lying friends?

B U M P

Stop being a bitch over nothing.

>>18506944
How is it "over nothing"? My friends lied to me for over two weeks about something I had high hopes for. That something gave me anxiety and was really emotionally taxing. And then I find out that 'lol fuk u it wsnt reel'
My problem is that they LIED to me about something that big, after I removed the barriers I had for them. I really really trusted them. It's been YEARS since i trusted someone like that.

what a buttbaby lol

women lie and manipulate, this is just their nature, just like a scorpion whose nature is to sting. Either accept it and deal with it or just abandon women (the right choice)

I see a lot of anons here complaining and/or raging about how girls "never give them a chance".

Anons take note. Giving a chance doesn't necessarily mean things will go well. You can't force attraction.

OP, sorry about this. Shit sucks. What you need right now is to distance yourself, at least for the moment. If you want to listen to their reasoning later, that's fine. But right now you need space and time to work through the anger.

Put your phone/computer down and ignore their messages. Go do something distracting and fun and come back to it when the hurt isn't quite so fresh.

You're probably not going to want to hear this right now, but it needs to be said. Shit went south now, but that's no guarantee that it will do so in the future. You have to let yourself trust again with someone else. But that can come later.

Personally I think that the girl wasn't deliberately lying or leading you on or trying to hurt you. I think she probably was giving you a chance, to see if it would work. She probably liked you as a person but wasn't attracted to you, and wanted to see if that was enough. Getting into a relationship with someone for the lying and the lulz seems like a waste of time that pretty much nobody would go for. It's a lot of work for not very good lulz.

Doesn't mean it doesn't hurt, though. And it will hurt, for a while. But that will pass and you can move on with your life. So do what you can to work through the anger now, to let yourself move on.

>>18507007
I'm not mad about her. I'm mad at my friends for betraying my trust and lying to me.
I was actually relieved when I heard she wasn't into me, but then I found out they already knew and I didn't actually have to go through that shit. I also found out she didn't INTEND to give me a chance, she thought I meant "going out" in a platonic manner and didn't have the courage to tell me. Yet, they didn't tell me. Despite knowing for more than a week, they did not tell me.

The thing is, I haven't trusted a person in YEARS in the way I trust (*trusted) them. I have trust issues and I fucking HATE lying and beating around the bush. Literally hate it, and I told them. It drives me nuts and it made me break off platonic relationships before. How can I trust them again after they willingly lied and coordinated the lies among them? How can I forgive them? Should I forgive them?

>>18507020
Ah, I see the problem.

I guess they were trying to preserve your feelings or not intrude. If they didn't say anything then that would be questionable. If they outright lied? Then yeah, big problem.

I still recommend the same thing. Take time to cool off, then listen to their reasoning. Then you judge if it's enough to forgive or not.

>>18507043
Thanks my dude.

>>18507059
Good luck, man. Not an easy position to be in, but you'll come through regardless.

>>18507007
This is pretty good stuff, kind experienced anon is kind and experienced