Can't seem to cut my borderline father out of my life because I feel sorry for him. My mother and siblings keep telling me that he's a wreck and he's sorry for everything. I know I have done mistakes as well but I just can't forgive him although I said I have. I feel like my childhood was abusive. There wasn't any hitting but there was lots of hair and ear pulling, extreme control and emotional manipulation/abuse. I feel like I should just cut contact with all of my family. What do you think?
>>18489991
It's natural you feel like this, but he is a grown adult man and responsible for his actions or choices. I think what you can do is to indeed cut ties a bit with your family and live your own life.
Be grateful for your parents for keeping you fed, clothed and under the roof to raise up, but acknowledge they did fuckups, either from not knowing any better or having personality issues.
Just learn from the mistakes of your parents and try not repeat them as you start a family one day, OP.
>>18490018
Thanks, anon.