Telling a (probably) straight friend that I'd cuddle with him

>>18491529
Im gonna be blunt.

You're an asshole and a bad friend for hiding your sexual orientation. AND you are trying to get with him. Not only are you making yourself look pathetic but you are also going to ruin a friendship. I have a few gay friends they know not to fuck around but joking isnt a big deal. Just do not fucking try anything stupid. Go find a gay guy. Tell your friend you're gay. Stop being creepy done.

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>>18491550
>You're an asshole and a bad friend for hiding your sexual orientation.
>Stop being creepy.

Well fuck you!
I just want to hug this person.

Also, why would i be obligated to declare my sexual orientation?
No one has ever informed me that they were straight before.

>>18491529
You could very well freak him out if he's straight. Shit, even if he was gay you might freak him out depending on what he thinks of you.

>>18491529
Real life is not animu, anon. It would probably make him feel quite uncomfortable, and even propel him to rethink his friendship with you. I partially agree with >>18491550, it's a bit creepy and dishonest on your side.

>>18491565
Well thats the thing. People wont assume you're gay but will assume you're straight what is stopping you from asking him if hes gay? You dont have to tell him you're gay and you can find out if he is. If he is a cool person he wont care. Some people find that shit creepy i dont know what his personality is like.

>>18491529

are you me? but i also want to rub his feet.

etiher way i have found the best way to do something like this is to just go for it. just hug him whenever you see him. wrap your arms around him for a little longer than you should. if he doesn't get scared off just slowly escalate.

when you sit on a couch just lay your arm over the back and slowly it becomes normal for you to just have your arms around people.

dont listen to others saying its wrong to hide your orientation. thats your own business as long as you arent trying to bang him.

>>18491581
>>18491529
Why gay men are so grossly predatorish and bent on fondling their hetero mates? This shit is disturbing and disgusting.

>>18491584

straight men like to cuddle and feel their platonic female friends all the time. hell even gay guys do.

the only ones who seem to have a problem with anything are straight men. they just dont seem to like affection.

>>18491581
I mean the others raise good points (and I intuitively had the same initial idea) except for the first reply which is exceptionally rude.

What gives me courage is that he has made jokes about anal sex (not with each other) and other guys in the work place.

btw, he indeed has super cute feet ;3

>>18491529
I have this dude who is my friend hug me at the end of our convos. The store I work at I see him and he works right next door. He hold his arms out and says come here buddy let me give you a hug. It freaks me out and I'm not into guys at all. Idfc if a person is gay (in fact I support gay marriage and really feel proud when the Supreme Court of the United States said it was legal I like screamed out "YES!!!!! FINALLY!!!!!") just dont put yo hands on me if you're a dude. In fact I have some female acquaintances that I'm like "yaaa don't put your hands on me". Im fine with chicks who are allright looking giving me hugs but not guys.

If my best friend suggested we cuddle and he is srs I would spend less time with him.

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>>18491584
are you insane?
straight men regard their female friends in the exact same way

>>18491597

and thats fine, but theres tons of people who clearly do love male bonding regardless of sexuality. i dont think people should repress the possibility simply because others may not be into it.

if OP is willing to deal with the consequences of it, nothing wrong with trying imo.

my thing is i only like to be touched by people I like and know well.

>>18491584
Hm, I could swear I've heard something like this somewhere before, if only I could remember where...
>Why men are so grossly predatorish and bent on fondling their female friends? This shit is disturbing and disgusting.

>>18491597
>If my best friend suggested we cuddle and he is srs I would spend less time with him
okay, i can acknowledge such people existing, but simply stating that you are not comfortable with physical contact and never bringing it up again a far more reasonable course of action on your part?

>>18491598

but its okay when straight guys do it cuz they're 'normal' :)

but if a gay guy wanted to hug me god damn thats just rude id fuck him up

>>18491550
nobody is obligated to announce whether they like dicks and/or pussies to all their friends.

Anyway, it's not like any guy is going to hear "I want to cuddle with you" from another guy and not immediately realize that guy's gay. It's not as if he could be fooled into cuddling with a dude and think it's straight.

>>18491626
(op here)
I was thinking something more along the lines of:
ME: I want a pet, i need cuddles dammit.
HIM: Yea, i would want some cuddles too i guess.
ME: I see a simple solution here.

If he didn't say something along those lines, i'd probably postpone my eViLplan

>>18491647

if i were you id just work your way up. it remains consesual and less awkward. in my experience most straight men are open to a LOT as long as they dont have to talk about it. if they talk about it they have to acknowledge how gay it is. if they dont talk about it, then its just two guys who had a nice night and got a little too close.

>>18491647
kek, I doubt a normal straight guy will say something like this to you m8. If you were a qt girl then maybe

>>18491658

you'd be surprised.

>>18491647
yeah, he's going to immediately realize you're a flaming homosexual. I have no idea how you think that would fly

>>18491658
I acknowledge that.
But I want to shroud the proposal with some degree of humor so that if he is not interested it will not be as weird as straight up asking if he wants to lewd it up.

>>18491647
why do this? Gay people are everywhere you dont need to make others uncomfortable for no reason. Did you ever consider maybe hes pining for a girl? Of course you must realise women like strong, confident men, and doing things such as what you are suggesting isn't exactly good for a straight man's self esteem. I say this as a bisexual man, so please don't think I'm just being homophobic or otherwise belligerent.

>>18491677
>Did you ever consider maybe hes pining for a girl? Of course you must realise women like strong, confident men, and doing things such as what you are suggesting isn't exactly good for a straight man's self esteem. I say this as a bisexual man, so please don't think I'm just being homophobic or otherwise belligerent.
I actually do not understand what you are trying to say? Me hitting on this person will kill is self esteem?

>Gay people are everywhere you dont need to make others uncomfortable for no reason.
I feel like the only two options are to hit on potentially straight people or use hook up aps

>>18491677

thats pretty dumb logic bro. homosexuals are not responsible for protecting the masculinity of straight men. thats their own job.

there is nothign wrong with OP simply putting the possibility out there and seeing if he takes it.

by your own logic its wrong for any man to hit on a woman cuz WHAT IF SHES PINING FOR SOMEONE ELSE AND DOESNT WANT TO FEEL LIKE A SLUT BY SIMPLY BEING PROPOSITIONED!'

>>18491688
Well when I get hit on by a guy, the first thing I think of is, why don't women hit on me?

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>>18491529

>>18491713
lol, women only hit on extraordinarily attractive men
normal human males do not get hit on by women

If you want him to boof with you, then use non-creepy, non-secretive ways to ask him if he's exclusively straight.
You don't have to use this weird "cuddle" shit, thats dumb, If you're upfront about it then you can still be friends

>>18491612
Ya if he suggested it but didnt confess his undying crush/love to me I'll forget it and still hang with him. Ill think of it as one of those crazy days.

>>18491581
What happened to your feet thread? I was looking for it in the catalog and it disappeared.

>>18491652
I agree with you. I am bi and had a straight friend. We were close friends and took the liberty at times to push it a little but not too much that I would freak him out. I would wait until we were alone and either watching a movie or shooting the shit to move casually closer. I would begin to massage his shoulders and neck and then his back. I wouldn't go touch further in order not to freak him out and I was nervous about ruining the friendship. Other times I would sit close and have our bare legs touch in the summer. Went to the gym sometimes and got to see him naked. I was surprised that never once did he push me away. But we never talked about it either.

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>>18491529
nigga if one of my friends said that to me it would be the most fucking awkard thing possible. I can't think of a single context where this would be ok specially if I had no idea the other person was gay. I wouldn't even be mad but I wouldnt want to talk to u for a while and when I did the first thing I would ask is if you're ok which is ok just not my thing

>>18491673
next time he comes over just go to the bathroom and then come out naked. Act embarrassed like somehow you forgot he was visiting and accidentally stripped naked and walked out.

Walk over and sit next to him, still naked, and act like now it's a running joke and you're both just going with it for the absurdity.

Slowly, with the most ironic grin on your face, slip down to your knees and grab his cock through his pants. Giggle a little bit, but then bite your lip sexily and unzip his pants.

>>18491859
okay... thats not reasonable

>>18491529
>my best friend is gay/straight and i am the opposite, how do i get them to fuck me
if you cant respect someones sexuality, you are not really their friend

why are there so many of these threads lately?

>>18491906
I DON'T KNOW IF HE IS STRAIGHT
Essentially i want to find out if my friend is open to homosexuality

>>18491883
exactly

>>18491920
you straight up sound the same as someone from r9k talking about a woman. Man up.

>>18491920

if you are openly gay nad he hasnt made a move hes generally not interested.

but if you havent told him you're gay and want to keep it a secret a safe thing to do is say you experimented before.

similar situation, seemingly straight guy acted a little too itno me. so we were talking about family and i asked if his parents ever walked in on him having sex, and i said i did, but it was when i was 'experimenting'.

this is basically bait. if he is at all itnerested for any reason, he'd know he can make a move and not offend you. in my case he just said 'never realyl wanted to experiment' and we moved on.

>>18492524
in what way does this sound r9k-core?
i thought their deal was "death to chad and stacey RREEEE"

>>18491647
You: I want a pet, I need cuddles dammit
Him: Okay???

???

And that's how it would go.

I advise against hitting on your straight friend unless you have some doubt. Don't ruin your friendship over wanting a quick fuck. Find a good guy who is capable of loving you. It sucks but we can't control who we fall in love with. You could tell him if you think your relationship could handle it but be very careful about it all. Think before you act anon. This is especially pertinent in love and war.

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>>18494105
>Don't ruin your friendship over wanting a quick fuck
I don't want a quick fuck
I want to warm his bed every night :3

>And that's how it would go.
Then the case would be closed

How can you be friends if you hide such a big part of who you are from him. You are fake. I got news for you, fantasies do not come true. Not for normal people, not for gays. Do not make your friend feel uncomfortable by making a pass on them, but do by all means share who you really are. If they do not want to be your friend since you are gay, what have you really lost?

>>18491529
>I don't know if he's gay
Tell him you're gay.
>he made homoerotic jokes
A lot of straight guys do this, including me. It's not meant to be offensive, by the way.

>>18494440
>How can you be friends if you hide such a big part of who you are from him. You are fake.
I'm unironically triggered by people here telling me i have to tell people i'm gay.

it almost makes me want to never tell anyone just to spite nameless nobodies over the internet
it would be a senseless act of shooting myself in the foot, so i wont do it; but its pissing me off

the only conceivable way that my sexuality could have any relevance to my friendship at all, is precisely if I want to get together with this person...

>>18494578
Nobody gives a fuck if you're a faggot nor will they treat you differently unless you actually behave like a little bitch.

>>18494586
to be clear, you are not who i quoted?
i am specifically talking about those who think that i am actively deceiving people unless everyone around me knows im a homo

>>18494589
Yeah, I'm not. I haven't read through the whole thread but if you're not telling people you're gay just because you think they'll suddenly hate you or something then newsflash, nobody cares about that anymore except religious nuts who people should avoid anyway. I do agree with you on the point that you shouldn't yell about it all the time, but if he's a close friend why haven't you told him that? A good friend of mine shared that she's bisexual before we even knew each other well. It hasn't changed anything.
His reaction will probably be "okay" or "okay, me too". Nothing else. You have nothing to lose. If you do try to make a dirty move and he later or immediately finds out you're gay he'll just think you're creepy and you'll probably lose a friend. Even if he is gay.
Either way, he's probably not gay. Abandon all hope. Move on. Masturbate while thinking about him if that makes you feel better.

>>18491529
dude if theyre straight and youre not stop setting yourself up for something that wont work

>>18494589
You are deceiving them. It is a lie of omission. You do not have to tell everyone, but hiding it when it naturally comes up in conversation, that is a lie. Have you never hidden your orientation from your friend?

I wouldn't think it's weird but I feel that most straight men would think it's very weird.

btw if you're a repressed fag who just wants to cuddle just join up our small server, we're trying to get cuddlebuddies for people all around the globe!
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>>18495735
i wouldn't say repressed, but i would indeed prefer to just cuddle because thats the most enjoyable part for me and the risk of contacting std's is keeping me from enjoying frequent hookups

>>18491576
>Real life is not animu
Listen to this guy, you are acting just like if this was some shitty yaoi mango

>>18496040
i know this
honestly, i came here to have people change my mind, since it was idiotic
i will mention that im gay at some point and gauge it again at that point

>>18491859
Hey uhh life is not porn

>>18491529
Hey op please respect your friends sexuality. And to that "he's made butt joke before he must be gay!" theres guys that were rompers that are straight. And as much as a missed opportunity it is theres straight fems.

>>18496084
Dont backtrack.