Is porn considered 'cheating'?

Sounds like a bitch, I know you won't break up with her, so here is my advice. Watch it in secret. If you are too moral for that, then you are shit out of luck, my friend.

>>18463955
I would assume having the real thing would suffice. Watching porn can be seen as you thinking your partner is not good enough

2D should be out of your life once you find a 3D.
Friendly reminder that gf is for losers who can't download the porn.

Why not watch porn together? Or when you do watch imagine its her. Also not watching porn or holding in sperm will give you A better orgasm. A lot of great husbands watch porn and still love their wife more. She is moralfagging.

kek I'm a virgin and I'd drop porn any day for the real thing. in fact I don't even like porn... I just fap to average girls on cam4
anyway, wouldn't you feel uncomfortable if she masturbated to muscular chads with big dongs?

Maybe say it's because you don't want to bother her with your urges at inconvenient times.

There is not inherently anything wrong with watching porn if you want to. But there are alot of disadvantages of doing it while you are in a long term commited relationship. And since your gf doesnt want you to watch it, thats even more of a better reason to try to give it up for a while and see if your sex life improves.
That being said, just talk more to your gf and see why she sees it as cheating. She might have some jealosy, self esteem, and control issues as the underlying problem.

>>18463963
We did once and she sees no problem with that.
>>18463965
Yuh. She's been with other guys but I'm the biggest she's ever been with. That said, I'm super territorial.
>>18463961
Noted

>>18463979
I do believe it is the self esteem. she use to be skinny but got a bit fatter after the birth. I guess in the end her problems are my problems.

Do you have similar sex drives?

>Gf is mad and says that watching porn is sorta like cheating
She is wrong. It's not cheating. You have done nothing wrong but she is trying to shift the blame on you. It is unfair and a lack of respect. You should not accept this kind of thing in your relationship.

Yes, you can give up porn. Yes, some boyfriends give up porn and some don't. I am not saying which one you should pick. However I will say that if you DO give up porn then you are doing her a favor. This is important. If she wants a favor then she should ask for a favor. She should not be acting hostile, she should not be shaming you. It's the opposite. She should approach you in a good mood. She should say "please" and "thank you". She should admit that it's not cheating. She should apologize for shaming you. She should negotiate what she can offer in exchange. She should say it's fine if you want to keep masturbating to porn. In short it should be a conversation about her insecurity, not about your wrongdoing.

You may or may not decide to give up porn. I strongly recommend that you don't take any decision until she asks the correct way. Then, and only then, you can start to have a real discussion on the subject.

>>18463980
>We did once and she sees no problem with that.
You watched porn together in the past and now she got fatter and she says looking at porn is like cheating on her? Yikes.

Porn is cheating... Yes an no? It depends on your partner.
If my partner would tell me to stop watching, I probably would. (If she'll fulfill me emotionally/sexually, else I'd still watch porn but won't tell her I do)

>>18464006
She says it is when I do it alone. She had a kid before getting with me.

>>18464001
You sound like you've been through some shit. (Experienced)

>>18464001
>>18464001
This advice is nxt lvl. I urge you to really listen to this anon

>>18463955
its not cheating
that said, if one of her terms for continuing a relationship with you is that you dont watch porn, and you are aware of this, then you should be prepared for the fallout and she is justified in leaving you. its a silly thing to leave someone over in my opinion, but its her call. if i were you, i would be more concerned with the apparent lack of compatibility between you two

>>18463955
Is it cheating? No. Does it obviously upset your girlfriend a great deal? Yes.

> Is this just something men give up when a relationship gets serious?

I haven't, but some dudes do. It depends on the relationship, and the expectations of both people involved.

Time to decide if you like her more than porn.

>>18463965
>wouldn't you feel uncomfortable if she masturbated to muscular chads with big dongs?

No. Not at all. It's fantasy. And I'm secure enough to not be threatened by a fantasy.

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>>18463955
Real talk here

Okay so you have a gf yes? What if she did something that made YOU feel real shitty? You'd want her to stop. Just like she wants you to stop this behavior that makes her feel bad.

You're in a relationship now and that means that you will have to make sacrifices sometimes. You'll also have to decide whether the girl you're with is worth the sacrifice. Don't listen to the fags calling her a bitch for this. They are her feelings and from what the op says she isn't being an ass about it.

>>18464136
You're thinking rational, women don't. A woman will schlick to a long dong Chad and fall in love with it, which can lead to a break up. Don't forgett, women mix love and sex, men don't. If she schlick off often enought to her wet dream, she will be out there looking for something looking better/being more dominant/ etc than you. Females aren't rational beings for the most part. Equality is a phantasy. Many things a guy can do without problems (fucking around, getting a carrer and become a parent for example) are impossible to combine as a woman. Biology is a bitch.

t. female

>>18463955
You should not watch porn while in a committed relationship.

>>18464291
You should not watch porn.
/thread

>>18464312
>>18464291
gf pls go

>>18463955
Is watching GoT on Netflix is cheating because you find this woman attractive?

Come on dude. Watching porn and beautiful women is normal and healthy, even in a couple.

>>18463955
If you watxh porn in a relationship, for some girls that think they are good eneough its no problem. But if a girl doesnt feel very good about herself because she is not as hot as the porn girls, then its very hurtful. Because she obviously isnt satisfying enough and you want to watch other girls

>>18463955
how would you feel is she constantly looked up online pictures of big cocks?
it's kinda like that. You either don't give a shit or involuntarily think that your partner is unsatisfied with what you offer and that you will be subject to unfair comparisons.
You gf is obviously the latter, how you deal with this depends on how much you care about her

>>18464362
Until your dick doesnt work anymore in real life. Believe me. Its not healthy. My brother never really watched porn and apparently never has had any kind of problem. He is also more mature than me being the younger one. Fuck

>>18464022
Christ allmighty. Raising someone else's spawn and not allowed to watch porn. Good going!

>>18464380
Thanks for the anectdotal evidence.

>>18464380
Where were you going with this?

>>18464022
>getting involved with a whore
If her husband didn't die in war, illness or due to a not-selfcaused car accident, you better leave. Whores never change. She choose to let her kid grow up without a father for her selfish feelings/ picked a man which was trash. She is not to be trusted. Leave while you can or become another cucked beta or even a father to a kid you will never be allowed to see while paying alimony.

>>18464401
Woah guy. She had a kid at a young age. She hates the dude now but are civil. Never married. I too have a kid. Same story, verbatim. What's the children have to do with this matter?

>>18464412
>She had a kid at a young age.
>Never married.
Even worse. She fucked around and didn't even thought about using contraceptives. Got a child with some lowlife and now not being worth anything on the single market she tries to get a beta provider. Good lord, are you retarded. Also: I'm a female, I know the female psyche.

>What's the children have to do with this matter?
They are indicators about her personality. People don't change above a certain age. She was a whore and now tries to play a madonna because her stretched pusy is not worth much more for all those chads.

Congratulations on getting the left overs, anon.

>>18464418
noted (no sarcasm)

>>18463955
>Gf is mad and says that watching porn is sorta like cheating.
It isn't. That's just hyperbole to say that:
>Doesn't want me to want to pornography.

>Is this just something men give up when a relationship gets serious?
Some do, some don't, some don't have to make the choice because they don't date insecure women.

>I understand not all women feel this way but is she right?
There's no 'right' here. She feels bad when you watch porn. That's all she's saying.

>>18464399
I just think it fucks our sexual satisfaction up in real life

Buy her a vibrator. I did. She became even more upset.

>>18463955
"cheating" is whatever you agree that it is within your relationship.

If you never discussed porn, then I'd say you can't be reasonably expected to know that your gf considers it cheating. Now that you know, you can either stay with her or not. If you stay with her, porn is cheating. Unless you can convince her it's not (doubtful).

Personally I think she's out of her fucking mind, does not understand human sexuality, and needs to be dumped by everyone forever until she grows up.

>>18463955
No

allow me to clarify. she is moving in in a month. I work out of town for 4 days. I do not masturbate to pornography while she is at my house. she does not have a strong libido. I'm 6'1 175lbs and my dick is 10x2.75 inches

>>18464711
>Whether porn is cheating depends on your height and dick size

>>18464721
Does your mom know that you are using her phone?

>>18464726
Does your gf know you're on a taiwanese board for 2d porn?

>>18464806
>implying that I come here for porn

>>18464822
I didn't imply that at all, but a psycho gf would most likely not approve

>>18464238
>You're thinking rational, women don't. A woman will schlick to a long dong Chad and fall in love with it, which can lead to a break up

Reminder that there was a dude who posted on this board saying that he wanted to drop all his life plans to become a big shot movie maker and move to spain because he fell in love with some actress he just saw in a movie.

>>18463955
There are many men that feel insecure when their girlfriend use a vibrator, because they know that they will never be as good. And there are girls that feel insecure when their boyfriend watches porn out of the exact same reason.
Its not really cheating, because you are not actively interacting wirh another woman, but passively. So for some women it is cheating, because you are watching and getting off by other women. The thing is also that in porn, the women are more important then men, so most men in porn are unattractiveand while the girls are rare hot. If your girlfriend watches porn you wont really feel intimidated unless you have a small dick and your girl is into big dicks. That being said, imagine the men in porn would be as important as the women. They would be super hot,have big dicks and could move their body unbelievably sexy. A man that every girl would fuck just because he is damn hot. How would you feel if your girlfriend wants to watch them and wont stop even if it made you insecure, because youre just a regular guy with a normal body, dick?

>>18463955

Basically it all comes down to your GF feelings - she FEELS that porn is cheating. And, you can't tell someone they are wrong about their feelings no matter what anons say.

That being said, you can discuss your feelings on the issue and come to a compromise. You admitted there is a sex drive difference between the 2 of you. I am in the same boat with a wife that has a much lower drive than myself. So, suggest to her that you kick the porn habit BUT she makes every effort to satisfy your needs whenever reasonable. You are obviously looking at porn to fill a gap in the sex drive between the two of you. Let her know she needs to start filling that gap if she wants to make demands such as "no porn"

Try to be open and creative with coming up with a compromise - watch porn together to get her in the mood more often. Or, suggest she make some porn of herself for you to fap to when she's not in the mood.

Relationships are all about compromise and not dismissing your partner's feelings. Work together to make each other happy!

kek when i was a kid i found porn on my dad's computer and i freaked out because i thought watching porn was cheating on my mom

No but seriously, it's absolutely not cheating. Explain her that sometimes you need your own time by yourself, or maybe just watch it in secret

You could benefit from stopping watching porn though. It's kind of a bad habit

>>18464877
only reasonable post in this thread

Her feelings about porn being cheating are just as 'valid' and 'important' as your enjoying a wank every now and then.

An utterly important aspect about relationships is that you MUST make her feel secure enough that she brings this up in the first place. Don't mock her for this.

>>18464136

When people say stuff like this I wonder whether they've ever actually encountered the situation.

Often times I find out that they're just full of shit, especially when it comes to emotions, because they presume to have more control over their feelings than they actually do.

I wonder how you would ACTUALLY feel if you watched your girlfriend spontaneously strip down and schlick to a furious orgasm while being uncontrollably aroused when looking at BBC porn, in a way she hasn't ever reacted to you.

>>18464238
Okay, then it leads to a break up. Relationships end. You move onto the next one. If a woman thinks she's going to do better than me, she's welcome to go out and try and find out.

Why are people such insecure cunts?

Porn is nothing like cheating, and unless she's willing to put out at the drop of a hat 24/7, she's got no right to be angry with you for watching it.

>>18463955

Smash her bro.. wtf why do you need porn?

>>18464923
why are you such an arrogant piece of shit?

>>18464892
When people say shit like this I often wonder if they haven't had enough actual life experiences to realize none of that shit matters.

I don't have some compulsive need to be the only object of sexual desire in a woman's life. Nor do I need to be the biggest, and best cock she's ever had.

>>18464936
Obviously because I'm better than you.

girls have a different sexuality, but not getting along with your Sexuality most of the time stems from insecurities, to those insecurities there is a normal level of female insecurities, but acting on it is above average and is a red flag.

Tell her, that she is trying to make you stop a natural part of your sexuality, which hurts you, is against her long term interest to live a happy live with you and you would rather not stay in a relationship that does that. It's kind of like you would be not OK with hugging each other in a relationship, she could manage a relationship without it, but it would probably not feel good anymore, because she would think something was wrong with you. And this is the opposite of it.

>ex gets mad that I jack off to porn
>tells me that she finds it hard to see why I do it when I have her, that it makes her jealous
>only got to see her once or twice a week because of her work, only have sex once a week
>tells me it should be enough, even though I would love to have more time with her
>continues to tell me she finds it disgusting that I watch porn
>tell her that we should have more sex
>nothing changes from her end, go back to porn
>asks me why do it
I respond "look, it relieves stress, and I'm horny. I would happily stop if we had more sex. Fuck, it's like you straving the dog, then hitting the dog for being hungry. What the fuck?"
We broke up afterwards. To be honest, I'm better off now.
Funny thing, she told me afterwards that she wanted more sex from me. I was livid, but just shrugged it off.
Some people aren't worth the trouble. Sex is important to a relationship. Not the main part, but big. Hell, I would have been happy to comprise and cut back, but I got nothing in return.

Watch yourself OP. Stand your ground if need be. It's your cock, and your body. She doesn't want you wacking it and watching porn, well, she better offer up something.

>>18464418
He has a kid too cunt

>>18463955
It's not cheating, but it is really quite terrible for your brain. I have my own problems with it. I end up watching it about once a month even though I have daily sex with my live-in fiancee. Whenever I was single I used to watch porn daily. It's been really hard for me to kick. I kicked cigarettes cold turkey like it was nothing, but porn is harder for me to rid myself of completely.

She sounds like a fucking bitch, my girlfriend and I don't watch as much porn as we used to when we were younger, but we enjoy the occasional kinky hentai once in a while and not once has it ever occured to us that it's cheating.


That said, addiction is fucking terrible. It makes you act like a total sperg 24/7. Avoid that.

>>18464991
Yes i get that. If i was in a relationship and we hardly saw each other i would watch porn too. But its a different thing if you see each other daily and live together

>>18464991

WANTING more sex and actually having more sex are two different things. Yeah, I'm sure most people WANT to have more sex, even if its just to keep their partners happier, but it's hard to have sex and actually be good at it if it feels like a chore. The problem then is that it WILL become a chore unless it can be made more enjoyable somehow - and that requires effort on the part of the other partner as well.

Right now we only know your side of the story, but maybe there was a whole bunch of stuff you were/weren't doing that was lowering her physical attraction and/or maybe there were a bunch of external factors that affected it.

Long story short, there were obviously issues with the relationship, but you avoided it via porn.

>>18464418
>Also: I'm a female, I know the female psyche.

Suuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuure.

If she thinks porn is cheating she most likely thinks that feeling lust for any other woman is also cheating. This is how my ex was.

In the end she literally only wanted me to have eyes for her, and even thinking another woman was attractive was "like cheating".

The whole thing is retarded. Dump the bitch

No it is not cheating, your gf is a bitch.
But you should stop cucking yourself with porn.

>>18465322
>stop cucking yourself with porn.

What did he mean by this?

>>18465515
I guess she'd be happier being out of a relationship, than being with someone who keeps hurting her.

Maybe she doesnt have as much sex with you, because she is disgusted by the fact that you watch other girls have sex and jurk off to it.

>>18465631
Jerk off i mean

>>18464418
You're a lunatic