Saying No

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Saying No 2017-07-10 07:46:02 Post No. 18502443
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Saying No Anonymous 2017-07-10 07:46:02 Post No. 18502443 [Report]

How do I say no to my girlfriend? Our relationship is great but between her and work I feel like I have very little time for myself. It's not even about her, I'm just the sort of person who never dated or went out before meeting her, and I need time for myself. And I have personal projects I want to work on. And every day we are together we HAVE to go out and eat, and honestly Subway is really not expensive but this shit adds up.

Not only that, but for the summer she's living at her grandma's- her grandma is a mentally ill hoarder who refuses advice/help and lives in an isolated part of town where it takes forever to go drive to anything. And the place is a fucking mess. To my girlfriend's credit she's worked hard cleaning it but all the ants are roaches (or as the granny likes to call it, waterbugs, because denial)

So yeah, how do I say no without either sounding like a dick or like I need "space" rather than just "me time"?

Anonymous 2017-07-10 07:49:18 Post No.18502449
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Anonymous 2017-07-10 07:49:18 Post No.18502449 [Report]

>>18502443
ants AND roaches*
And I forgot to mention that I am mentioning it because I hate staying the nights there, or staying there at all, whereas my place is fine but there isn't much privacy either.

Anonymous 2017-07-10 07:50:14 Post No.18502451
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Anonymous 2017-07-10 07:50:14 Post No.18502451 [Report]

>>18502443
Hey Anon, you want to come over to my Grandmothers house today?
>Sorry, I can't today, I've got plans.
Doing what?
>I've got some personal projects I'm going to work on.

There. I just cracked the fucking enigma code for you.

Anonymous 2017-07-10 09:32:16 Post No.18502625
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Anonymous 2017-07-10 09:32:16 Post No.18502625 [Report]

>>18502451
is not that easy when you're afraid of fucking up and knowing wont be easy to get another girl from the market

Anonymous 2017-07-10 09:33:55 Post No.18502627
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Anonymous 2017-07-10 09:33:55 Post No.18502627 [Report]

>>18502625
If she dumps you for not wanting to hangout one time, she isn't worth it

Anonymous 2017-07-10 10:01:15 Post No.18502652
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Anonymous 2017-07-10 10:01:15 Post No.18502652 [Report]

>>18502443
You've got two different issues here.

"I need personal time to work on personal projects and generally be alone" is legitimate, and you can tell her that.

"I don't like spending money on her or doing things that she considers important, like helping granny" is more selfish and disrespectful of her.

Anonymous 2017-07-10 11:57:42 Post No.18502750
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Anonymous 2017-07-10 11:57:42 Post No.18502750 [Report]

help and spend some time with her, but when you are not feeling it just say you have plans or you're doing x.

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