How to be dominant

>>18484722
You can't, it's something natural. You either have it and feel it or you could try and act dominant, but it'll feel forced and unnatural to you.

>>18484722
Has NOBODY on 4chan ever heard of Google?

Google "bdsm for beginners" for the sexual stuff and "assertiveness training" for the rest.

I despair of the younger generation.

>>18484722
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>Make eye contact in public with strangers. Do not look away until they have.
>Maintain your normal facial expression, maybe a hint of a smirk
>Learn to anticipate them breaking so you don't make a habit of it and look like you're sporting a 1000 yard stare
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>Stop yourself from instinctively moving out of the way of others. Make it a choice. Make them know you made it by holding eye contact.

>>18484812

Why don't you google it, whiz kid.

>>18484722

Do you have an urge to be dominant? Not an urge to have the characteristic of being dominant, but an urge to actually be dominant in things?

For example, in sex, choking, slapping, all that stuff is just stuff that naturally comes out. I feel the urge to do that.

In videogames, I feel the urge to be the best. I'm actually kind of a bully, and it sucks.

>>18484730
>>18484722


This train of thought goes against everything I believe. If you look at all of the greatest people in history, they have manufactured their image. One of my favorites is Theodore Roosevelt. He was an asthmatic nerd who rebranded himself as some ultra macho westerner.

Hitler, Mussolini, Mark Twain, and so many other people in history have done the same.

So, can you rebrand yourself as being more dominant? Of course you can. It is all words and actions. But will it be naturally inherent in you? Maybe after some time. I'm going to think about this and write some more.

>I guess my problem in understanding your question is in what ways, what areas of your life, and for what reason do you want to be dominant?

>>18484722
I'm naturally dominant so it might not work for you. look for a submissive gf and practice. while you're searching for the gf read up on being a DOM. Remember this -- you shouldn't try everything you read just try elements that you can see yourself doing then over time add more. After awhile some of these behavioral traits should manifest themselves in your normal daily actions.

>>18484722
Dominant in what way?

>>18484722
Have initiative

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>>18484817

Good autism tips my guy

Ok so a lot of people asked what I mean. I mean body language, actions etc. Leadership, control you know. So that everyone knows and the girls know - this guy is dominant.

Btw I know I can google it. I have done that quite a bit, but I want to hear other peoples opinions too. I want to know what other people think works.

Thank you guys for all your help.

you are dominant or not

you are the boss of ppl, you are the center of attention, your knowledge is valueable, your thoughts are helpful for others, you are respected, ppl dont want to compete with you because theyll be beaten (literally and figuratively)
you fuck chicks or your chick the way you like and not worry what if you are doing something she doesnt like

all the while, not being a big headed insecure twat who needs to shout and randomly rage to instill fear into ppl

its not something you develop, it comes with what you become

>>18484950

Yeah, all that stuff can be learned. As much as I hate him, watch donald trumps body language. Dont read about body language beyond entry level stuff, because you'll get obsessed with it and end up just being socially awkward. But read up a bit about mirroring, looking at someones forehead and lips rather than eyes directly.

I think the most dominant quality if to not worry if you're dominant or not, otherwise you just seem like a socially awkward chimp.

Practice speaking clearly.

>>18484950
Being dominant goes hand in hand with being 100% responsible for your actions and for how others are acting towards you and making no excuses.

Being responsible means taking a lead where you see leadership is lacking, being helpful where help is needed, not backing down when you shouldn't back down.

It's being a man in a true sense of the word, being an ass is not being dominant, being honorable confident man who knows what he wants and shows people how he can get them what they want if they follow his lead

Thats being dominant

>>18484722
If you're having trouble being dominant (in any situation), it's either because you lack the spine to be it, or you don't understand your role.
Eye contact (but not staring), a strong hand shake, not letting your voice taper off to being high pitched at the end of a sentence, talking at a medium pace (giving you enough time to think about what you will say, no mental buffering with "uh", "erm" or "fucking").
And most importantly, not being mugged off like some cunt.
Educate, instruct, know your audience, know your surroundings, set the rules out in stone.

Now onto the more relationship dominant stuff:
If your sub fucks up, acts like a brat or breaks rules, you have to punish them.
The punishment isn't something you benefit from, if your gf not doing something that is expected of her's punishment is a soft/hard limit or something you gain from sexually, then you're doing it wrong. If your punishment for them is spanking, you don't spank her like you do during foreplay, you spank hard, a few strikes short of her hard limit. Punishments shouldn't follow up with sex.
Punishments should be something she doesn't enjoy, stress positions, writing lines, restrictions (e.g. no orgasms, no sleeping in a bed, no clothes she likes, watching a film she doesn't like with no interruptions), and these punishments should be justifiable, minor infractions shouldn't result in something she doesn't want to do.
And most importantly, if you fuck up, admit it, your sub will appreciate you 1000x more if you tell her when you are wrong.

Source: Prison Officer and a dominant.

>>18484730
Alright, so let's assume that was right. What'd be your excellent advice, suck it up and be a bitch for the rest of eternity just because hurr durr you don't have it?

I have the same problem. I'm very much a timid person even though I don't look it (I'm 6'4 and have an athletic build from playing sports). I'm a submissive person sexually and in daily life and don't know how to go about changing this or if I can change it. I've tried watching male dom porn and I literally cannot get hard.

It's something I'm quite ashamed about honestly and makes me question if I'll be alone my whole life :/

>>18485270
>being 100% responsible for your actions and for how others are acting towards you and making no excuses

This. I've done it for a while and people are genuinely surprised when I tell them I grew up with social anxiety.

>>18486528
You fake it till you make it. You have to create a dominant alter ego, and imagine what would that person do in that situation. Then just copy what he does