Being Yourself

I think that being yourself is the right approach within reason. You should always strive to improve yourself, but there's no sense in pretending to be someone you are not. That being said, it can be a lonely road to take. I was alone for seven years. Not a single date or anything. My patience was rewarded with the best partner I can imagine. The only way you can increase your chances is to meet new people, preferably people with similar hobbies. Join clubs etc.

You get to know her, but you don't get her.

There's that vibe that comes off when you spend time together and feel that a romantic relationship won't work out well.

>>18499426
This was my thought process, clubs and groups. I like your way of putting it - I'm self motivated to improve myself, not move laterally, which is what I also seek in a partner. I hate seeing relationships where one party manipulates the other into changing themselves. I'm 21 and haven't found anyone I wanted to date, I guess I'll need to sit tight a while longer.
>>18499429
So when you "get" her you know she's one worth trying for?

>>18499415
It is not, but being available is important.

I had to wait a long time before I met the one. She did too.

>>18499447

Yeah

>>18499447
>21
You have a lot of time. Just don't become bitter, that's the biggest turn off for every girl.