ITT: Ask the opposite gender anything

Ladies, please be honest. How big is ideal?

>>18497926
Ideal? 100% honest? 7"

>>18497926
16-18cm

>>18497926
Like 7 inches I guess? My toy is that big.

>>18497937
>>18497940
>>18497949
That sounds reasonable... I don't think I ever measured my penis.
7" is 17 cm, for the civilized world, btw.

Should I absolutely never text a girl to ask her out on a date? There's this girl that I might not see again until after 2 weeks. We never text though except like one or two comments once.
Some people seem to suggest calling someone on the phone instead but do people do that?
I was gonna ask her today in person but I couldn't manage to be alone with her.

>>18497926
About 6". Thickness > length though. I'd rather have a thick 5" dick than a thinnish 6" one.

>>18497965
shit

>>18497960
Sure asking in person is better but I feel like a lot of the time people warn against these things it's kind of a make-believe thing where if you just have the right strategy, any girl will want you. If she is into you a text message isn't suddenly going to make her change her mind. I would go for it. Don't call her, makes it too much of a big deal to me.

>>18497960
Texting is fine, I'm not going to reject a guy just because he texted instead of calling or asking in person.

>>18497969
>>18497971
Alright, thanks! Yeah, and I'm not really optimistic to be honest, but it's good to know that it's not about how I ask but asking itself.

>>18497967
No one's perfect and there's no universally perfect dick that fits every individual pussy. Plus honestly I think the specifics of the man's dick are among the most trivial, uninteresting aspects of sex.

People say your worth as a person is not measured by how you get rejected by girls. But is that really true? I mean if no one dates me it means I'm physically unappealing and/or that my personality is below that of an average person.
How can someone have worth as a person and undateable at the same time?

>>18497995
You are looking at it like you're in a video game where girls can see your stats and nope out. In reality people cannot make a proper assessment from brief interaction. Especially when you ask a stranger out they are not responding to your character and only in part to your looks. Whether or not you come across as nervous, friendly, interested, and so on - just looking at how you approach her and talk to her/react to her - will leave a much bigger impression than anything else.

Besides, people are going to have varying opinions of you in life. In different stages of life but also in general. No one is above being deemed ugly/unpleasant/dumb by some. There is zero point in obsessing over that as opposed to finding the people who do appreciate you. The bare fact that not everyone is your biggest fan doesn't mean anything at all, it's the human condition.

My girlfriend broke up with me through text. This is one of the worse feelings I've ever felt. Now she's saying she doesn't want to live without me an hour afterwards. I love her, but I don't get this. What am I supposed to do?

>>18498117
Talk to her. You probably won't be able to mend this. Because she hurt and disrespect you too badly but also because chances are she had her reasons for breaking up and is just backing out now because the hurt settled in and she can only see the negatives about ending it for the time being.
But even if it gets you nowhere, if you can manage to have a reasonable adult conversation where you can acknowledge the love you felt for each other, it'll make it easier to move on. Bitterness and anger cling you to the past and are very easy to come into existence especially after this happening.

I would advise against getting back together. If you do wish to, pay close attention to her reasoning for wanting to break up AND wanting to stay together anyway. If she had such a violent change of heart she stands by then she should be able to explain herself and not just expect you to forget all about her breaking up.

I'm sorry anon. This was a really low blow.

Do guys ever get the girl they like or do they just accept the girl that likes them and "learn" to like her then?

>>18498129
Are you asking if girls ever say yes to a guy asking them out?

>>18498151
No, if girls ever say yes when the guy asking them out cares about them and likes them beyond "this one is decent looking and probably on my league so I'll just take a chance".

>>18498169
But everyone does that...? Both the guy and the girl.

I'm gonna ask the girl out by text (whatsapp). Should I say something before or just go straight to the point and ask her if she's free on # day?
We never really texted each other before beyond a few lines once. I saw her today a few hours ago but couldn't ask her then because we weren't left alone.
Sorry for the stupid questions, I think I'm relying on /adv/ too much lately.

Women:
Does height really matter? I'm 6'2 but just curious.

>>18498190
I want a guy to be taller than me, but not too tall.

>>18498190
It absolutely matters but in my experience, for the far majority of women the important part is that the guy is taller than they are. Not how tall he is exactly. For the record I've seen the screenshots of the whole "swipe left if you're under [whatever]" so I'm aware that it's a thing. I just never experienced it for myself and both me and friends of mine have dated guys who were at most an inch taller. It's actually my preference to be with someone around my own height because everything lines up so naturally for sex.

Also another thing to consider is that many times when women are loud and proud about needing such and such dick or such and such height, they are talking out of their ass and would forget all about those "standards" as soon as they met someone appealing who showed interest in them and made them laugh. It's also a way of drowning out your own insecurities and/or feeling like hot shit to act like you can make all sorts of demands.

>>18498186
No problem. I would lead with something short and sweet. Hey [girl], hope everything worked out with that [project or whatever else she mentioned]. I was wondering if you'd like to go do x and y on # day." Something like that. A bit of a leader but no real beating around the bush.

>>18498190
Taller than me, that's all I care about. Where I live, you'd basically have to have some sort of deformity or disorder to be a man and shorter than me anyway, so 99% of men apply.

Also there is such a thing as too tall. Fucked with a guy that, ironically did have a growth disorder just made him freakishly huge, it was really awkward because we didn't really line up right.
That and he had to like, bend down to hug me as if I were a child lol.

So freakishly short and freakishly tall are deal breaking I guess.

Are off put by women with serious passions? My friend told my obsession with film intimates a lot of men and one of the reasons I've been rejected by guys I like a few time.

>>18498234
kek, no
guys usually like girls with passions other than make up and gossiping

>>18498236
Not her but there's lots of basic dudes as well who don't really know how to react to a serious interest that plays a big role in your life they can't relate to. I have never had a guy outright reject me but it has absolutely been a conversation stopper until I changed the subject.

>>18498234
Get a passion for typing. And I don't think having passions per se kills a relationship, but if it's not shared, it eats up all your time and you basically wont be spending much time together I could see guys getting cold feet. DESU find an equally nerdy guy. If nothing else he'll have something to do while you're doing your thing.

>>18498191
>>18498201
>>18498223
what is "too tall"? 6'5+?

>>18498246
Well I'm 5'0" so anything taller than 5'10/11"

>>18498246
I'm 5'9. For me 6'3 and upwards would be so tall he needed to be one special person for me to still pursue a relationship. Still strongly prefer someone who's 5'9 or 5'10 over 6'1 or something.

I'm about to meet a tinder date in 20 mins. Quick, give me your top 5 first date tips.

>>18498246
I'm 5'1, the guy I was with was somewhere between 6'10 and 7 foot. He was obnoxiously tall lol, and noodly too.

>>18498267
1. Brush your teeth.
2. Comb your hair.
3. Wash your body.
4. Get her to talk about herself, not you.
5. Stop using Tinder.

goddamn it i just want an average qt gf thats not fat
is that too much to ask

>>18498282
Yes.

>>18498272

Check to the first three. Noted for the fourth. Disregarded on the fifth. Tinder is too easy to stop using.

>>18498286
I joke, but not really. You're going to have a harder time finding girls worth dating on Tinder.
But yeah. Get her to talk about yourself. Discuss common interests. Girls that are desperate to be in relationships focus on shared hobbies and passions more than anything else.

>>18498285
ok ):

Is cumming on a girl's face / down her throat normal for every relationship? or is it only a porn thing .

>>18498332
Neither, it's normal for a relationship but also normal for the girl or both to have no desire for it. Swallowing it after a blowjob is more common than facials but neither is restricted to porn. It's something people communicate between the two of them and see where they both stand individually.

>>18498332
I would never allow for it personally. Not my thing.

I only feel comfortable with cum on my tits.

Am I piece of shit if I hook-up with a girl I met online?

I'm 18, about to go into the military and kinda want to get it out of my system.

I try not to take things in life too seriously, but I'm sick of regretting all my decisions. I don't know how I'll feel about this.

Why is it considered creepy to just tell a girl i think she is pretty
fuck man i just want to tell you sometimes
and its a fucking compliment
wtf i hate life its so confusing

>>18498378
Not a hookup kind of girl so maybe I'm seeing it strangely, but it's probably fine as long as you both go into it with the same expectations.

How do girls feel about being ignored sexualy?

>>18498378
If you're open with your intentions, no. Hardly anyone dates seriously anymore anyway.

Just don't pretend to have any intentions of getting to know her further, tell her straight up before clothes start coming off that this is a one time thing, or at least just a casual thing

>>18498409
What do you mean? Like orgasm denial, or one sided love making where she gets you off and you do nothing to her?

>>18498416
Both i guess. I meant it more in a fetish type of way than some asshole just using you

>>18498420
Fetish, idk it's not my thing entirely, though I will admit I LOVE the tease. However I want to get off eventually.

Selfish lovers though, fuck em.

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Girlfriend of 3 years birthday is tomorrow, what are some cute ideas/ways to show I love her

(this is something that would happen this week, not necessarily tomorrow, we're chill like that)

>>18498441
You've been together three years and you don't know how you'd do that?

>>18498441
poop on her chest

there was this girl who had a thing for me since grade 9, but i was never interested because she's boring to talk to and not the brightest (just being 100% honest). we ended up hooking up years later at prom. she messaged me after basically looking to make it happen again, and I stopped responding/ blew her off. that was 2 years ago.

she might be kinda a psycho now, because some friend posted on her wall about how they get drunk and rant about hating men and weird shit like that. but apparently we're going to the same school in the fall, and I was wondering if it would be worth it to apologize for what I did, or if I have anything to apologize for.

I always thought she was a really nice girl, and I didn't want to get her hopes up about us dating because it wouldn't end well, and she seemed to really like me. I was trying to avoid hurting her, but I may have done it in a shitty way and hurt her anyway. SO, should I apologize and potentially try to be friends, apologize and then leave her alone, or just leave her the fuck alone? I'm socially retarded but I feel kinda bad. Sorry for writing a fucking novel, but any help is appreciated.

>>18498443
I'm admitedly not the most inventive when it comes to these things. I've done stuff before like leaving her surprise letters/presents in her bag, taking her back to the theatre we had our first date at, making her valentines coupons for free dates, etc.

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>>18497921
how come pretty girls never start conversations with shy guys? Or approach them at parties? Im not good looking, but I'm nice, and i'll probably be really interested in what you have to say.

>>18498441
What are her interests? I legit want to help

>>18498234
Some men can be intimidated if its a passion they know nothing about or have no interest in.
For example, I know this really cute, outgoing sweet girl who'd probably make a kick ass girlfriend but she is extremely passionate about the outdoors, something I don't really care for at all. Because of that, I have little interest in dating her as I don't know really know how I could make her happy if I don't want to go rock climbing/hiking/fishing/kayaking every weekend.

>>18498332
I don't know. My boyfriend and I do this and I love it. I liked it before I even knew it was a porn thing. However, the more I've learned of other female preferences, most females I've heard from don't like this or find it degrading.

I am not entirely sure why I like it. Might be a little vain, but I think I look really hot with bf's cum all over me and he thinks I look hot, so win-win. As for cum down my throat, I think I just like my bf's reaction to it more than anything.

Generally, if a girl tells you she needs to "work through some things" before she'd be ready for a relationship in reply to your asking her out, is that the point where I'm supposed to take a hint and give up? We're still friends for the time being and I would like a bit more closure than that. Would prying to that end be inappropriate? Sorry if it's not really gendered (after all I feel like I'd do something similar if a chick asked me out that I wasn't really into).

>>18498561
she wants to fuck other guys first
abort mission

Ex broke up with me a year ago because we were incompatible and I obviously cared more about her than she did me. We both cut all contact and have not spoken since. We're blocked on all social media, although for some reason she's still facebook friends with my dad and my brother.

How safe is it to assume that she isn't hurting or damaged or feeling anything about it, and that if she was she probably would've said something?

I keep thinking that it'd be nice to at least have the opportunity to act cordial to each other one time, since our breakup was a shit-flinging mess. Things are pretty different in my life now and I imagine hers too. I'm just aware that I could literally just mean nothing to her, in fact I'm more terrified of that than the possibility of her actively resenting me. Does that classify as an acceptable risk or a sign that I'm not far enough over it?

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What's more important, asking a girl out "now" just in case if I wait someone else asks her first? Or asking her when the right moment comes?
In other words: can I be sure that there's no difference between asking now and asking 2 weeks later? That a yes is always a yes and a no is always a no?
I'm worried that if I ask her now she'll say no because the last time we met we had some awkward (bad chemistry) unlike every time we meet. So I want to see her again and not spill my spaghetti. But I also feel like if I wait, it might somehow be too late.

How do I go about getting laid? I'm attractive enough to do it, but being sheltered for a majority of my life the whole concept is completely foreign.

>>18498635
bumping this

A girl rejected me 7 months ago and last week we stumble in the street small generic chat like 2 mins and goodbye and keep doing my thing

After a week (yesterday) she send me messages telling me she wants to be with me and how she was stupid for rejecting me back when i tried

Difference btw 7 months ago and now? i got fit and is not like i was fat 7 months ago in fact i was pretty average looking but now that im muscular and i use more accesorys (shades, watches and different kinds of belts that match my shoes/watch) NOW she wants to be with me and well i still think shes hot and a part of me wants to get the oportunity

But i also want to ditch her because NOW that im doing good she wants to be with me and no before kind makes me feel like sex toy i dont know i need some advice.

>>18498765
>people should be attracted to me even if I'm unattractive
Get over yourself.

>>18498458

>tfw been in love with a boring and not very bridge girl since the 8th grade
>tfw never got to hook up with her because she doesn't feel that way about me
>mfw tried getting with her 10 years later and got rejected for an offer of a single date

I'd be lucky as hell to be in your situation.

>>18498789
wow such useful advice

>>18498635
Sheltered how, and how does this affect an uninterrupted hundred million or whatever generations that fucked and procreated, leading up to you? You already know how to get laid.

>>18498621
People are random at some level. But good luck guessing the perfect moment just right. Just try.

Two hypotheticals for both sexes.

1. Would it bother you at all if your partner or potential partner had zero social media presence?

2. If you were in a relationship and your current partner you liked well enough, not everything was perfect, but 85% of the time things went well together, and then one night you found your 100% perfect everything, looks, mind, personality, everything 100% partner, but you could only be together for one night. Would you cheat on your current partner with them?

I'd like honest answers, if that's ok. Not idealistic ones.

>>18498800

For all of middle and highschool I was never allowed to hang out or go anywhere so my social skill is absolutely fucked. I've probably friendzoned myself dozens of times not knowing how to move things forward, the whole thing just sounds so forced, like you basically have to force yourself on a girl, I don't know at all

>>18498803
>1. Would it bother you at all if your partner or potential partner had zero social media presence?
No, I really don't care.

> Would you cheat on your current partner with them?
That very much depends on a lot more details, like what exact terms we are even partnered up under.

>>18498809
If you violate social rules all over you quite possibly get stamped off as unattractively mentally deficient or something with many partners. Sexual attraction is very strongly a mental / physical capability check, overall.

Keep trying and learn how to behave more normal. You'll manage to get laid sooner or later.

>>18497926
It doesn't matter.
What matters more is selfishness. A guy could have a perfect cock, and still be shit in bed if he only thinks of himself. Good sex is more than dick size.

>>18498803
>Would it bother you at all if your partner or potential partner had zero social media presence?

No, that's basically me. In fact it would actually bother me if they spend a lot of time with their social media presence.

>If you were in a relationship and your current partner you liked well enough, not everything was perfect, but 85% of the time things went well together, and then one night you found your 100% perfect everything, looks, mind, personality, everything 100% partner, but you could only be together for one night. Would you cheat on your current partner with them?

Fuck no, it wouldn't make any sense. First of all I'm not willing to dump a relationship for sex and company of this person just for one night.

Women, do you ever try to make guys you're interested in jealous or something? If so, how?

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I have an odd problem

>Have friend
>She's a total fucking bitch
>Criticizes EVERYTHING about EVERYONE
>Thinks she is the greatest thing ever
>Ditches friends
>Lies to friends
>Uses friends
>Acts like a total raging bitch 24/7
>However she's insanely easy to sleep with
>Puts out immediately without any work whatsoever
>Fuck her at least 4-5 times a week
>Amazing sex and she's about a 8/10
>Afterwards she resumes being a total bitch to everyone


So pretty much it's like this, she's a GOD awful friend, total bitch and cares very little for anyone besides herself, but the sex is amazing, as far as I know she's only sleeps with me and 2 other friends, and I admit 110% that I'm really only friends with her for the sex, with the way she treats people I'm sure that's the case for others as well

Does this make me a bad person? I recently caught her lying to me about something pretty serious and she just said "Oh well, deal with it" so I'm pretty pissed, but I don't want to cause any problems because I don't want to lose the sex, I feel like I'm in the wrong here somehow and just want to know what others think.

>>18498860
She is apparently okay with casual sex, if you are too (and don't overly rely on her continuing to provide it) just have fun with that and do all your other hobbies without her.

>>18498845
I wouldn't call it making them jealous, but I did off-handedly mention the instances when someone was interested in me. I also made it clear that I wasn't interested in the guy who made a move on me, though. I guess it was me autistically trying to gauge their reaction to the fact that other people find me attractive.

>>18498860
Do you care more about what your dick head thinks or your brain head thinks?

>>18498880
>I also made it clear that I wasn't interested in the guy who made a move on me

How so?

>>18498803
1. No, that's dumb.
2. No, what the fuck.

I'm in love with someone who has a BF. Can't stop thinking about her. How do I get over this?

>>18498924
Abduct her and lock her in your basement until she gets the Stockholm Syndrome.

>>18498928
Solid advice. Thanks anon

Question for everyone if you have an experience like mine or you have been in the same situation, or if you have actually done what i'm about to describe.

I just broke up with my girlfriend after 9 months into the relationship, she basically told me that she could not be with me for 2 reasons: 1st one is that in all that time she could not forget about her ex boyfriend, she told me that she doesn't know why she couldn't forget him, and she considers me a better man than him in every aspect and that I'm the best boyfriend she ever had, but she could never fully love me while still thinking about the other guy. The second reason is because apparently she has a history of cheating on her boyfriends, she confessed me that she was close of doing it to me once and she doesn't want to hurt me, so we better break up now that nothing has happened.

So here's the question:
> Have you ever cheated in a long-term relation ship and why?

I just don't get why would someone do it. I mean, if I was not enough for her, didn't she knew from the beginning that I was not good enough?
If I was enough, Is it an addiction? Why would someone risk loosing something so valuable as a serious relationship for something so worthless?
She didn't even actually do it, Why do I feel so offended by this?
Even the other thing about her ex bf I understand, but this... This hurts.

>>18498916
I outright said so. The guy I was crushing on was a close friend at that time, so it wasn't strange to discuss our love lives, though I imagine that my maneuver would be difficult to execute in any other situation.

>>18498803
No and no.
Male.

>>18498803
>1. Would it bother you at all if your partner or potential partner had zero social media presence?
No. Social media is annoying garbage anyway.

>2. If you were in a relationship and your current partner you liked well enough, not everything was perfect, but 85% of the time things went well together, and then one night you found your 100% perfect everything, looks, mind, personality, everything 100% partner, but you could only be together for one night. Would you cheat on your current partner with them?
Nope.

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Girls: As everyone knows, Tinder is a dating/hookup app and currently I'm regularly seeing a few girls. Some for hookups, some for dates. I feel a little wrong dating multiple women at the same time but I also don't want to put all my eggs in one basket. Is it wrong? I mean, they're on there too and obviously I expect them to still be seeing and talking to others but I feel weird about personally doing it.

What do? I'm fairly steady with one and then I'm seeing another for a first date soon. She's just come out of a LTR though so I'm probably a rebound, so should I still feel bad?

I just need some opnions. I'm confused as fuck.

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>>18497921
whats the youngest guy you would consider dating
Whats the oldest guy you'd consider dating
>do you have a preference younger or older? why?

>>18499176
Most girls will stick to their age group

>>18499176
Youngest: 20.
Oldest: 30.

I'm 23 for reference. I'm leaning to older guys more because they tend to be less immature.

>>18499176
I'm 24, almost 25. I'd probably date 24 as the youngest, 28 or so as the oldest.

>>18499176
+/-5 years is probably my limit. I'm 24.

>>18498282
are you cute and not fat anon?

>>18498387
maybe don't be creepy when you say it then

>>18498441
depends on what she likes/what you guys like to do together. i like taking my gf out to do something. for the last anniversary i had (single atm) i rented one of those tiny electric boats and we cruised along a river, it was nice.

>>18498506
you look boring. you wouldn't go to talk to the girl who doesn't talk to anyone.

>>18499176
Gotta remember that this is just a loosely followed rule

Seen lots of young ladies with guys in their 30s-40s

>>18498506
Why would they want to?

>>18498796
he's right.
>wow why does her opinion of me change when i change?

>>18498234
Not at all. Some passions could be a problem for the relationship though, depending on the guy. Like the other guy's example, I couldn't handle a girl who wants to go hiking, climbing, etc. every weekend because I'm not interested in that and more of a night life kind of guy anyway. But a girl with serious passions is generally always a plus.

I have read somewhere that men like smart women in theory, but feel threatened by them in practice. Is this meme true? Would you feel emasculated if your gf was smarter than you?

>>18498803
man
1. as long as you have a phone i can call/text you on, no. it could get slightly annoying for things like group conversations or invites to an event i suppose.
2. no what the fuck, especially not for one night

Girls:
Why the fuck would you act super interested and engaged on a first date, even ask to hang out again, then never talk to me again. Is this some sort of fucking game among you people?

>>18498765
You shouldn't give her a second chance. While I agree with the other guys who replied that you can't expect people to be attracted to you when you are unattractive, it's still a deal breaker that your personality wasn't enough for her to date you. The relationship would hinge on the fact that you are somewhat attractive now. That's not good.

>>18499167
yes it's wrong

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Am I an asshole?

>Old friend from high school texts me
>She says she's moving back to town
>Haven't seen her since high school
>Remember the fun times we used to have
>Playing video games and chilling in town
>She was easily a 8/10
>Tall with blonde hair and blue eyes
>We flirted a lot but never dated
>Excited as fuck to see her again
>We spend the next few days texting
>She tells me that she wishes we had dated
>And would love to spend time with me
>She gives me her address to her apartment in town
>Grab a nice vase and some flowers as a gift
>Knock on the door
>Sitting there for like 5 minutes hearing someone move inside
>Door finally opens
>She's fucking HUGE
>Not even kidding at least 300+ pounds
>The smell is overwhelming
>She's sweaty despite it being only 60 degrees outside
>When she hugs me I could feel her STICK to me when she pulled away
>We go inside and sit and talk for a bit
>She tells me about after high school
>She went to college far away and got into some deep trouble
>Multiple guys used her and abused her badly
>She had a drug problem for a little bit but got clean
>She started eating and became a shut in
>She tells me that she wants to be close to me again
>And maybe even something more
>Told her that this is going too fast and I need time to think
So here's the thing, I don't judge people based off their looks, but she is FUCKING MASSIVE, I'm talking couch bound, she had problems breathing and standing for very long, I don't want to be in a relationship with someone like that, I feel awful for what happened to her after college and I'm glad she got cleaned up, but holy fuck the stench was overwhelming, it was like burning onions inside of a toilet filled with shit, I don't know what to say to her to not hurt her feelings, and I feel awful knowing that if she wasn't fat I would have no problem dating her

She looks like pic related only slightly fatter.

>>18499294
No
No

Never met a guy who prefers dumb women and it's actually a huge turn off for me. I'm a pretty smart dude and I would appreciate a girl smarter than me.

>>18499294
smart is a really vague word.
but if a girl is actually smart, she would know how not to make someone else feel dumb. so no it's not a problem.
dumb girls can be cute for a while, but i'd rather be with someone quick-witted. i don't really care about being cultured though.

>>18499294
It's true for some men.

>>18499294
I like smart women and prefer it, but what I don't want is a know it all which I've experienced with some women (particularly ones with degrees, despite those degrees being something awful like arts).

>>18499307
Not an asshole. Shit sucks about her life and it's obviously a mitigating factor in her weight gain but that only earns her additional compassion and not the right to put that expectation on you.

Just tell her that your life has changed since high school and you are no longer interested in her in that way.

>>18499307

Not in the slightest. She doesn't look after herself and is clearly doing a last attempt sweep at trying to find somebody who will support her, so she can get married and have babies, like she was expected to do before she became a fat, drug addicted mess.

Be honest with her. Tell her that you'd like to remain friends as you enjoyed spending time with her when you were both younger, but you just don't find her attractive.There isn't really any coming back from 300lbs +, so you can't even date her and then encourage her to lose the weight.

Don't feel bad anon. She fucked up and is now desperate to get some security in place.

>>18499320
>>18499328

Thanks guys, later today I'm going to go back to her place and just tell her I'm not looking for a relationship but I'd love to stay friends, I'm hoping she doesn't throw the "It's because I'm fat isn't it?" card at me, what do I do if she says that?

>>18499314
>she would know how not to make someone else feel dumb
See, that's exactly what I have a problem with. I always make people feel dumb without even trying (or noticing until it's too late because I'm autistic). Usually it's me using "big" words that nobody knows (I just speak like that naturally, I'm not trying to impress anyone) or discussing topics people aren't familiar with or just people witnessing how fast I pick up skills/how fast I understand new concepts. I have been told that I'm the reason my friends have inferiority complexes. Then again, my bf is super smart, possibly smarter than me, so I guess it's fine in this regard.

>>18499294
Dated a girl who is majoring in physics. Was alright. I generally wouldn't care if a girl is dumb or smart but smart people in general tend to be more judgmental. And I'm saying that although I'm smart myself

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>>18498441
Pic related.

>>18499330

Just respond that she just isn't your type. You don't have to go into detail about it but if she jumps to the fact it's to do with her weight, it kind of shows how much she is already aware of this and how much of a mug she thinks you are.

>>18499344
>Just respond that she just isn't your type
That's pretty much the same thing as "you're too fat"

>>18497926
7-8"

>>18499345
So? It's true and anyone that size is already aware that it counts against them in a romantic sense. It's her hang up and her issue to deal with and you're under no obligation to find her attractive despite her weight. If you did then she would be lucky, but since you didn't it's a moot point.

>>18499349
I'm not him. I'm just pointing out that telling her that isn't exactly what he should do if he wants to avoid addressing that her weight is the reason he's rejecting her.

>>18499167
You should probably make it clear to these women that you're not exclusive. Especially the one you're "fairly steady" with.

It's wrong to be fucking around when your partner(s) are unaware of it. Assuming they're on the same page because you met on a particular app is not good enough. Actually talk to them.

>>18499176
Youngest: 18
Oldest: 25

I'm 19, so I can't really date too much younger than myself without dating literal children.

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>>18498604
She is an ex for reason. WHY ARE YOU STILL THINKING ABOUT HER?
>out of sight, out of mind
You finding out she has kids, marriage and chad as new bf wont help you. FORGET ABOUT HER!

>>18498635
Online dating, asking them out in 1st convo, getting their phone number, buying condoms, smiling and treating them as people (not walking vaginas), asking for netflix and chill (the netflix part is a lie). Being bold and handholding them, kissing them, asking them to walk her home. The moment you get boner is the moment you want to make her feel attractive.

>>18499303
This.

>>18498803
Social media are cancer, there are no 100% people.

>>18499167
Seeing multiple girls at once is valid strategy, girls do the same all the time. Maybe try to limit sex to one girl or avoid it until you pick one and ghost the rest.
Pic related.

>>18499294
My ideal gf is both smarter and richer than me so i can finally be the stupid one in relationship.
>i have yet to meet such woman
>inb4 overblown ego

>>18499298
It is called ghosting. They met somebody better than you or were afraid to reject you in the person. Pretty common. Keep looking.

>>18499344
I just don't want to hurt her anymore, she's been through a lot already, and being turned down will only make her feel worse, but I'm not going to get into a relationship with someone just because I feel bad for them, going to just be honest

Going to tell her that she's changed a lot and isn't my type anymore.

>>18499354
>19

You ARE literal children.

>>18499355
>Maybe try to limit sex to one girl or avoid it until you pick one and ghost the rest.
I have been so far in a way. One is just a very casual hookup, practically a bootycall, and another is the steady one. But the new one is pretty fun. She's just come out of a relationship and I think honestly I'd prefer her as a friend but the last time I explained I was seeing someone and wanted a friend, I got ghosted hard despite the fact I was upfront and honest at the start.

How do I avoid that again? Should I keep back the stable relationship? Should I just say I'm not sure what I'm looking for, keep things going a bit and then propose the just friends idea?

>>18498803
1. Wouldn't bother me, in fact would be a plus
2. Hell no
>t. Male

I've been talking to a girl online for a while now, and we are getting close. However, it seems as if she is asexual? She has never had sex, masturbated, and said she didn't know what turned her on, because she had never thought about it. I want to talk to her about this. Is she asexual or just really sheltered?

>>18499294
Not unless she was really show-offish about it

>>18499374
How should we know?

>>18499294
There's actually some old ass study that suggests relationships last longer if the girl is slightly smarter.
That said, intelligence in women itself isn't particularly attractive, but some people REALLY hype it up. So I guess it can seem like what you say.

>Would you feel emasculated if your gf was smarter than you?
I'd be annoyed if anything, if it was to the point where I couldn't follow what she was thinking.

>>18499374

asexual is quite rare, she probably just has a low sex drive, its not that abnormal for a woman to never masturbate because it's not like a biological urge like it is for guys where if you don't do it you literally cum in your sleep

>>18499294
I dated a girl once where it's possible she may have been smarter than me, but whether or not this was true was irrelevant to the fact that she treated me like the worlds worst idiot.

Intelligence is one thing, treating people shitty because of a supposed superiority just makes you a shitty person.

So not intimidated or emasculated, no. But wary.

>>18498958
>didn't she knew from the beginning that I was not good enough?
of course not.
there are lots and lots of your traits, you won't show for weeks, even months after your first date.
And sometimes there are also traits one considers harmless at first, but changes their mind later.

But it doesn't seem to be the case here.
I have no idea, why did she do that. I suggest some very low self-esteem. No idea why she couldn't forget her ex. Maybe it's just a matter of chemistry. Maybe she has some form of OCD.

Would I cheat?
well, that's tricky. I never really did it. I don't think I would, simply because I am pretty picky about my life partners. So the chosen one is probably going to be better than any other alternative.

But keep in mind, that people cheat for a very simple reason: the reward in theshort-time perspective is really great. The punishment comes much later. It can even be avoided completely. It's the very same situation as with alcohol and hangover - as long as you're drunk everything is fine. If the hangover was starting right after every sip of alcohol, you would avoid it..

The girl I'm seeing recently started on anti depressants and her sex drive is practically dead. She used to be practically a nympho so it's a BIG change. What can I do to make things go a little back to normal?

>>18499443
absolutely nothing. She must give up on her meds for any change. Make her talk to her doc about it

>>18497995
>your worth as a person is not measured by how you get rejected by girls
It's not, but...
being rejected by girls means you don't have enough worth for them to like you

How weird is sounding to gals in general?

>>18499462
you both fall for generalisation trap.

getting rejected means nothing more than the fact, that the girl you hit up on was not interested in you at that certain moment in her life

it tells you nothing about the other 3 billion.

Girls,
I am really passionate about competitive shooting, to the point where I wouldn't even consider giving it up for a woman. If she can't deal with it, it's a dealbreaker to me. Now in the past, and in person, most woemn seem to be be neutral on it and I've even turned a few who were against it. Normally they get interested and want to try. It also takes up quite a bit of my time, wednesday evening, friday afternoon and saturday and/or sunday mornings until early afternoon.
I'm trying to get into online dating but I am afraid of putting my biggest hobby as a hobby since girls might be scared before I even get a chance to explain how owning guns does not make me a serial killer. Online gaming is even less attractive and I only work out to stay in shape and look good, not because I love it so much. Should I just mention traveling and cuddling puppies instead?

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>>18499184
>women in charge of maturity
I love this meme.

>>18499176
I'm 24. Although I would absolutely take it case by case if I was crazy about a man, 22-28 still sounds reasonable to me. Anything beyond that would make me wary.

I strongly prefer someone who's my own age. (23-25) It's more likely for you to be in a similar place in life. You don't have to wonder whether they like you as a person or that they are not interested in a relationship with age peers and you happened to be the younger girl who reciprocated interest. I also am fairly inexperienced and while I accept that any partner I'll have is likely more experienced than me, I still like to feel like two young folks stumbling to figure out love and life.

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/soc/ is slow, what do you folks think?

>>18499493
I would be upfront about it and try to provide context that will make it more understandable. Eg say that you are passionate both about recreational shooting and proper gun safety. It's not something I know a lot about but there's probably a more detailed way you can get across that you aren't some sort of meathead about it. For the record, I'm European and not a fan of the idea of owning guns at all but I would not get the wrong idea as long as you know how to sell it. As someone who has a very serious hobby that virtually no one can relate to, it also really helps if you can break down what exactly you like about it in more global terms.

As for not mentioning it, I can see why you would consider it and under different circumstances it could be fine, but given just how much time you invest into this I think some girls would feel a bit cheated to find out that you failed to mention something that plays such a big role in your life. You also increase the risk that either or both of you start to develop budding feelings only to conclude that yep, it's a dealbreaker and no relationship can happen.

>>18499378
Good point..
>>18499416
All right, thanks. But not knowing at all what turns you on is strange, no?

>>18499555
Kinda, yeah. But she could be sheltered, or a prude, or just a really innocent/naive person. Or you could be right and she's asexual. Impossible for us to tell.

Honestly the more important question here is whether she's willing to explore sexuality with you? Is she willing to learn what turns her on?

Talk to her about it. Not random fucks on the internet who know nothing about her or her psyche.

>>18499374
>>18499555
Chiming in here. I used to be the same way. Only learned to masturbate when I was eighteen and before that, I didn't know what turned me on. Yes I had vague hunches but some of those turned out to be nothing, and other strong turn ons I only realized later.

The thing is that the human mind is EXTREMELY adaptable. If you do not consciously experience arousal, ever, then you don't recognize it either when you feel it. I know that sounds really weird but it's true. Feelings you don't have words for remain elusive and fleeting. And arousal doesn't always feel the same: sometimes it's weak, sometimes strong, sometimes mixed with pride, other times with shame or disgust. So that makes it more difficult still. I had a male friend who would feel up my leg in class "as a joke" and it would get me so horny, but at the time I only realized that I felt flustered and that it felt good. And I rationalized that stuff to myself: not weird to feel flustered because perhaps people saw. Not weird to feel good about it because I loved cuddling and it was a friendly kind of touch.

It is very possible that she just doesn't want to disclose her preferences but nothing you stated is remotely implausible to me because I used to be exactly the same.

>>18499378
Good point..
>>18499416
All right, thanks. But not knowing at all what turns you on is strange, no?

Why are there normies on this board?

>>18499578
Because /adv/ without normies is like the blind leading the blind. Most questions here relate to "normie" topics.

>>18499355
>smiling and treating them as people (not walking vaginas)

Stop including this condescending bullshit

>>18499590
Not them but given how many questions there are here talking about women like they cannot possibly be humans, it is not obvious to every poster around.

>>18499543
Do you have freckles on your nose?

Is it beta to ask a girl if she's going some place, specifically to decide if I go or not based on her going?

>>18499331
>because I'm autistic
well yeah that goes without saying that i wouldn't date an autist

>>18499629
It's not something you want to do more than once because you don't want to come across as fixated on her and whatever she attends. But in itself this is a completely normal question to ask. To friends or crushes to gauge if you can hang out with them there, but also just to get another person's opinion when being on the fence. She won't know for sure what role her attending plays in your decision.

>>18499629
>specifically to decide if I go or not based on her going
don't tell this part to her

I just touched myself to the thought of sucking off my crush until he came so hard he needed a lie down afterwards. Am I unusually horny for a woman?

>>18499639
that doesn't sound like a question for the opposite gender. as a man that seems pretty normal.

>>18499644
Am I a pervert or is this normal is what I meant to ask?

>>18499639
Completely normal.

>>18499647
pervert? but everyone masturbates
I don't think I ever masturbated to my crush actually, I think I will right now. I'm losing hope on dating her.

>>18499639
I'm lying down RIGHT NOW

>>18497952
>>18497949
>>18497937
FYI average is like 5.5", 7 inches is probably 95th percentile

>>18497960
just text. Women are demanding enough when it comes to dating expectations, you don't need to give in to even more of their games. I don't even think there's a stigma on texting anymore, there used to be but eventually women got used to it

>>18498129
>Do guys ever get the girl they like
occasionally, but it's not as common as girls getting the guy they like. Most men will get rejected a LOT before they actually find a girl who likes him, and by that time most men have lowered their standards substantially

>>18499639
>sucking off my crush until he came so hard he needed a lie down afterwards
You're setting some high standards here lmao.
It's probably more normal for guys to have fantasies like that, but guys wouldn't judge you for that.

Girls

What's your opinion of guys who don't choose to do the hook up/FwB/Casual sex thing? My friends understand why I don't want a girlfriend. But they always say "dude just have sex then, you don't need a girlfriend for that".

>>18499657
>FYI average is like 5.5"
To be fair the question was what their ideal was. Those girls that get posted everywhere with great hip-waist ratio, perky natural breasts with nice nipples, a good ass, long legs, pretty faces etc are also rare exceptions. Not so much individual things I mentioned as having it all combined but still.

Also it is hard to judge, most women have a kind of skewed perspective. Like the girl saying she wanted 7" because she has a 7" dildo. Apparently she doesn't actually use 7" of penetration because you also need to hold it somewhere for penetration which takes off at least an inch to get a good grip to plow yourself with.
I think many girls have the idea that 7" is just kind of above average because the numbers get inflated so much.

>>18499665
To be others, if you were a friend of mine I would probably also prod you for interest in hooking up because I like living vicariously through others and playing matchmaker.

But for a man I'm going to date seriously, I would very very strongly prefer someone who is picky about who he sleeps with. Not doing casual sex or friends with benefits at all is not necessary for me but still appreciated.

>>18499659
What kind of sexual fantasies do guys have? I usually imagine doing it slowly in missionary while looking into his eyes. I've taken up working out at the gym for 1 hour a day for 6 days a week for the past 2 months and it's making me constantly turned on all the time.

>>18498190
Yes. Women are shallow as fuck, fortunately you got the winning end of that shallowness

>>18498267
If you need to ask for date tips you need more practice dating. If you're not getting enough dates, start going with girls you're not that interested in so you can at least get the experience

>>18499294
no. It's something smart fat girls tell themselves to excuse why they're single, and something that smart attractive girls with impossible standards use to deflect from the fact that she's single because she rejected 100 guys
Any smart girl who isn't fat doesn't have any trouble with dating

>>18499676
>To be others
What. Meant *honest there.

>>18499676

>I would probably also prod you for interest in hooking up because I like living vicariously through others and playing matchmaker.

I wouldn't do it. My friends have been trying for years. I gave in twice before, like 6 years ago. Both were bad times. So I refuse to ever hook up with anyone again. I would only be willing to have sex with a girlfriend. But I don't plan on getting a girlfriend for the next 4-5 years

Is there such a thing as a dominant/blunt girl who acts kind of like an asshole but doesn't treat her bf like a doormat? Always liked those girls but never wanted to date them because their bfs are bitches and don't have any control over the relationship. They're completely dominated by the woman.

I want a dominant gf but I also want to be dominant. Does this even make sense?

>>18499685
I don't really mean actually pushing, just you know, fishing whether you had interest in that. It's too personal to actually meddle in.

Also from what I hear casual sex is generally sloppy and mediocre.

>>18499688
It's called cuckold.

>>18499688
>Is there such a thing as a dominant/blunt girl who acts kind of like an asshole but doesn't treat her bf like a doormat?
No.

>>18499671
it was more aimed at the guy who said "that sounds reasonable"

>>18499694
REEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Anon I don't want that.

>>18499693

>Also from what I hear casual sex is generally sloppy and mediocre

All of my friends, both male and female have done, or are currently having casual sex with someone. They all say how "it's just really fun!"

>>18499688
It makes sense to me but you have to realize that if a woman acts this way, that's not for nothing. She likes/needs to feel in control, this is what she's done all her life so it's what makes her feel comfortable and like herself... She will usually gather meek friends around her because the power struggle with two dominant girls will be unappealing.

So most of those women have no interest in suddenly losing that position in the most intense relationship they have. In real life I have known a few who were self-aware enough to realize that they ultimately could not respect an actual doormat, and sought out men who tell them to shut up every once in a while. Still though they will be the more dominant and controlling one in everyday life.

I don't doubt they exist but if this is what you really want, you're bound to be looking for a long time.

>>18499697
Fair enough.

>>18499703
I have several friends in my social circle who quit casual sex because it was never fun to them. Still though, it depends a lot on your personality. Some people get a huge rush from "scoring" and undressing a stranger. Others feel mildly awkward about that. There's really no comparing that just because they like it, you would, but that's generally a tough concept for people to embrace.

Why do I see so many guys on 4chan saying they wish they were girls? It's a lot of fucking work.

>Periods in general
>Period cramps
>Almost everything about pregnancy
>Most other girls are two-faced bitches
>Bras are uncomfortable to wear for long periods
>You have to wear them though or else your tits sag which is undesirable in western culture
>Have to work out a lot to stay in shape or else you get fat which is undesirable in western culture
>Jews constantly pressuring you through media to date niggers
>Finding a dress for formal functions is fucking difficult, guys just have to wear a tux. Having the same dress as someone else is a big faux pas
>Cannot go certain places alone, especially at night
>Cannot go to certain countries alone at all
>Physically weaker than men so if someone decides to overpower you and abduct you there's not much you can do about it
>Some men will hit on you when it's inappropriate
>Some men think that being nice to you means they get to have sex with you
>Have to deal with men whose spunk is not at all pleasant to taste
>Have to spend a bare minimum of 30 minutes putting on make up before going out

>>18499707

>Others feel mildly awkward about that.

For me, I felt extremely awkward doing that. I've only ever been with 2 girls, 1 time each. Both times were extremely awkward and uncomfortable for me. Infact, i felt very stressed. Sex felt stressful. That's why I won't do it again

>>18499678
Call me a pussy but I usually dream about being dominant but passionate with a girl. I want to take charge but with lots of kissing and gentle biting and rubbing her clit and stuff. Also eye contact. Another huge turnon is draining my balls inside her, and in fantasy land that happens without protection.

>>18499713
>Cultural norm is to be subservient to your husband domestically and sexually
>Can't stand up and whip your pussy out to piss. Pissing and shitting basically take the same amount of effort.
>Have a moist hole in your body that takes a lot of effort to maintain and keep clean or else it gets really gross which is very undesirable
>Have to spend a lot of time shaving, or endure the pain of waxing your legs and armpits or else you look like a hippy which is undesirable in western culture
>Have to spend a lot of time shaving, or endure the pain of waxing your pubic area because porn has warped the mind of men, so you appear younger and more desirable
>Jews in the shops will change the packaging on a men's product to pink and increase the cost by $2
>Have to hide your identity online or else you get harassed by 12 year olds begging to be your friend for whatever reason, or have anons meme you with tits or gtfo or L O N D O N or ask you to sit on their face every time
>Have to hide your identity online or else you get white knights who fucking leap to your defense when you don't want or need them to because >Some men think that being nice to you means they get to have sex with you
>Have to deal with menopause
>Have to deal with your hormones basically screaming in your face nonstop when you are in your 30's to have children
>Have to protect your virginity like it's the most precious thing in the entire world while half the world is out to steal it from you
>Sex is very uncomfortable or even painful when you aren't experienced at it, this is not the case with guys
>Almost all guys are very selfish lovers and don't want to continue after they cum
>Almost all guys are very selfish lovers and refuse to touch their cum, but expect you to swallow it

It's not all you think it's cracked up to be. Yes, getting cummed inside is amazing, but most of your other bodily functions have evolved to be as unpleasant and intrusive as possible.

>>18499713

Idiots only say that because it's much easier for you girls to get sex than guys. But I'd much rather be a guy and never have sex, than be a girl who frequently gets sex.

>>18499725
That's another thing. If you frequently have sex as a girl you are considered a slut by society. If a guy frequently has sex he's considered a player and is praised for it.

>>18499713
Because they're beta. They don't have it takes to be a man.

>>18499678
Because training raises testosterone and testosterone makes you horny af.
Not sure about other guys, but my fantasies are like the average porno. I would never masturbate to my crush though. That just makes me uncomfortable and embarrassed.

>>18499713
I still think that being a woman is better as long as you are attractive. I care too much about fashion and I feel extremely limited as a guy.
Most of those "problems" you mentioned aren't really huge to be honest.

Girls, how is this not hot?
https://www.pornhub.com/view_video.php?viewkey=ph575e7b733bb9c

>>18499721
These are all literal non-issues.

>>18499721
>getting cummed inside is amazing
Thanks for helping me get over my ex, she had started to insist I always use a condom at some point which just did not feel as good.

>>18499729
Men don't have what it takes to deal with the nature of female existence, either.

http://www.nytimes.com/2005/08/23/health/a-perilous-journey-from-delivery-room-to-bedroom.html?_r=0

>>18499744
Not true, men tolerate pain better. Look it up.

>>18499727

That's not what I meant.

You do have to realize tho, being a guy and not getting laid is also judged by society. If I told people I've only had sex one time, and it wasn't even good. I'd be judged badly. The amount of sex a man has reflects on his, physical, emotional and social health, as well as strength and masculinity. So if a male doesn't have sex, it makes him appear weak.

Even in my case. I haven't had sex in many years by my own choice. I've had opprotunities. But by my own choice, I didn't go through with them. Even though I chose this. I'd still be viewed as a beta bitch. It's just how society is.

>>18499744
Being mtf transgender is worse than being a woman.

>>18499725
>But I'd much rather be a guy and never have sex, than be a girl who frequently gets sex.
No, you wouldn't. Kill yourself.

>>18499749
Did you actually read the piece? It's not about pain, just embracing how gory real life is.

>>18499727
Well obviously, it's because for women it's easier to have sex. You have to be extremely delusional to not see this. And it's not about attractive people anymore. It's a general terms thing. It takes more effort for a man to get sex than for a woman to get sex.
I think neither should be praised for it though, but specifically women should not.

>>18499758
How soft are women?

>have been mistaken for retarded by my looks/body language alone
>been rejected by 10 girls now
>people bully me even though I'm 21 years old
>only have 1 close friend even though I'm an okay guy and have lots of acquaintances
>think I'm probably autistic because I'm such a fucking failure at everything social

How do I go about dominating everyone else around me? I'm getting tired of being treated like fucking Chris Chan. I don't even want a gf or more friends anymore, I just want people to stop fucking with me so I can live my life in peace.

>inb4 "but that's impossible anon"

>>18499741
Because you don't have to fundamentally change the way you go about your business? Maybe one or two on their own but having to deal with all of them every day, every week is. Each problem has the weight of a feather, but when you are carrying a thousand feathers it gets quite heavy.

>>18499734
Sure. If you work your ass off to look good, and happen to be in the right place at the right time and in the right social circles to attract the attention of the Prince of England or a real estate mogul/president then yea, you are going to have it real easy.
But you're just as likely to end up a single mother living in a trailer with 2 kids working 3 jobs so you can afford to send them to school. Then one day some guy comes along, offers you a hit of heroin and you figure "It's just one, what's the worse that can happen? My life is shitty enough as it is" Then you lose your kids, you're out on the street and selling your body to strangers for your next fix.

>>18499762
You described my life. I wish I had advice. Try to express yourself through art I guess.

>>18499761
I don't really follow how that is the conclusion from reading a man whine about how he cannot find his wife hot anymore after seeing her get cut open while she managed to cope with being cut open and sewn back together again in the first place.

>>18499755

What do you mean? I'm a guy, I've only had sex once before (it was shit).

If I had to choose between staying a guy and never having sex again, or becoming a girl and having endless sex. I'd absolutely choose to stay guy. Being a guy is so much better. Fuck dealing with all the shit girls do. Girls get dramatic over the stupidest things. One of my female friends say that best friends will turn on each other if a boy come between them. She said her group of friends turned on a mutual friend because she had sex with some guy the rest of them liked. What kind of shit is that?

>>18499766
Your EXTREME examples are very specific. I'm 100% sure I wouldn't end up like that if I were a woman. Besides you are assuming I'd have sex with guys.
Either way, in my particular life situation, I'm convinced I wouldn't be depressed and suicidal all the time if I had been born as a female me.
I would sell my soul to the Devil if it were possible to change that.
I already carry a heavy weight so I imagine I'd be ready to carry a different but still heavy weight.

>>18499762
stop letting people walk all over you

>>18499772
>man

>>18499727
Women choose, men pursue. If a man has lots of sex it's a sign of success, a woman havin a lot of sex shows she has no standards. Players are respected because they are able to do something a lot of men want to do but can't, this is the essence of success, meanwhile sluts aren't doing anything special and usually have personality defects aside from their sluttiness.

I don't even know if this is a generalization or just true in every scenario. Never seen it work differently in my own life at least, almost as if men and women aren't exactly the same in every way.

>>18499782
That's kind of the point, right? That this seems a fairly common issue to the author. And honestly given how weird and easily grossed out many men are about vaginas it hardly surprises me.

For the record I'm not the anon who was arguing that it's easier to be a man and I don't believe it is. Just was reminded of reading this piece.

>>18499688
That's kinda how I act. I'm notorious for being blunt and verbally destroying anyone who goes against me. Hell, I have even punched people who tried to touch me against my will. At the same time, I'm super sweet with my bf, I send him heart emojis and I'd never hurt him. I guess you need to find a girl who is jaded/repressed and slowly melt her walls. It's a hard work, though.

My girlfriend's pussy is REALLY fucking tight. Like, I can barely get two fingers into it, let alone my dick.

Anyone have experience with this?

Girls

Are you ever judged for not having much sex or just being inexperienced by your friends?

I was hanging out with a friend the other day, and we sort of had a heart to heart talk and he said "man, you really need to start having these experiences with girls. You're getting close to 30. You have to have experiences under your belt before it's too late. You deserve it, just go hook up with some girls. It's worth it". I didn't enjoy that talk Tbh

>>18499796
It's not the norm, like at all. <1%

>>18499282
>>18499285
i definitely would talk to the girl alone at the party, or really anyone who talks to me, but situations where there's multiple people looking at me are stressful.

at any rate none of the 10/10's are ever alone (of course) and not even the "ugly" girls really come up to me alone and talk to me. I'm just wondering why it seems that girls are never alone, always have friends and don't talk to anyone new at parties?
essentially im just ranting about being ugly and awkward and having no social skills... BUTBEING A REALLY NICE GUY UNDERNEATH ALL THAT... and if i'm willing to look past that in a girl, why can't a girl look past that in a guy?

>>18499802
How experienced are you with her? If you are just starting to have sex, she might be tense and still able to relax further.

Has she had sex with other people? What's her take on it (did she have earlier issues with penetration, was she able to take men of similar thickness)? If you are above average in thickness and she's below average in width it is possible that you literally don't fit...

Also if it hurts her it is probably a (mild) form of vaginismus (subconsciously shutting down the vagina)... but I doubt that given that you can insert fingers which is not typical with that condition.

>>18499800
Black girls kind of act like this but I don't have any dance moves to impress them with. I'm a white bourgeois, and the bourgeois black girls are basically white girls.

>>18499782
This.

>>18499807
What, being weird about pussies? Fuck no. It has been a rare exception when I could as much as off-handedly mention being on my period to a man without him making a face. And that includes guys who will provide all the details on their food poisoning.

Girls: How important is it for a guy to know how to dance? I can't dance. The whole "it's a matter of attitude" thing is bullshit.

>>18499779
Yes, they were extreme examples.
It takes a lot of continuous effort to be attractive as a girl. If you aren't attractive you either become equally lonely as you are now or right horrible feminist/fat acceptance vitriol on the internet for your 3 followers. Someone who gets slept with because of a drunken college dare between frat boys.
If you put the same amount of effort as a girl takes to look good daily into something in your current life then you would be on par socially as if you were a girl.

If I could start over as a guy, would I? No. Nothing is going to change. I'm still going to have to work hard, just at different things than I do now.

All I'm trying to fucking say is that if you were a cute girl all your problems aren't going to disappear.

so I kinda need some female perspective here,
ive been chatting with this girl for some time now, we definitely have a connection, and we've talked over the phone aswell for a good 2 hours (we met on tinder and started off jokingly). now we usually chat on snapchat and stuff but I was wondering how eager would a girl be to meet with someone they have only heard and seen pics from who she met on tinder(she said I looked cute so I guess that's not a problem). My guess was to meet up for drinks and just go as friends first, no pressure of a kiss beforehand you know.
Thing is tinder has this whole stigma that its for people that just want to fuck and I don't want her to think I'm that kind of person. how do I convey this to her before I ask her out without sounding like a fake douche that just wants to get in her pants and also without sounding like a virgin that is afraid of judgement. I'm also thinking about just seeing how it goes without trying to tell her I'm not a man slut, but i'd hate to lose her by some miscommunication. thanks in advance

>>18499819
I like dancing with a partner (though I have no concrete skills either) but it's not a priority to me at all.

>>18499543
Bump

Are my eyes too far apart?

>>18499359
>bootycall
>just friends
Sounds like you are scared of casual sex. I would say if you have to question if you should stay with A or B, you dont love neither. Try looking more. And remember, being in relationship just because you dont want to be single is stupid.

>>18499374
I suggest you to buy and bring magic wand to your first sexual session. With a bit of luck you will cure her from that meme sexuality.

>>18499578
Implying that it is bad thing.

>>18499543
Shit tier selfie, shit tier hat, shit tier face expression, looks like a male.

>>18499629
Be like manly man and ask her on date. And once she finally rejects you like the beta orbiter you are, find real gf.

>>18499639
Kinky. London?

>>18499678
Do yourself a favor and dont ask. You probably dont even want to know.
>>>/d/egenerates
Or try
http://mojoupgrade.com/

>>18499688
>i want dominant gf but i dont want to be dominated by her
Are you 16?

>>18499703
>just really fun!
Normie will NEVER admit anything what goes against normies standards. So when public view on sex is that it is the best thing ever, no normie ever will admit otherwise (not amongs other normies at least).

>>18499713
>>18499721
>jews
>london
>subservient
>screamin hormones
>selfish lovers
Lul. Anyway it is called grass is always greener on other side. Poor femanon. Do you have bf?

>>18499744
One think i know for sure. I pay taxes and from my taxes is paid health care. I will do anything for my wife but witnessing birth. I cant see how any husband gets coerced to be there and see it all. Just no. Leave it to professionals.

>>18499762
>>18499768
I suggest you to see psychologist to check you out and give you some pointers on where and how to improve.

Also were you raised by single mothers?

>>18499802
She is probably scared and you havent even make her cum before insert. Btw you can train her. Practice makes perfect. Start with fingers and maybe get magic wand. You can (kind of) strech her.

>>18499820
I still don't agree. You are just angry for whatever particular life experience you've had. And no one said that all the problems will disappear, but some definitely would.

>>18499615
I have some small dots there.

>>18499823
I would not go overboard trying to make it clear. The problem is that the guys looking to pump and dump are often also trying everything they can to seem like they are serious. Best bet to me is to be casual with your request to meet up, meet up in a coffee place at an unsexy hour like the late morning or early afternoon, take a real interest in her etc and after you have grown comfortable together, then tell her you want to take things a bit slowly and that you are not looking for anything casual. Good luck and have fun!

>>18499813
Well, I am white if it's of any help to you. But I'm an Eastern Euro.

>>18499823
>asking deers about hunting deers
Ask her on date. Asap. To restaurant. Smile like retard, hand hold her and ask her to walk her home. Bring condoms.

Dont overthink problems and ask her about her life.

>>18499835
The husband is there because the woman is lucid throughout a very emotional and painful happening. It provides comfort and soothing to have your loved one by your side. Also she is going through all that because you BOTH want kids. She has dealt with the pregnancy and everything that comes with it, she will deal with the pain and humiliation of giving birth and she will deal with her wrecked body afterwards. I don't think expecting the "through sickness and health" partner to provide emotional support is that big a sacrifice in comparison.

Also like the piece points out, if you're worried it alters your view you can stay with her face and not stare her down between the legs.

>>18499839
Eastern Europeans act more dominant too.

>>18499762
one way to stop the bullying would be to become bigger and go to the gym, this would not solve social skills though. I'd advice you not to try and dominate other people, because then you will always have to be the biggest alpha in the room or you'll lose respect, and keeping this up involves way to much energy and is nearly impossible against bigger guys (with or without aesthetic faces). If you have a hobby/passion/job try and become the best in it or atleast very passionate about it. This will naturally make other people in that area like you, and those are the people you want to be around. Also everyone will experience for example jerks on a train who try to act tough, but just because they try to dominate you doesn't mean other people think bad of you, they just find the jerk annoying. if he starts to abuse you you can stop this by going to the aforementioned gym or by learning a martial art, for which the reasons are clear I guess.
But my biggest advice really is to not try to dominate everyone, because everyone will think you are a jerk, and you'll probably feel worse than in the beginning.

>>18499835
>shit tier hat
I'll get you.

>>18499838
thanks, great advice.
>>18499841
thanks but the thing is I don't want to have sex on the first date (as odd as it may sound).

>>18499858
ignore any advice that mentions the word condoms unless you specifically mentioned them in your initial question

>>18499844
I have read it even gives you free erectile dysfunction by linking sex with giving your wife pain like that again in future.

I am sure i will never do it. I will rather pretend collapse and simply throw myself to floor than being there. Fuck i would leg it.
>through sikness and health
I am sure then next 20+ years will make up for the missed 2 hours. Girls are built to withstand it, i am definitely not.

>>18499858
>don't want to have sex on the first date
Who was talking about sex? And what are you going to do if she invites you for a coffe? Will you be another teen and pregnant?

>>18499864
:-D

>>18499820
You have no idea what it's like to be a lower status man, the fact that you see it analogous to not being a cute girl who is able to date frat boys shows how little you're able to relate.

Here's what life is like if you're an undesirable man
>no one gives a shit about you
>girls not only don't want to date you but hate you with a passion
>you're made fun of by everyone and routinely abused by normies
>don't get preferential treatment in college apps, jobs, or law
>no woman will date you, and if she does she won't respect you
>if you dropped dead no one would give a shit

"Trying to be cute" is easy as shit. Men must have good jobs, a good social circle, a good personality, compete with other men, be physically fit, be socially intelligent, not short, etc etc. And if you aren't? You're trash. Unattractive women are still sympathized with by society, they get preferential treatment in any institution, etc

"We have to try to be cute", lol that's so fucking horrible. You have to diet and put makeup on? How terrible.

>>18499835
Can you make a trip so i can just weed out your replies?

>>18499849
I only want to dominate the jerks anon. If someone fucks with me I want to make them suffer more than I do from the interaction.

>>18499713
>Why do I see so many guys on 4chan saying they wish they were girls
Because they're complete degenerates, any man that says he'd rather be a woman should kill themselves, revoke your man-card, you fucking pussies.

>>18499833
Not at all.

Why is everyone so intent on proving that their gender has it more difficult? Grass is always greener on the other side of the fence, anons and anonettes.

>>18499835
>>18499883
I ironically don't have problems with the ladies at all, but what can I objectively improve? Or what is objectively wrong, besides my nose that I broke.

Bump >>18499739

>>18499866
>I am sure then next 20+ years will make up for the missed 2 hours.
That's kind of the whole idea, that you need to step it up when THEY need you. Not that you can pick and mix as long as you get enough hours in.

>Girls are built to withstand it
Roughly one in ten women develop post-natal depression and because of how big our heads deveoped to be, giving birth is quite the happening and not rarely gives a woman complaints (notably urine incontinence) for the rest of her life.

>>18499915
I watched a bit of it but sorry man, as soon as I see that trashy fucking porn aesthetic any desire I might have had shrivels.

Nothing wrong with sucking on toes though.

>>18499543
Didn't you post a faceapp girl picture of yourself? Like a couple of months ago?

Girls

Is it unattractive if you met a guy who decided to put girls (no sex or dating) on hold for most of his 20s so he could pursue his goals?

>seeing a guy for a couple of months
>going pretty well, he says he's really into me and sees a future together
>then he breaks up with me and says he's still in love with an ex from six years ago who he cheated on with a man

Why does this shit always happen to me?

>>18499943
He's not in his twenties anymore presumably?
I think I'd just be wary of whether he's the type to need love and affection or if he'll pull away bc he's so happy being alone.

>>18499945

He fucked a guy? What a faggot

>>18499943
Well yeah it would make me not pursue anything or develop feelings but I take it that that's not an issue if you don't want to date anyway...?
Also on a personal level I cannot quite imagine being compatible with someone who's fine with missing out on a huge source of intimacy and emotional connection for a decade.

But if you mean whether I'd judge or think something was wrong with you or whatever, no.

>>18499894
Indeed.
It's just one part of a wider victim complex to which many humans seem to fall prey.

To me, this trait of blaming everything on others/ circumstances outwith one's control, is the ultimate red flag.

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>>18499907
Burn that hat?
Having natural expression or smug face instead of that grimace?
Having both eyes open?
Getting real tshirt?
Getting real hair cut?
Shave more so it isnt visible how you have troubles growing beard (like any other teen does)?

And your ears are too much flappy. Otherwise you look like dumb teen who posts his dick all over the internet.

>>18499915
It is just another too long generic porn where neither her or him show any emotions, switches to all existing positions, do everything what looks fancy on camera (but shitty when you actually do it). I dont even know why they keep making this type of porn.

>>18499923
>need you
You dont need me there. There will be N doctors around you who actually know whatcis going on. I am there only to get my fair share of ptsd and left scared for life.
>thankfully when this disscussion will be brought up, the girl cant decide to stop being pregnant or postpone birth until she breaks you to agree
I bet my future wife will opt for caesaran section anyway and give her perfect excuse to never have another baby in future even though i wanted two minimum to prevent spoiling.

Why is it so important for you to have your husband at the birth? Do you imagine he will ease the pain? That he will birth instead of you? Or that he will make decisions about the procedure in case anything will go wrong?

>>18499945
Maybe try dating virgins or at least not gays.

>>18499957
Some problems are caused by things out of your control that you can't change, though.

>>18499952

I'm in late 20s.

That is an interesting thought tho. Honestly, I've never had anyone show me love, intimacy, or affection before. Im not a basement dweller or anything, I do have a lot of really close friends. Even several on other parts of the world. But what you said really makes me think. I do feel content being alone. It's so normal for me, I don't dream to have someone in bed with me at night or anything like that. I'm fine alone. But sometimes I wonder what it's like to have a girl actually in my life. But, maybe that's just biology talking.

>>18499803
That talk would hurt my feelings as well.
It's good to try and find friends who don't want to compete with you or superimpose their lifestyles on you.

When I was in my early twenties it was all about who'd slept with the most guys. Then about who got married first, got the best job, who got a baby first etc.
It's exhausting. I have found expanding my social circle beyond people of the same age and gender has helped me find more conversations regarding varying topics and oftentimes more patrician ones.

>>18499954

>Also on a personal level I cannot quite imagine being compatible with someone who's fine with missing out on a huge source of intimacy and emotional connection for a decade

Can you explain this more? I'm curious. Really, I just prioritized my life.

>>18499960
Yes, that's true. But dwelling on them is not helpful, and using them as an excuse not to take responsibility for your own life is not helpful.
What do people think they're going to achieve by saying 'waaah my parents didn't raise me well and I'm not tall the whole world is against me' etc? You're just taking agency away from yourself with this attitude.

>>18499959
>autism the post

>>18499959
>Why is it so important for you to have your husband at the birth?
It's about comfort and solidarity. Not solidarity to get scarred of course, I wouldn't need him to gape into the void, but acknowledgment that I have to do all the heavy pulling to actually bring the kids that he also wants into this world would be great. That is to me what being a team is. Considering a challenge or issue as a shared one, even if biologically he can stay out of it and I can't. But him not feeling like he can stay out of it because I cannot.

Also, small as the chance is, I would never want to risk slipping into unconsciousness from blood loss or whatever and die without having seen my husband by my side.

It is not up to you to decide whether it brings the woman anything substantial that you are there, only she can judge it. Sure you cannot help the procedure but that will apply to a lot of things in life. You are lucky if you never get to experience anything worse than being around the birthing of your child. I also think you have a kind of unrealistic idea about it. A delivery does not take two hours, four-five hours is extremely quickly. Ten hours is not uncommon at all, with extremes up to thirty hours. That is a LONG time to be in pain by yourself and wonder about whether everything will go alright. I don't have kids -with- someone to be all left on my own when push comes to shove.

>>18499961
Well it's certainly not a bad thing to be happy with yourself. I think the whole love yourself meme is fairly true.

But I suppose I also have preconceived notions based on my relationships as them being about sharing lots of time and experiences, helping one another emotionally. And someone who has an internal system for doing that all alone may not fit well into the relationship paradigm?

>>18499959
Like fedora and coat? That was 2 days without shaving.

>>18499970
But I thought blaming yourself for things that aren't your fault isn't healthy either. I mean putting the blame on someone else, whether it's true or not, at least reminds me I'm not a complete failure because I'm trying with what I can. People say everything is your fault and thinking that's true makes me feel like the most useless shit.

Why does one person you date fall in love with you when another one doesn't?

>>18499966
>I just prioritized my life.
I guess it depends, if there was really no way whatsoever for you to have a relationship (eg caretaker of a family member, studying/working and trying to have a life as well) then that's one thing. But most of the time deciding you don't have time for it means deciding that you value other things (like your career) more.

For the record I have been single for years now so I do understand what it's like not having time and wanting to do things right and not half-ass it for the sake of being a couple. But it does a number on me and if a genie told me I'd be single for another six years I would absolutely lose a huge part of my zest for life. The only way to feel happy with my current position for me is to keep in mind that love might be around the bend. Even though realistically speaking, I know it's not likely. That's what I mean with having a really hard time relating to deciding by your own choice that you will put it on hold. For me having a loved one and being so close to someone is a huge part of my life. Now that it's been some time, it feels like part of my soul gets forgotten.

>>18499981
You mean... why do people fall in love (or not) in general?

>>18499980
I suppose there's a balance to strike wherein you say to yourself 'my mum was distant from me and that led to my commitment issues but I forgive her and it's my job to work on them' or 'I've not been blessed biologically with my looks and that's not my fault, but I know I have the capacity to work on myself inside and out and be attractive to people'.

This is surely better than either extreme (blaming yourself or becoming obsessed with how you've been wronged)?

>>18499984
Yeah I guess that's what I mean.
I just find it a bit bizarre I suppose that I can date a bloke and he'll think I'm funny and pretty and kind and fall for me, or I could date another who thinks all the same things but just doesn't fall for me.

>>18499978

I guess you're probably right. It would probably be for the best if I just stay alone. Because I really do think I'd have a hard time being all emotional, and touchy. I'm very obersvant. I see how couples act together, I can't see myself being like that.

I feel fine with what I'm doing. I don't feel I "need" anyone. I'm so used to being totally independent. The only thing though.. it does wear on me how society and just people push that "men get married and have kids". I had someone tell me that "if you don't have kids, then you're choosing to be a child the rest of your life, and never being a true man" I never want kids. Ever. But people try to guilt me whenever they find out I've never had a girlfriend, and don't want wife and kids

>>18499983

Maybe it's just easy for me to do that, because I've never been in a relationship before.

>>18499974
>ten hours
I know cases where birth happened at car and baby was out before the couple made it to the hospital. But yes, i know nothing about it in general.

I think i will have to pick up hospital where you arent allowed be be there as dad. Shouldnt be hard in my country.
>it seems like you accepting me as being a coward isnt valid option
Seems like faking lose of conscience is the way to go.

>>18499979
Try hat free.

>>18499995
I hate the confrontational relationship between childed and childless people. When are people going to learn to accept other people's choices and not judge them?

>oooh you'll never be a true man bc you don't have kids
>you'll never know real love
and also
>people with kids are sooooo boring
>so irresponsible to breed!

I hate the judgement on both sides!

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>>18500000
mother of god

>>18500000
It's possible, just not likely, especially not for the very first time.

To be fair, I would make it VERY clear if I got to that point of a serious relationship that I expect him to fuck me when I'm pregnant and to be there when the baby comes. (First thing not entirely related but there's men who are grossed out by pregnant bodies and it's a huge kink of mine so yeah.)

But where I live (Netherlands) it is also extremely unlikely that a man would expect otherwise. All the more because it's still the norm here (and what I'd like to do) for women to give birth without painkillers. So I'm probably good.

>>18499543
Nigga, you asked this shit on /fit/ a couple of days ago. Your problem isn't your looks. It's the fact that you suck, absolutely suck at taking or picking out pictures.

>>18500005

I don't care if people have kids. I know all of my friends are going to have kids. That's what they want, so I won't criticize them. It just blows my mind that people can be so critical of men who don't want kids. The whole "you'll never be fully mature if you don't have marry and kids. You're running from responsibility" seems crazy to me.

The only time I'd say it's irresponsible to have kids is when you see people who genuinely should never be a parent. (Drug addicts, niggers, white trash.. ect)

>>18500016
Oh yeah, I wasn't trying to accuse you of being judgemental. I was just agreeing with you and adding an addendum.

>>18500024

I know. Thanks for the replies tho

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>>18500008
>fuck me while I'm pregnant
Good to know there are still kinky girls with non vanilla fetishes.
>i would want to taste the milk too

>without painkillers
As far as i know, your body gives you its own dose of painkillers and even make your bones easier to push through. But then again, i wouldnt be near you when the main part happens. I dont mind camping with my bloated with kids wife hours at hospital, but once "it" starts for real, i want to be elsewhere nervous.

Despite what feminazis claims, certsin things can be done only by woman.

>>18500007
Pic related :-D
>esoteric numerical ouija

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>>18500000
>Try hat free.
I usually don't wear a hat.

>>18500012
I'm not photogenic at all. What about this one? Anyone?

>>18500033
Oh yeah, absolutely. Breastfeeding is less of a big deal to me but only makes it better, especially because they're swollen anyway.

Your body does make own painkillers but not so much that you don't feel it anymore. The vagina typically either tears or is cut open preemptively (which actually hurts worse after the fact because it's not a natural tear at the weakest point) so you absolutely feel that. I remember being a little girl and touching my mother's scar from her c-section when she had my sister, and asking if it hurt. And she laughed and said she was in so much pain that no, her stomach being cut open was not something she actively felt.

Still though countless women survived it before me. I don't like the idea of being less aware when giving birth and it's not scientifically clear whether or not there's a function to the pain of the delivery. If my mom could manage then so can I. But I will snag me up a guy who will hold my hand during!

Whatever works for you is fine, I tried to expand on why many women do want their partner there but at the end of the day all that matters is that you can reach an agreement with your own partner.

Does it make sense to ask someone by text to see if they want to go on a sort of date today? Or should you always ask for something days later?
I feel like I've become a total sperg when it comes to this after I turned adult.

>>18500036
That is 10 times better.
Floppy ears not visible.
Both eyes opened!
Almost smug face.

Still shit hat. Where did the color go? Why are you angry in that photo?

Burn that hat, get real haircut and redo that photo with colors on, less being angry face and look to the camera and boom, finaly decent selfie.

>>18500045
Luckily we can lie easily in this matter or simply lose conscience.
>why do you want to scare your bf away by asking him if he will see your whole birthing process?
Is this your favorite topic on 1st dates?

>>18500049
The key to any girls hearh is in not overthinking problems and bombarding them with invitations on dates and generally showering them with attention.
>and to that one femanon you have to promise you will hold her hand while she will push your babies out (but i think this is an exception)

You cant make a mistake by asking girl out. Do it! Date the bitch!

>>18500057
>The key to any girls hearh is in not overthinking problems and bombarding them with invitations on dates and generally showering them with attention.
Are you a man or a woman?

>>18500057
>The key to any girls hearh is (...) bombarding them with invitations on dates and generally showering them with attention.
Heh. Is this accurate? I've heard people say that they got a relationship after being insistent so I guess there's truth to it.

>>18500075
You cant tell from pregnancy talk? A man.

And the waiting game where you pretend you dont give a fuck about her never really worked for me. Maybe it works for attractive chads or on stupid shallow girls i never really was interested in first place.

And by carpet bombing i mean like two tries before you give up and find new victim. Showing interest and giving attention doesnt automatically mean disregarding self respect.

>>18500093
Are you a man or a woman?

>>18500093
Oh, two tries... I think I've already used them a year ago. Idk if the fact that a year passed means I get them again with the same girl.

>>18500033
>tfw have to use baby formula for child because daddy keeps drinking all my milk
Don't be like my husband anon.

>>18500098
You think he is a lesbian?

>>18500093
Two tries is not "bombing" ¬¬
I thought you meant something like "never give up until she either hates you to death or finally falls in love with you"

>>18500099
>thinking about girl which denied you multiple times year ago
This is the definition of beta / male orbiter. Find your balls, reattach them and find new girl.

>>18500100
If the baby cant push his father away from boobs to have have its share of milk, it doesnt deserve it in the first place.
:-D
>why doesnt the baby take one boob and daddy the other?

>>18500107
>either hates you or finally falls in love
But you want to push them into this phase. They either say yes, no or evades question. In case of evading, you have to bomb her a little to either make her tell you NO FUCK OFF or yes.

Sometimes force the girl to make up her mind is hard. They can send you 9999 hihihi emojis and you still dont know if they are single or even want to do anything with you. That is the moment when you bomb them.

>>18500123
well in my case I never got a "No", just an "I'm busy with college now but how about later?" except that later never came. I want a straight NO rather than an ambiguous one.
>inb4 no one's busy with college

>>18500133
>busy with college
Is as clear and direct
>NO YOU ARE UGGO AND POOR, I DONT WANT TO DATE YOU AT ALL
as girls can be. Another all time favorite is
>i dont want to break the friendship
>i want to be friends instead
>*never replies*

But my personal tops is
>sorry, i forgot about the date
>something something UFO something prevented me to going there

Still, think of it as eliminating bitches. Sooner or later the bitches have to run out or you will stumble to some qtie.
What is few lost hours on date which never happened compared to few years of marriage with a bitch who steal half your shit and suck alimony for the rest of your life?

It is a long process. And remember, girl who wants to be with you will do anything to make time for you.

>>18500158
> girl who wants to be with you will do anything to make time for you.
I'm 100% sure no human being will ever be that desperate to be with me though, by now.

>>18499557
Thank you friend
>>18499565
Thank you for your reply. How did you come to learn the nature of your emotions?

>>18497921
So ladies, me and my girl broke it off Tuesday. Yea on the 4th of July.

I mostly did stayed away from her social media, as I didn't want to see if she was with another guy or that she was talking shit about me.

Today I went on her Twitter and seen a few days after we broke up she was venting and shitting on me, without saying my name of course.

Basically, I want to know the thought process behind this. Does this mean she was still thinking about me, because she had a bunch of words to vent about me. Does this mean she's trying to justify leaving me to herself? Or maybe she truly despises me....

>>18499927
What do you mean by "porn aesthetic"?

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2nd date with this girl, I seriously don't want to fuck this up. She's been pretty cool with me texting back daily similar interests etc. despite some of my spaghetti.

[spoiler] It's my birthday today, she knows [/spoiler]
She's asking me what else I'd like to do afterward we hit the movies. I am not by any means used to being forward, and I don't want to just jump to conclusions (or make a complete ass of myself)

Was thinking of suggesting doing some typical birthday garbage, like make a cake at my place or something. I don't know I just don't want to come off as a sperg suggesting something stupid.

>>18500187
>Basically, I want to know the thought process behind this
Why? You're just hurting yourself for no reason.
You should block her and forget about her.

>>18500171
>desperate
By using this word instead of
>want to
just shows how insecure you are. Your attitude is probably what holds you back. Learn to not give a fuck and simply hit on as many girls as you manage.

Sooner or later you will manage and break through. The only sure way how to lose the dating game is choose to not play at all.
>fake it until you make it

>>18500187
The less you know and think about your ex, the better. Forget about the bitch and try playing csgo instead. Be single for few months. Adopt sport?
>You will walk away from her when she has violated your integrity, and you will let her walk when her heart is closed to you. She who can destroy you, controls you. Don’t give her that power over yourself. Love yourself before you love her.

>>18500252
Not her, but real people dont wear make up when sex is on and generally their moves, positions and behavior is different entirelly. Try switching to amateur gendre (the real one where nobody holds the camera, totally different).

>>18500268
>don't want to fuck this up
>posts pepe
Stop posting pepe memes and simply tell her that you would like her to hang out with you a bit at home after movie.

Bring condoms, birthday sex is always fun one. Remember to smile.
>simply go to some private place and ask her if she is ready to give you your present
Never use word sex, just be playful and hope for best.
>stupid frog poster

>>18500286
Yes I'm very insecure. I used to be very confident but a series of failures have shaped my personality again (I was insecure as a teen too). I'm trying to not give a fuck again. Thanks for all this advice by the way!

>>18500280
It's so fucking hard to bro. I'm afraid i'll never find anyone else like her....

>>18500286
>The less you know and think about your ex, the better. Forget about the bitch and try playing csgo instead. Be single for few months. Adopt sport?

Well, this is what i'm trying to do at least. Even before we broke up, I felt it was over so I started hitting up the gym. My only goal now is to get /fit/.

Is it wrong to flirt with a girl, try to make a move on her, etc. in the house of a guy who allegedly is attracted to her?
>more detail: he knows I like her too, but that didn't stop him from allegedly going out with her once or twice (not saying he shouldn't just because I like her too, though, of course). It apparently didn't work out but he still likes her
I'm not saying she will like me, but just asking if I get a jerk's degree for trying to score with a girl at the house of a guy who likes her.

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How do I deal with mean girls, the ones that're usually popular with the guys? I've always been friends with particularly sweet, nerdy girls so I never got used to em.

The one I'm thinking is, is the type who compliments you for something then means the opposite. She's two-faced. I accidentally overheard her three or so times (it's kinda hard not to, trust me, the dorm's small and my room's next to the common room). Generally about the weirdest things and a off-handed comment about me being creepy. I'm friends with everyone else in the dorm, at least. :/

The weirdest shit was this...
>later in the quarter when I ultimately stopped hanging out in the common room when she's actually around (only on Tuesdays and Thursdays, she's gone on every other day partying)--she took offense at this and ranted about it for around a hour. I was just working in my room when I heard it happening, it was impossible to ignore.

I was in the room while she was saying that she wanted to murder or beat up another dormmate who she also is very nice to so...yeah, I guess it's normal for her. But, still, even the memory of her now bothers and depresses me. She's the last person I'd want to be friends with. At the same time, it makes me feel as if there's something wrong with me that she behaved that way to me.

>>18499894
i'm pretty sure being a man is easier than being a woman, unless having sex with random people is all you care about

>>18500350
Don't engage. That's the best course of action.

>>18500356
t. woman
Comparing both genders is fucking retarded. It's all about where you are born and how lucky you are in terms of wealth and looks. Some people are also more fit to endure effort and challenges than others, and have different values because of how they were raised.

>>18500315
it's a dick move if he's a friend, but you make it sound like he's just an acquaintance. go for it.

>>18500356
>i'm pretty sure being a man is easier than being a woman,
Sure, I bet that's why there are more male homeless people, more male suicides and males have a shorter life expectancy.

>>18500350
>At the same time, it makes me feel as if there's something wrong with me that she behaved that way to me.
No, some people are just assholes.

>>18499688
Any woman who acts dominant basically. Many of us want a break from having to be a hardass all day and want to let go and submit to a man. Thing is, you have to be more alpha than the woman, other wise you will indeed become a doormat. So it's at your own risk.

>>18500376
Thanks. Yah I'm not really sure if I should call him a friend or not, we aren't terribly close but we used to have long conversations when we got to hang out, but not very often. We are sort of part of the same "group of friends". But I feel like if he asked her out before probably knowing I like her too, I can try to make a move on her too, just worried since we are all probably gonna hang out at his house this weekend if that means something.

Girls, why is it that you all seem to have same interests like arts, dancing, photography? Is it just the whole girls are stupid sheep thing?

>>18500395
What's wrong with "arts"? I don't see men having better interests, men just care about football and videogames.
>inb4 not all men
not all women either

I have a cum fetish and would like my boyfriend to cum inside me, but he is obviously afraid of getting me pregnant. He always prefers pulling out and cumming somewhere else, even though I am on birth control. I understand the fear, and I DEFINITELY DON'T want kids myself, but I really want him to fill me up with his cum. It happened once by accident and ever since I want it to happen again.

>>18500400
Since you're on BC and you don't want kids, he really has no reason to be afraid, since on the very very low chance you get pregnant you wouldn't keep it... Have you tried to explain this to him?

>>18500399
Men have a lot more unique interests though. Just like men don't have a certain type of woman that they like, while for women, their dream guy is usually a 6"+ tall handsome guy.

I want to cover my girlfriend's entire body in cum, an inch thick coating of cum all over her and I also want to fill up her ass with 5 gallons of cum and also fill her mouth. I want her to become a cum monster but I just don't have enough to do this with!

>>18500400
>>18500423
you two should get together

>>18500421
I seriously have only met very few men with unique interests. I've met more women who are passionate about their hobbies than men. You are probably right about the other thing though. I guess that's because men have lower standards and women have higher standards because they are the ones that have to carry the child (even if they don't want kids it's a leftover from nature).

I want a giant 9 inch cock up my ass from behind while I fuck a girl with my cock. I want both extremes at once. How do I get this to happen?

>>18500415
He says he just has this psychological blockade which makes it very difficult for him to cum while he's inside me.

>>18500427
Haha no I just want my boyfriends cum!

>>18500443
I DIDNT WANT TO CUM ON YOU ANYWAYS YOU FAGFOT REEEEEE

How do girls feel about guys watching porn? If they were your boyfriend would you want them to stop?

Where do I find a fat young latina I can provide for who will cook me meals and let me fill her with enough cum to make 10 babies?

new thread pls

>>18500479
Yes I would want him to stop. It's not good for health and I don't want to him to develop sexual dysfunction.

>>18500531
>>18500548

>>18497921
To girls:

Quit whoring yourselves out.