Female Friendship Problem

>>18484286
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I know on some level I'm definitely to blame. A friendship is a give and take, and while all my other close friends are fine with us not talking for 6+ months, she needs daily interaction. But at the same time, I would purposely not reply to some of her messages because I found her messages to be extremely toxic and creepy. She would wait for me to come online (before I figured out how to hide my status) and start saying "hey I know you're here stop ignoring me. stop ignoring me. why are you ignoring me." I've also been going through some major mental shit which led to a couple breakdowns and two hospitalizations and I cut off all social contact which she didn't understand. We also have a mutual friend group wherein there is a group chat that I am in but she isn't (once again on paper we are complete opposites and our friend group is more NEET/social autists and she's the outlier) and she would ask them if I had messaged them constantly/ask what I was talking about. Right before she blocked me she actually went through a friends phone to see when I was last online/when I had last chatted in the group chat which I just found completely over the line.

It's basically a conflict of me understanding I was a shit friend but at the same time I think she is pretty dependent and becomes unhealthily obsessed with me to the point of stalker qualities. I want to keep the friendship alive because we have great memories together but I'm not moving back home any time soon and clearly online we have a shit relationship. What should I do? Should I attempt to salvage the friendship?

You can't really do something about it. You can only talk to her (in person if possible) and explain to her that she means much to you, that you still value the friendship high but that you can't change yourself for her and that her behaviour will eventually lead to break up.

But in the 2nd part thats sounds pretty fucked up so i don't know if you can do something. I mean you can try to spend time with her, and talk more to her online than you like because she goes through a hard time but that could just make it worse

>>18484303
Yeah I'd love to meet up with her when I'm in town. I feel like I'm much better at explaining myself in person by I feel like she's just going to say something like "No don't talk to me" and then either message our mutual friends constantly or just be passive aggressive to me. idk.