you look for it.

But anyway, if you're studying, your first step would be what are you studying for. What kind of job you want to have in the future and all of that.

Also, don't think of "what you want" as a life-changing thing. If you have hobbies, practice them and try to get in touch with people that does them. That's often enough to keep yourself from going crazy.

If you don't have hobbies, try to do something new. You never know what things you may enjoy doing.

My point is, don't try to get back your motivation. Get yourself to do stuff and it'll come eventually.

>>18507603
I don't get much more out of the people I know at college or work, so where do I go for social interaction from there?

My town doesn't do much in regards to events and/or meetups with my interests, so I don't really have any options to use to socialise either..

>>18507612
I met most of my friends online. We live pretty far away from each other, so we rarely hang out in real life, but we often do stuff online together. Try an online community that matches your interests. I mean, 4chan is fine, but you will never get to know anyone you meet here. Hell, I could be a bot and you would never know.

>>18507632
Do you know of any good places to try and make interactions?

>>18507632
Also completing the captcha says youre not a bot and those are totally super reliable and to be treated as fact so nice try

>>18507590
Then go lie in a dugout. Most friends are stupid anyway.

>>18507643
I live in britland, dugouts arent a option.

>>18507660
go lie in a wongdungler or something. maybe bring a tomflube, and womsamb that shit a bit. just feel it out.

>>18507637
You could try to search for a small forum of something that suits your interests. In small internet communities, people get to know each other in a rather short amount of time.

>>18507675
yeah I feel much better after doing this. it's a real compromise, when you'd rather have real life friends, but it can help get a person through tough times.

So your girlfriend left you when you were both 16? You're 18 now, and you feel like your life has dried up? Lmfao dude, your life has barely started. You have so much time. Just focus on having fun with people, learning new hobbies, picking up new skills, and doing well in school. You have so much time for women and romance. Don't get hung up on shit that happened when you were a babby teen.

>>18507682
Part of the problem in regards to "getting over that" was that she was the first person ever to show a true intimidating interest in my well being. It was so supportive and so never before felt in the past that I stupifly built a reliance on having someone there to keep me going and to never have to worry.
Having that stripped away again has left a huge impact on me, amd I understand it is all entirely my fault.